How do you feel about "invisible" autistics?

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The thing that troubles me the most is those who practically say "I love being autistic, being autistic is wonderful". There's a member here, who describes himself as an invisible autistic, who completely agrees with me on this. And like me would gladly take a pill that cures autism. Therefore he strikes me as someone who I can relate to.

I don't know how on one hand people can say they have such huge unseen struggles and torments from being autistic, but on the other hand say they love being autistic so very much. It makes no sense to me. They are the ones I relate to the least.

Sometimes, people appear to have no struggles, when they actually do. When I hear this, I don't mind it that much and think that they have either learned to cope better than I have, or have struggles that I don't know about.

I don't like it though, when autistics claim that they are "better" than other autistics because they don't have a struggle that another autistic person has.

I don't feel anything about them, I relate more to people that probably aren't considered 'invisible' and I don't particularly like how some people may skip over or dismiss the struggles others might have because they are more fortunate but I will be friendly with whoever is friendly with me. Generally speaking, I probably relate more with people in my peer group but that's not always true. It's more the condescending dismissive types that bother me than folks looking for peace of mind who already have most things figured out, very stark difference I think.

But yea, denying the disability is going to ruffle feathers because you don't need help and what you're doing is hurting people that do.

I'm an invisible autistic who barely bothered passing.

You see, autism isn't biased. So, on any Era, on any Age, on any Culture, it has to taken account for what makes things biased.
I just happened to be in an easier culture. Where humor is based on timing and delivery, not wit. Where not having your own place at 35 does not equate failure or shame. Where if you're an asocial crapshot, you're still invited to parties.
The personality norm here is a bane -- more emotional, more irrational, more into expressions, and more ignorant than their foreigh counterparts -- NTs from the north, NTs from the west. But what makes up for all those contradictory traits is inclusion.

For me, there's no side here. Stupid it might sound, all I see is "human", "wants" and "needs", and "ways of learning".

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I´m one of the invisibles too, but within a rather short period of interaction (fist week in a job) people seem to find, that something is different - annoying/puzzling. Some people think, I´m a little "funny" right away....naïve maybe.

I see it as mostly positive, because it seems like there is more focus on LFA, so when the people OP called "invisible" autistic are open about it, it shows the diversity, which is good. The spectrum part of ASDs is so important to stress, and also how the traits vary from person to person.

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Given the above post, would you mind commenting on a question I posed in a new post this morning about educating NTs?

Thanks if you can!

Oops, I meant skilpadde. Sorry.