ezbzbfcg2 wrote:
......she didn't even understand what I was getting at (or what she was disagreeing with, or what I was saying) in the first place.....
Ok, in very basic terms this is what I
think you're getting at.
Autistic people have a particular way of perceiving and experiencing the world. I'll call it X for convenience.
Non autistic people have a particular way of perceiving and experiencing the world which happens to be different from X. I'll call it Y for convenience.
You believe that there is no overlap between X and Y.
Because there is no overlap between X and Y you believe that neither side can experience or perceive the world in the way the other does in any shape or form whatsoever. Not only that, but you believe neither side can even begin to comprehend the experience and perception of the other as there is "no frame of reference" by which they can do so and as such there can be no common ground.
If the above is very broadly correct, then I simply disagree with the part about there being no overlap. Based on my own experience of spending time with non autistic people I believe that there
is a partial overlap between X and Y. That partial overlap provides the frame of reference by which I can at least start to comprehend other aspects of the experience of non autistic people, even if I cannot actually experience them. There
is some common ground. At least, that is the case for me specifically, hence the reason my own experience is in fact relevant.
If the above is not correct then you will need to find a different way of explaining your point. If nobody is understanding it then you are the common link for all that misunderstanding.
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