Are you Asexual?

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If I notice her I will certainly see if she's beautiful. But I'm not sure if it will be on a malicious way as I see others guys at my age doing all the time.
As an example a few weeks ago I was at the mall with my brother and he was with a small group of friends. They said something about almost EVERY woman that passed through us, commenting about how hot or not hot she was. It was like, if they see a woman they immediately think of them in a sexual way and I'm certainly not like that. If I was alone there i wouldn't have barely noticed anyone since I would be ultra distracted thinking about something else.
That's why I said that this is confusing for me. When I think about my future I do want to get married, have kids and stuff like that and I even had a crush for a girl when I was younger at school, but at the same time I do not feel this urge that I see that others males have.

I would be like dayum gurl.

Late into this conversation, but.....

Yes Im very Asexual. I just don't think about it honestly. Im writing code, or playing something, or whatever, and it doesn't even cross my mind really. I get accused constantly of "not being interested" or "are you gay or something?"

I doubt "asexuality" is even a thing, cause humans all naturally want to have sex. If we didn't, the species couldn't survive obviously.

I have no interest in sex or romance. Never did. Hopefully never will.

Are you suggesting that nobody is gay or bi, by analogy? Because if everyone were gay, we wouldn't be able to survive, either. Let's not even touch the possibility of having sex for procreation without necessarily having sexual urges.

You're discounting our existence because we don't fit into your limited and unimaginative pidgeonhole regarding sexual attraction. Virtually every sexual behavior and orientation that we have a name for has been observed amongst animals, including asexuality (and no, I'm not talking about asexual reproduction, but lack of interest in sex). I suggest you expand your horizons, because we're very much real, and at the very least I don't like being dismissed and put into preconcieved boxes.

Here's a start: http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/10/5-myths-and-misconceptions-about-asexuality/. Educate yourself.

I used to identify as asexual, but I got tired of focusing on it as a main part of my identity. Now I identify as a lesbian because I am homo-something and it's close enough, but honestly, I've still never been sexually attracted to anybody. If I'm ever interested, I'll figure it out when I get to it, but if that never happens, I now know it's fine to be asexual and there are other ways to have relationships.

Sometimes, I wish I was asexual.

I might have gotten more done in my life! LOL

Post is either troll-post, or ignorant.

I am most certainly not asexual, if anything I am hyper-sexual. I just came off a very pleasant encounter with hubby thinking "how can other Aspies not seek, want, enjoy, love and desire this? It's pleasure waaaaaay beyond stimming!

I do think about how much I want enough that it distracts me sometimes. I got a crank call once, a woman pretending to be an escort service worker, trying to tell me I wasn't enough for hubby. I just had to laugh because I know my libido is more than he can handle. So there really would be no point to him looking for satisfaction elsewhere, especially if he had to pay for it.

But I won't claim to speak for other Aspie women, Aspies, or anyone on the spectrum but myself. I have this theory that Aspies tend toward the extremes, though; either little-to-no interest in sex because of the germs, mess, no-touchy-please-ness, or lack of desire for social intimacy; or extremely interested due to sensory-seeking issues.

I've been called a nymphomaniac by more than a few people. But only with two partners my whole life--MyEx and hubby. If I weren't a Christian believer in Biblical sexual morality, though, I would probably be a terrible slut.

I'm not quite Asexual, I do have some attractions to women, but I'm a very passive individual when it comes to my sexuality. I'm in no way aggressive. I've never chased women. No one would ever know if I was attracted to them, partially by my choice. I won't act for others unless they seek me out, then it was their choice. I still feel like a burden to other people.

I'm a little bit asexual. I rarely feel horny, but do feel attractions to people. If I like someone I do let them know, like finding excuses to talk to them, give tons of compliments. I have no subtlety when it comes to affections and love. Hmm, I have no subtlety when it comes to other topics either. Always direct and blunt. If people can't take it, that's too bad.

It's better than pitchforks!

No, however I have problems with PTSD, anxiety about starting sex/transition and apparently "I would like to have sex with you." (to my wife) is far too formal.

There's a term I've not heard in a while. Ace! I think it's ace that you're ace!

I didn't realize how many Asexuals there were around I thought I was one of very few!

Oh wow!! ! I don't think I've heard the term Asexual before, but now that I've read this topic and Googled it, I think it's one of the two greatest sources of strife in my marriage!

I do have a libido, but also prefer to take care of business myself whereas my wife must be bordering on nymphomania.

We've been married for 3 years now and I must say, it does seem to be getting better. Most recently we started a points system whereby we can each earn "bedroom points". I won't go into too much detail and we're still busy refining the idea (which my wife got from a book), but I, being the Aspie, seem to respond well to the points system and my wife seems happy to be able to get what she wants, even if she has to work for it:)

I am and I have never met another asexual in real life :/

I compliment lots of girls and tell them how beautiful they are, so lots of people think I'm a lesbian (geez, I just think she looks really pretty!)