I forbid my son to stim - am I bad?

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Sounds like my Dad. He always said I was wierd and tried to suppress my aspie traits. I hated him for it, and I haven't seen him in years. He can f**k off as far as I am concerned.

Bearing in mind folks that the mum who initially posed the question obviously cared enough to ask...

I can well understand that an caring NT mum of an Aspie boy would try to prevent him stimming. She was probably concerned about the impact it would have on him socially, if other children teased him for flapping. NT's only know why stimming is important when it's explained, otherwise it just looks like a kid being silly and 'not sitting still and behaving'.

I just see these replies as being honest. The topic is "I forbid my son to stim - am I bad?" Reading the topic, it seems she is asking a bunch of Aspies to judge her character based on her methods of dealing with her son. Now if she asked these things on ASPartners, they would probably tell her she is wonderful, her son is bad and that she should send her son to boot camp and if that didn't help put him up for adoption before he hits puberty.

I don't think SHE is bad, but I don't think her methods of dealing with Aspie traits are good either. Many would argue that they may even be abusive. http://www.scn.org/autistics/abuse.html

exactly. he might turn to self injury or something if he is ridiculed or punished for his stimming. stimming is a healthy coping mechanism unlike self injury. who cares what the other kids in school think? make him feel accepted at home at least. but i agree with the others. together with your kid, you could try to think of other ways for him to stim less noticeably in public, so he won't get teased by other kids - as long as the new stims help him as much as what he is doing now.

stimming is very important and healthy. it might be "weird" but being weird isn't something a person should be punished or scolded for. that will only traumatize him and crush his self esteem. i still have trauma about some stims i used to do because of the shame i felt. i don't know what part that played with me becoming a cutter later, but i can say that i never felt as ashamed of cutting myself as i did for flapping my hands. what's wrong with that picture?

Thats kind of alright but you should let him do it sometimes because it gets red of his bad behavior normally.
so it's alright at home BUT... Let him express his feelings wherever he is cause I bet he isn't popular like I wasn't that much at school anyway,
But if it interupts him when doing his homework set another time for his homework
BUT... remember to gradually get him used to it.
Don't let him end up like ME!
I'm only 13 and only get on with other ppl with disabilities NO one else.