Support over Christmas period for WP members?

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It is harder than usual for me because I have severe PMT as well, so every little thing is triggering me to tears or to want to claw myself. I also really struggle with it when my mother and brother talk at the same time I am watching television or reading as I seem unable to process both kinds of noise and it builds this tension in my head. I also feel unsettled and when unsettled, even with plenty to do, I find I cannot focus and thus get bored.

PMT can be a b***h, that's for sure.. some people find that eating a high protein low sugar diet in the second half of the cycle helps tremendously. If this doesn't work for you, go to a doctor when they are open again and get your progesterone levels checked - low progesterone can be a cause, and is easily remedied. For now though, these solutions aren't immediately available to you, and the overload is stressing you out, which is understandable. I hope that after the demands of Christmas Day you can retreat to a calm quiet space and just lie still and let some of the tension go from from your face, shoulders and back particularly where the muscles tense up when the stress is too high and you can't focus. Nurture yourself as best you can, and get the rest you need. If you have some magnesium tablets, these may help the muscles release some tension, and they will help you sleep in a more relaxed way, so it's good to take them at bedtime. I hope the day gets better for you and that in the near future the PMT will get sorted and you can move on. Best wishes for getting through this stressful time. Hope Santa brings you something you really like.

If you are dreading Christmas alone, I hope these suggestions lift your spirits tomorrow (if you are in the Northern Hemisphere):

1) Make a list of all the people and animals that have loved you. Spend a little time with each one, recalling and re-experiencing the wonder of their love and how it touched your life and heart. That love is their gift to you for the rest of your life.

2) Eat some of your favourite foods, listen to your favourite music, wear your favourite clothes, and celebrate you.

3) Make another list of the nicest things anyone ever said to you, that moved you deeply. These things will still be true.

4) Look for another creature to give some loving care to. This may be putting food out for the birds, whatever is available for you to share with.

5) Write a letter to yourself about the things you have achieved in your life, and recognize the courage and
kindness in your heart. Include everything - being a good friend, helping someone in need, volunteering, painting a beautiful picture, fixing something.. everything.

6) Indulge in some creature comfort: a long bath with aromatic oils; using the stuff you might only keep for "best". Treat yourself as the best..

7) Phone people who you love and wish them peace joy and love - even if they are distant from you now. acknowledge their past importance to your life. (However leave out old girlfriends and boyfriends who are in new relationships).

Remember that you matter to your buddies on Wrong Planet, and send PMs to the ones you feel close to

9) Plan a dream that you will aim for in 2015, step by step - and visualise yourself moving through all those steps to the wonderful achievement you planned on Christmas Day 2014. Plan how you will celebrate the achievement.

10) Spend a few moments enjoying nature, in whatever form you can.

11) Remember that for all the awful things, this is still a beautiful world, there are still good people, and there is always hope for the future, even when you can't see or connect with it.

12) Bake some cookies or a cake and deliver it to a homeless shelter

13) Make a donation to your favourite cause - animals or whatever

14) If you have addictions problems, show up at a 12 step meeting (there are always meets on Christmas Day) - the relevant NA or AA websites give you times and places and contact numbers if you want to phone first and see if anyone could help with transport if you need it. Plan this in advance. Even if you have never been to a meeting before, you will be made welcome with sincerity.

15) If grief for loved ones who have passed on overwhelms you, phone a helpline for some grief support and just to discuss how that feels, or post online. Often it is at Christmas that past losses hit the hardest. Be prepared for this.

16) Make contact with anyone you know who has had a major loss in the past 3 months - and tell them you are thinking of them and you know that it can be very hard to face that first Christmas alone without the person or animal they have lost, so you hope that there will be some special things to brighten their day.

Please post more if you think of other suggestions to add to mine.

All the best for Christmas Day. Peace be with you.

Yep. Burnt my past. Donated lots of things to charity too. Only want enough stuff to fit in my car. Leaving the furniture. Don't want it. Feel almost happy today. Too much to burn in one night. I got tired so another bonfire tonight.

Astonishingly well. Burnt/got rid of so much stuff weighing me down. New person. Kept my guitars, although don't need three + amplifier. Any ideas? Still have grandad's clock. Would like to burn it but maybe toxic haha. Burnt photos/albums, books, stuff I wrote/poetry, diaries, research material (shedloads), UFOs (again, shedloads), paintings/artwork I did, school work, work crap, baskets, anything wooden, anything flammable, practically everything in my filing cabinet except birth certificates and such etc, etc. Woo hoo!
Christmas was perfect. Rice bubbles are a treat. Don't usually eat that kind of thing so was special for me lol. Family came home today. Will celebrate New Years. Love to everyone.
f**k yeah

Theeeennn, working New Year's Eve (at a new bar) w/ potentially a few hundred people if the place fills up.. buuut after that's all over, at the end of the night as long as the roads are good I plan to drive the kite beach in Squamish and take all of the documents from my Human Rights Tribunal case this past year that recently wrapped up and torch 'em in a little ceremonial fire to put that chapter of my life behind me permanently and move on & forward with new, bigger, better, happier things in 2015. There's nothing quite like a little cleansing by fire… and I've never really done that, ever, so it should be a nice way to create some final closure & move on with life.