Is this really an Aspie trait?

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I suppose this issue could be related to Asperger's syndrome, but public washrooms have always been a serious problem for me too.



I hardly ever use public washrooms, and the only time I ever use them are when I am nowhere near my house, and I absolutely have to use the bathroom & can no-longer wait any longer. Even when I use them, I hate the noises & the smells of public washrooms.



One of my problems is that I am extremely private, modest, and self-conscious. Public washrooms have a serious lack of privacy, and I do not want any one to see or hear what I am doing in there, which really worries me. I am only comfortable using my own bathroom & when I am all alone. Sometimes, I will use the bathroom at my Dad's house or the staff restroom at my job, but it is still difficult for me. In those cases, I will turn on the water in the sink all the way up to mute the sounds of me using the bathroom. When I am at work, the staff bathroom is right next to where I work, and I can still hear peoples' bodily functions, which grosses me out; I complained to my boss about this problem, but nothing was ever done about it.



Another problem is changing my clothes. In high school, I had to wear gym class uniforms supplied by the school, and I was forced to change in the boys' bathroom. I would only change my clothes in the toilet stall instead of the bench in front of my classmates. I also never relieved myself even once during the four years I was a student at that school; I would simply wait until I got home to use the bathroom.



Swimming & going to the beach is another problem I have. I have not gone swimming since I was 13 years old, and I hate bathing suits. I am just very self-conscious, and I am uncomfortable with exposing myself & people seeing my body.



I think other people have similar issues, but since I have Asperger's syndrome, it could be part of my problem with public restrooms, locker rooms, changing rooms, and bathing suits.

Same here. I've concluded that it's probably a mix of sensory issues and self-consciousness for me. The only weird thing is that I'm not self-conscious about anything else .

Maybe this also depends on how you were brought up?

I often read that in the US there are e.g. strict rules on nudity on TV and there are no nudist beaches and people don't even go swimming topless at the beach (if I'm correct?). I could imagine that playing a bit of a role.

Or maybe I'm just really weird because I have many traits that I don't even share with other aspies I'm like the opposite. People keep telling me that I cannot run around naked at home with my curtains open so everyone can see me. I understand that there are social norms and that I should conform to that norm (also I get that this might become dangerous when people start to stalk you), but apart from that, I just don't care if anyone sees me naked. All these clothing rules (like I cannot wear a bikini everywhere) seem just so irrational to me.