Why is there so much drama on these forums?

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I think a lot of drama is caused when someone makes a general statement and people act like it is being directed at them personally. So instead of addressing the subject that was brought up and attacking it, they instead make personal attacks against the person who said whatever. Then it just becomes a mud slinging party.

It is because autistic people, as well as neurotypicals, frequently have strong egos. Autistic people are not exempt from being human. They, too, do not want to give in. They don't want to throw in the towel. They don't want to raise the white flag in surrender. They want to have the last word.

Throwing in the towel comes from boxing. If a fighter's manager feels that his fighter cannot continue with the bout, he actually throws in the towel--or at least they did so in past days.

This brings out the worst in people sometimes. When they want to be seen as right, they use rhetorical techniques (e.g., name calling, cherry-picking). In cherry-picking, they frequently quote the other contestant in the argument out of context. The contestants create strawmen, sometimes out of thin air, sometimes indirectly/spuriously connected to the point they want to make.

In real life, I would bet most participants in arguments are fine people. Within the argument, though, they become Social-Darwinist brutes.

I have been noticing a lot of locked threads around here lately so that does indicate drama.

I think overall there is less drama here than on a lot of forums. That being said there is still some drama, and there are still locked threads sometimes, you can even see one in this forum category on the 1st page at this time.

I don't think the "It's an autism forum, so there's going to be drama because of black-and-white thinking" holds much water. Has anybody been to Aspies Central? There's so little drama there that it's borderline boring at times.

Empathy, your posts do not parse well, and often seem unrelated to the thread topic. Is English not your first language?

I think we’d all be having kittens if you were not a respectable veteran on the forum wouldn’t we?
You could change your last will and testament if being here isn’t what you were once used to.

If I wanted to ask about the language of my elders, I don’t think I’d rely on your moral support.
You can’t question my language skills, when you’ve offered no supportive testament to justify your actions.

The only person I see creating all the drama is you. (some people have enough in their daily lives).
If this forum can’t offer its support, then arguments need to be calmed down so that they are not prolonged.
I’d rather practice on my own beliefs then follow into a pattern of reformed opinion making.
Goading others into rapid thought decline is not only pitiful but its also in poor taste.
You spend all your week finding fault, and then when there is a genuine crisis you seem to suggest that its that persons responsibility who’s posted it in the first place.
People don’t respond well when mocked. I sure don’t.

I would merely suggest to postpone the drama, as I would like a personal masseuse to ease the stress off this tension building forum.