Autistic Person has Tried to Kill because he's a Virgin

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I do believe a lot of these cases of random violence could have been prevented if sexual frustration in people with disabilities is taken more seriously. Sexuality is often seen as an attained luxury by those without disabilities which in the long run can be quite dehumanizing after countless of rejections and ridiculizations. Any attempt to seek help or advice is met with not being taken seriously or being seen as having a false sense of entitlement. The average human can deal with this or gets depressed, but those very few with severe mental disorders completely lose it when the combination of social isolation and sexual frustration drives them over the edge.

Especially social isolation can be an issue, which is one of the causes of the high suicide rate among people with autism. I wish treatment would focus more on improving living conditions and helping making social connections rather than about handing out pills that block negative feelings. At least in what I have experienced treatment is extremely inadequate in actually helping with the problems I have faced and still face. I realize some people really need antidepressants to function but I still feel like they are handed out too easily to people with autism as an easy way to hide symptoms and to mask emotions. Many SSRIs are notorious for making people emotionally numb and altering their moral judgement.

It's too bad this kid didn't realize that there are plenty of people out there looking to hookup for NSA sex. Obviously he had an internet connection. He should have spent some time figuring out how to use it to get laid. Failing that, even though it's entirely not my thing AT ALL, there is always the option of hiring a professional… but yeah, this guy was nuts or his mind wouldn't have gone into murder mode over this - especially at 17.. it's not like he was 70 and lived a long sexless life or anything.

Anyways, yeah, if anyone's feeling a slight bit murderous because they're a virgin.. find some willing participant to hookup with and get it over with instead of getting all stabby stabby with a knife.

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While I in no way condone what this guy did, and I do hope he gets the help he needs, I can relate to his frustration. It is too bad that we now live in a culture (and have for a while) where the main measure of whether a male is a success or not is based on the number of sexual experiences or relationships he has had. I wasn't very good at relationships for a long time either. I went several years without a date while in graduate school. It made me so depressed that I attempted suicide over it once.

Finding a sexual partner or a hookup isn't very easy for those of us who have poor social skills. I didn't know at the time that I had Asperger's. I watched all of my friends get into relationships and at the time didn't realize that I couldn't read social cues like they could, or that I didn't know most of the rules for social exchanges. I didn't know that during this time period (1985-1996) females had still been socialized to let the men do all the asking out, and that they were just supposed to flirt to let us know that we were supposed to ask them out. Even if I did know that, it wouldn't have mattered because I couldn't read the flirtation signals anyways.

The only thing that I could conclude was that I must be extremely unattractive, because I couldn't have what everyone else had. I have now been married for 15 years to a wonderful, attractive woman, but those feelings still come up a lot. It is very hard to go through life constantly being told by the media that you are a loser because you aren't bedding a different woman every night-in fact you aren't bedding any women at all. Those feelings are very hard to get away from after you do get into a relationship.

Maybe someday our country will get sane again and realize that there is more to success than sex, but I doubt it.

virgin at 17?! hahahaha what a loser. no im just kidding. At 17, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. This guy must have had some crazy ass hormones combined with an intense interest in women combined with some sort of mental disorder combined with violent tendencies combined with anger at women rejecting him. Thats a recipe for disaster.

Some jail time ought to knock some sense into him. I would say he needs therapy as well but the jail systems are crap they don't even offer therapy to inmates cuz it's too expensive. No wonder theres a lot of repeat offenders because a lot of people who do stuff like this either have mental issues/disorders or some other kind of issue and its left untreated.

This dude probably isn't having a happy life. It won't get much better once he gets out. You go to jail, you screw yourself over. I wish him the best of luck. He's definitely gonna need it. Hopefully he will look back at this and be like what the hell was I thinking?

Professor John wrote: "While I in no way condone what this guy did, and I do hope he gets the help he needs, I can relate to his frustration. It is too bad that we now live in a culture (and have for a while) where the main measure of whether a male is a success or not is based on the number of sexual experiences or relationships he has had".

I don't live in a culture that does that, and I don't know anyone who defines success for a man in that way. And how would I know how many sexual experiences anyone else has had? Unless they chose to tell me, which would be pretty weird immature behaviour and I would be rapidly moving in the opposite direction, as this would be a strong signal that such a person had no concept of boundaries and disclosing highly personal information of a sexual nature to define yourself would be a red light to any woman I know...

You should check out USA TV and media sometimes. That is all they talk about.