Anyone else never been clubbing before?

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Nope. Never been clubbing before and I'm not interested in the very least. Personally, I prefer to go to a Trading Card Game gameplay place rather than hanging out with a bunch of drunken people acting like fools in a really loud place.

I've seen something approaching that in the Deep South of the USA. The music is kind of limited to gospel and country, but if you don't mind that, it can be quite good.

I know it's easier said than done, Joe90, but try not to feel bad or embarrassed about never having been out partying and clubbing and bar-hopping. It's something a lot of people have done at least once but I'm sure there are plenty of people in the world who never have and never had the inclination. Don't let anyone make you feel weird because of that.

If anyone in your life says something mean or looks at you funny if you tell them you've never been clubbing, just say something about liking to spend your time doing something you like to do, and that not everyone likes the same things in life. On the other hand, really you don't owe anyone an explanation, now that I think about it.

It's easy to for me to say that, and not so easy for you to just cease to be concerned about this, I know. But truly, it's only one activity, and one that not everyone likes, and it's okay for you not to have ever wanted to do it. I've never been skiing, surfing, been to a rave, or gone bungee jumping. If anyone queries you, just stand your ground and say it hasn't interested you in the least little bit, and change the subject.

I would just stay home and play monopoly or something, or watch a good British comedy.

That's what I should have done when I went "clubbing" when I was about 21. The only good thing about "clubbing" was that I got to shoot a few good games of pool.

Sadly, yes, I have been to a club about twice, roughly 20 years ago. Talk about a sensory nightmare! Ye gods. The music is sooo loud, which I cannot handle. A problem because these days, most retail stores are also playing loud music!? Also, before we had a local smoking ban, the whole place reeked and it was nearly impossible to breathe. Clothes you were wearing were essentially ruined by it. Flashing lights are a common thing, too, and people everywhere, some of whom will randomly bump or touch you. I ended up there because I had two NT friends who like to go and convinced me it would be 'fun'. so crazy. I did discover that I cannot dance, though I did try. I just need and enjoy much more sedate, intellectual pursuits.

Yeah I guess I just love music and dancing so much that I don't really notice other people. In fact, I got into dancing in the first place because it's the one thing that's really helped me to let loose and not care so much what people think of me. Dancing is the only time I can tune out other people and just focus on myself - because I've learned that drunk people at clubs and concerts really don't care what I dance like anyways (the only problem is fighting off the weirdos who try to "grind" on me). It gives the freedom to let loose. I had a friend in High School that I also suspect is aspie, who would always attend the school dances (even though he's not the type you would expect to) and whip out these absolutely ridiculous dance moves like one that he called the "flopping fish" (he would lay down on the ground and start flopping around) and people all around would stop and just stare at him but he didn't care. Maybe that's where my ideology on dancing comes from lol, God bless that kid.

But yeah, festivals are much better than clubs, frankly. Even actual concerts are better than your typical nightclub. Usually with a festival or concert, you know what type of crowd the music is going to draw, so it makes things easier. At nightclubs, there's a lot of random drunk weirdos who show up. It's also easier to talk to people at a festival because for one, most of them are the nicest people you'll ever freakin' meet, and for two, there's a lot more opportunity to escape the loud music and actually talk to people.

But also, for the record, I seem to be pretty good at socializing compared to other ASD/HFA people, so it could be it just comes easier to me. I've been lucky to have found friends throughout my life who have understood me for who I am and helped to bring me out of my shell. I do, however, tend to have one or two friends that I like to "cling" to when I go out. I call it "lost puppydogging." I told a guy I was seeing that if he took me to the club I would "lost puppydog" him all night... and I did.

I thought about going to a music festival Sunday morning. 100% gospel music.

well if i believed in reincarnation, and i consider that i once may have been a neanderthal, i imagine i would have gone out clubbing among the cro-magnons quite often.
but i do not believe in reincarnation, so i believe i have never been clubbing.

i did go clubbing several times back in high school. i liked to get drunk, and i liked to dance to the music like a crazy person while i was drunk and ignoring everyone around me, but all other things about it were just depressing, sometimes very depressing. like "what am i even doing here", which is never a pleasant thought to have, especially when you're drunk. i also went to a rock concert once, with friends that i liked, to see bands that i liked, but still, it was one of the worst experiences of my life. the only thing it was good for was for me to finally understand how i really don't like anything like that. "never again". my headphones are infinitely better

i don't miss that, i wouldn't ever want to do it again, and i don't think i would have missed out on anything if i had never done it. if i eventually meet a girl and i happen to be interested in her and it turns out that she's into clubbing, that alone would probably make me lose interest in her immediately and permanently. my favorite place to be on a saturday night is home

there is absolutely nothing special about clubbing, really

I feel the same way. I would never want to be in a relationship with someone who likes going out to bars or clubs all the time.

I honestly don't even know what clubbing is.

never been clubbing, because id require friends to do that, as there arn't any events going on around here......what are friends again?

I've never been clubbing. I don't drink, or like to be around drunk people. I don't like crowds or noise. That said, I think it would be cool to go out once just to try it and to dance. I've had a hard time convincing my bf, who is a reluctant dancer. And since I can't drive, he can't drink either. We'll do it one day though. Just for shiggles.

...I've either never , ofr all but never , been to a " club " , in the sense of a recorded music/DJ only club but in my pre-Internet days I went to live rock (In whatever sense of that phrase you might mean - Mine fell into the vague " indie " classification but that now tends to mean a specific style of music , and I don't quite mean it that way .) shows at clubs quite a bit - I never , ever , saw any " arena rock " (such as the Stones , Springsteen - who I would've seen if I had the $/connections/chance ,I was not THAT indie ) shows .

Indeed. It makes little sense to seek a partner in a place that one can barely stand being in. Shared environmental preferences are pretty important to the viability of relationships.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_NgVqMjxwc4

Or, more rarely, like a boutique for foodies.

If you're sort-of rugged-looking and tallish, you can't just order whatever, to drink. I have been in pleasant marinas and goofy themeparks, heard upbeat music, saw bright clothes, and they will look for any excuse to become violent.