Do you ever think you give the 'creep' vibe?

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I do this all the time when I try chatting with people online. It happens with both men and women too.

I'm either in the creepzone or the pity zone.

I've been told this at work and have been treated badly by colleges. Often female workers will complain there's 'something about me they cant put their finger on' and have no problems treating me as such. Of course all male workers will always defend females so immediately I'm the work outcast. I also get a lot of issues with male colleges too. It was the reason my last full time job only lasted 6 months. I just wasn't liked no matter what I did. Kind of hurts.

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About the 'fake charmer's' N.T. thing - I think most N.T.'s ARE aware of it, depending on the situation.

For instance, there are many job fields were portraying a polite, friendly and social exterior is necessary - you'll see the fake charmer types commonly in the Tourism field, for instance; but they exist in many others.

N.Ts are aware but don't dwell on it.


If, however, you are talking about when it comes to friendships, and you see a lot of superficial charmer's finding social success, than I can see what people here mean when they believe N.T's are blind to it.

Back in high school I knew two sociopaths at different schools/times who revealed to me and only me that he has sociopathic thoughts. He said he can shut off his emotions like a switch, has no empathy or concern for other human beings, and has dark thoughts of actually hurting/murdering people in his head who make him angry or annoy him, and apparently most people did, including his friends. They both 'hated' everyone.

Now, I'm not sure if he was telling the truth or not, but I wouldn't understand why anyone would joke about those things. They both had very tense personality at times and clearly needed help.

Anyway, they both had a confident, charming exterior which made him extremely popular, had an extremely high number of friends across various grades, many relationships, etc. all because he could hide that side around others. In class he would even joke about his sociopathy, actually 'joking' about murder and such and could get away with it due to his confident execution of it. Coincidentally, they were both a part of my Math's class.

They were both very interested in psychology.

So I don't know how they do it.

This has made me wonder just why it seems that sociopaths are perfectly fine with revealing their inner thoughts to usually me and only me and no one else.

Maybe it's an analytical thing - the first one did guess that I would be comfortable with all the things he told me and for the most part I was. The second one must have as well to reveal the things he did as if it wouldn't phase me.

The fact that I am completely comfortable with sociopaths revealing themselves to me makes me wonder what made me so different to them than others...if anything I'd even be comfortable with befriending sociopaths and was a good acquaintance to them both. They both didn't mistreat me and the second they did I could easily stand-up for myself to them and make them stop immediately.

So, do I give off the creep vibe?

I'd think maybe so.

In Australia most people my age usually go around either in pairs or groups.

Teenagers already look suspicious, untrustworthy, etc. when together, but a lone teenager going about their day solo just intensifies this.

Maybe when I'm a young adult, I'd be fine, but at my current age, it just doesn't look right.

I have anxiety but try to still present myself as fearless. Usually my face will just be neutral which is misinterpreted as aggressive by people it seems. I walk relatively normal.

Once i finally reach a destination e.g. the shops I will actually smile lightly and walk relatively confident, but I still think this doesn't come across the right way.

This is one of those times where I'd say 'it's not me, it's them' as I do nothing to come across wrongly, like Derpy.

I think it's my age more than anything. My style of dress makes no difference (sometimes I'll go out like in my profile picture).

What i've just realized is ironic, is the fact I have no fear of sociopaths, yet I have public anxiety due to the inherent selfishness and aggressiveness of 'the bid scary real world', when most of these people AREN'T sociopaths but normal people.

Yes I myself have questioned if I am a sociopath or developing into one many times before. I rarely feel empathy or concern for most other human beings. This might just be normal as most people don't care about other people, and humanity is selfish. Another thing is while I do have subjective morals, I don't believe there is an objective 'good' or 'evil' and 'right' or 'wrong'. For instance I don't believe Hitler was good nor evil because I simply don't believe in that stuff. I don't think 'murder' is 'wrong', as it depends on the situation (e.g. is executing a criminal wrong? In times of war, when it's be or be killed, is it wrong for you to murder the other person, because if you did not take action, they would have, resulting in someone dying in the end anyway.). Anyway most people would find my coldness 'sociopathic'. Like I said I have subjective/personal morals, but still think my personal morals are only personal and not inherently 'true'. I believe factually, there are no right or wrong morals. People are quick to assume if I say I believe 'murder, råpe, torture' etc. aren't 'wrong', that I would actually be interested in acting on them (hint: I'm not) or that I condone other people doing these things. Again, I'm not, but believe they will always happen due to human nature.

So I relate to sociopaths in that aspect, though even the second sociopath I met said those things were 'wrong'.

I don't think I am because I still feel many emotions especially care for my family, I think perhaps it's just cold hard logical thinking.

But, at the same time, over the years I've developed the 'superficial charm' ability like sociopaths do and enjoy putting on the act to come across as charismatic, and like I said it's still odd how sociopaths are so comfortable confiding in us.

Both of the sociopaths claimed to have that ability to supposedly analyze other people and probably picked-up I was either 'one of them' or just would be comfortable with them.

I very much dislike the dishonest and avoidant personalities of most people. Most people are selfish I believe and do just do whatever polite little white lies they can to get out of situations to avoid difficulties.

I liked these sociopaths because they were actually honest and open with me, and I am also an open and honest person. Tbh I felt more comfortable they revealed their want to physically hurt me than those that just keep it hidden.

^^^my college psych prof described people who described themselves thusly, not as antisocial but as dissocial, the subset of antisocial personality disorder that gangsters tend to have. they have honor among their own kind but not to "civilians" [people not like themselves].

I'm very much the avoidant type. I give off some type of vibe, usually the reverse psychology type where even though I look closed off, I get a lot of attention. I've been called weird before due to making random pointless comments a lot, but not sure if creep is the word.


I explain my intentions to people, and tell them that this is how I am. If they don't like me they don't have to be around me. I make a point never to start caring about someone else until they accept me. Believe it or not, people have stuck around.

I do that also, if something [like, for example, the sight of somebody with their fly open] distracts me while I am talking to somebody, I am prone to saying something like, "ok, I will get your fly closed by tomorrow."