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09 Sep 2015, 4:36 pm

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I'm demisexual, too

I had to look this up to figure out what demisexual was. So let me get this straight if you have a very sexy women dancing naked infront of you, you wouldn't have any kind of...ahhh.... urge's?

I know that sometimes the crushing loneliness of never being able to get a date just completely unplugs all emotion.
I have to make my brain go flatline so I don't get horribly depressed because I will never get to actually have sex with that very sexy woman. If she's not a stripper who working people over for cash, then she's just being friendly, as soon as they talk to me they lose interest.

At least for me, it's the lack of success in the sex arena that has made me less than enthusiastic.

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09 Sep 2015, 6:22 pm

Strictly heterosexual!

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09 Sep 2015, 7:13 pm

pete1061 wrote:

Crazyfool wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

I'm demisexual, too

I had to look this up to figure out what demisexual was. So let me get this straight if you have a very sexy women dancing naked infront of you, you wouldn't have any kind of...ahhh.... urge's?

Man, I that's hard to imagine that lack of a sexlife would lead to only feeling a sense of sexual attraction after an emotional connection. Does that mean that even things like porn aren't arousing for someone who is demisexual?

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09 Sep 2015, 7:18 pm

Aristophanes wrote:

It's pleasurable, but a lot of other things are pleasurable to me too and they don't require a litany of illogical interactions and power games to experience.

This is what I detest about so many sexual relationships...
The mind fracking that is part of...err...fracking...

I have reached the point where I can't tolerate that nonsense any longer...
Abstinence is the best option after the pros and cons are considered...
Well at this stage, at least...
And yes, the double entendre was intentional...

Things were simpler 50 years ago...
You had "AC"...
You had "DC"...
And you had "AC/DC"...

There are so many sexual permutations these days...
Where did all you sexual deviants/mutants come from...<joke> :mrgreen:

Conclusion:
Sex is a fracking joke...

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09 Sep 2015, 9:31 pm

Well actually back then everything was marginalized between hetero and homo. And you simply called people who are nowadays "asexual" simply disinterested or unwilling. Nowadays you can come out without fear of social repercussions.

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10 Sep 2015, 12:19 am

Crazyfool: of course I'd be aroused by a dancing naked woman. But I'm really into intellect. I once went wild over a woman talking economics.

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10 Sep 2015, 12:29 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

Crazyfool: of course I'd be aroused by a dancing naked woman. But I'm really into intellect. I once went wild over a woman talking economics.

I have a friend like that...
He has a thing for Madeleine Albright and he is only 44...
I had though he was odd, but after reading some of these posts I realise he is normal by comparison...
<still joking guys>... :mrgreen:

I must say, this thread has been an eye opener for me...

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10 Sep 2015, 3:04 am

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Crazyfool: of course I'd be aroused by a dancing naked woman. But I'm really into intellect. I once went wild over a woman talking economics.

Ok, I didn't mean anything by it, I was just honestly curious what being demisexual entailed. I think a lot of guys are turned on by intellectual women or at least turned off by the "ditzy valley girl" type, I know I can't stand that. I just didn't think they put a name on being attracted to a women's intellect. To me it's just another ingredient in the chemistry.

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10 Sep 2015, 3:09 am

If someone stripped naked in front of me and started dancing I think I'd run in the opposite direction personally.

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10 Sep 2015, 4:34 am

Crazyfool wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

I'm demisexual, too

I had to look this up to figure out what demisexual was. So let me get this straight if you have a very sexy women dancing naked infront of you, you wouldn't have any kind of...ahhh.... urge's?

to me, yes and no.

I'd get these "urges" if a sexy woman danced for me alright, but i won't see a woman as "sexy" unless i was already emotionally involved with her.

Now, sure, i can see woman as being "pretty", "hot" and "attractive" as per societal standards, but those labels don't do anything to me without emotional attraction, and if i'm emotionally attracted, her body 'label' becomes a lot less important

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10 Sep 2015, 5:51 am

I really am a Whirling Dervish. If a Tasmanian Devil Lady started flirting with me, I would find it hard to resist.

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10 Sep 2015, 8:57 am

I tried to live a hetero lifestyle for 23 years (and had one daughter - yuck) but wound up sleeping on the lounge (by choice) for the last 7 years of it! She was a beautiful person (mentally) but the sex just creeped me out!

I'm Asexual! And now I'm free, have NOOOOO desire to go there EVER AGAIN!

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10 Sep 2015, 11:00 am

I'm definitely a heterosexual male.

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10 Sep 2015, 4:44 pm

Crazyfool wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

I'm demisexual, too

I had to look this up to figure out what demisexual was. So let me get this straight if you have a very sexy women dancing naked infront of you, you wouldn't have any kind of...ahhh.... urge's?

Leaving aside my rudeness for criticizing the poll the way I did (for which I am sorry), I realize I should not have placed demisexual as a sexuality. It's a preference, or perhaps a defense or adaptation. It's never been shown to have an innate, biological underpinning. My guess is that it will someday be placed into the "Nurture" category of causes.

Biologically speaking, people have male-attracted brains (& pheromone receptors, etc.), female-attracted ones, every blend of the two possible, or some or all attributes charting out as NULL. And that makes sense. As a species, we have sex-dimorphic parts and attributes that when grouped together roughly allow categorizing as "male" or "female" (with many blended variations). To posit a third sex, "trusted/connected" doesn't make sense in that specific context.

But I have to wonder if it isn't more of a modifier, as there are people who are attracted to men *and* are demi, and others who are attracted to women *and* are demi...etc.. Doesn't make demisexual any less real as a preference or exclusive attraction, just shows that our language is really sloppy (just like my original thread comment). Especially since the root, 'demi-' means half or partial.

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10 Sep 2015, 4:49 pm

Crazyfool wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

I'm demisexual, too

I had to look this up to figure out what demisexual was. So let me get this straight if you have a very sexy women dancing naked infront of you, you wouldn't have any kind of...ahhh.... urge's?

Bingo. Man, woman or blend. I can appreciate that they are attractive, but there's no 'urge' at all until I trust or have a close relationship with them. I have certainly said to myself, "Mmmm, I could so be attracted to her", but that's somehow different, like a piece is missing. And after a ton of introspection I don't think that it is - for me anyway - a matter of a defense, a protection against past harm, etc.. It could be, but that doesn't feel right if I'm honest with myself. Feels more like being sexually attracted to *us* rather than just their body. Physical intimacy is only one type of melding.

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10 Sep 2015, 4:52 pm

Bisexual, but with a heterosexual preference.

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