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20 Aug 2020, 4:57 am

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I can be pretty inflexible at times but it never lasts long , I do have things in my past that I always ruminate about though.


My flexibility depends a great deal on how well I'm sleeping. I'm also more inclined to change plans for people I trust to think clearly, and they are few. Re-hashing old conversations that did not make sense eventually revealed an underlying logic behind the pattern, once I was open enough to see it.


I think a lot of my traits get worse when I'm sleep deprived. A lot of old conversations started to make sense after my diagnosis but then I'd ruminate about them for a different reason.


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20 Aug 2020, 5:46 am

i refuse to conform. :|



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20 Aug 2020, 5:47 am

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I can't sit cross legged.

mee neether. i wonder how much of that is a comorbid of aspiehood?



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20 Aug 2020, 5:55 am

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I can't sit cross legged.

mee neether. i wonder how much of that is a comorbid of aspiehood?


From what I've read you are more likely to have a comorbid of hypermobility ( EDS )


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20 Aug 2020, 5:57 am

Oh_no_its_Ferris wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
Feyokien wrote:
I can't sit cross legged.

mee neether. i wonder how much of that is a comorbid of aspiehood?


From what I've read you are more likely to have a comorbid of hypermobility ( EDS )
When you say EDS, do you mean Ehlers Danlos? My wife has that and you'd be surprised how many doctors she's seen who have never heard of it.



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20 Aug 2020, 6:00 am

Steve1963 wrote:
Oh_no_its_Ferris wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
Feyokien wrote:
I can't sit cross legged.

mee neether. i wonder how much of that is a comorbid of aspiehood?


From what I've read you are more likely to have a comorbid of hypermobility ( EDS )
When you say EDS, do you mean Ehlers Danlos? My wife has that and you'd be surprised how many doctors she's seen who have never heard of it.


I wouldn't be surprised Steve , my GF has palindromic arthritis and it took years to get a diagnosis ( she was called a hypochondriac , it was all in her head etc etc ) , I still think she has EDS though :lol:


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20 Aug 2020, 7:23 am

Oh_no_its_Ferris wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
Feyokien wrote:
I can't sit cross legged.

mee neether. i wonder how much of that is a comorbid of aspiehood?


From what I've read you are more likely to have a comorbid of hypermobility ( EDS )

aside from being able to put my feet behind my ears when i was young, i was never hypermobile in any other way, i've never been able to sit cross-legged for instance.



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31 Aug 2020, 8:12 pm

I've been told about 'Cognitive Rigidity' - See LINK on Rigidity (psychology) - Under listing #8 Associated Conditions lists 'Autism Spectrum Disorder.' https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rigidity_(psychology)



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01 Sep 2020, 4:33 pm

(clicky)more on cognitive rigidity, "the 8 ball from hell"



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01 Sep 2020, 4:56 pm

if i make my mind up on something nothing can change my mind. All that will happen if you try is i'll just end up having a meltdown. Very few people are as stubborn as me. it's a bit unhealthy to be totally honest.


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01 Sep 2020, 4:57 pm

Steve1963 wrote:
Oh_no_its_Ferris wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
Feyokien wrote:
I can't sit cross legged.

mee neether. i wonder how much of that is a comorbid of aspiehood?


From what I've read you are more likely to have a comorbid of hypermobility ( EDS )
When you say EDS, do you mean Ehlers Danlos? My wife has that and you'd be surprised how many doctors she's seen who have never heard of it.

My dad has it.


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01 Sep 2020, 5:10 pm

Pieplup wrote:
if i make my mind up on something nothing can change my mind. All that will happen if you try is i'll just end up having a meltdown. Very few people are as stubborn as me. it's a bit unhealthy to be totally honest.


What happens when you run across new evidence you wish you'd had before deciding?
I asked my mother when was the last time she had changed her mind, and she didn't answer, or talk to me again.



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01 Sep 2020, 5:13 pm

Dear_one wrote:
Pieplup wrote:
if i make my mind up on something nothing can change my mind. All that will happen if you try is i'll just end up having a meltdown. Very few people are as stubborn as me. it's a bit unhealthy to be totally honest.


What happens when you run across new evidence you wish you'd had before deciding?
I asked my mother when was the last time she had changed her mind, and she didn't answer, or talk to me again.

Depends sometimes i rigidly continue to hold to it sometimes i don't. Sometimes I do it jut to be defiant. It's not just ideas. Goals too. If I think I can do something I will seek that goal to extreme extents. If it takes me months or years I'll do it.


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03 Sep 2020, 4:04 am

if i make my mind up on something nothing can change my mind. All that will happen if you try is I'll just end up having a meltdown...

Emotionally, I am a little bit like the Titanic. I can see the problem looming ahead, but I find it impossible to alter my course. I can try to talk myself down, change the subject, pray...all to no avail. I have to have my confrontation, my drama, once I have decided to let go.

This is insane and always already disastrous.


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03 Sep 2020, 4:29 am

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if i make my mind up on something nothing can change my mind. All that will happen if you try is I'll just end up having a meltdown...

Emotionally, I am a little bit like the Titanic. I can see the problem looming ahead, but I find it impossible to alter my course. I can try to talk myself down, change the subject, pray...all to no avail. I have to have my confrontation, my drama, once I have decided to let go.

This is insane and always already disastrous.
I'm not really that way at all. I can be quite confrontational and dramatic tho. Like, I know that it's inevitably going to end up being a disaster as it always seems to do but don't really amke any attempt to stop it. It's just like I try so hard to improve my self and my life and it never works and always ends up backfiring.


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03 Sep 2020, 4:47 am

Pieplup wrote:
Dear_one wrote:
Pieplup wrote:
if i make my mind up on something nothing can change my mind. All that will happen if you try is i'll just end up having a meltdown. Very few people are as stubborn as me. it's a bit unhealthy to be totally honest.


What happens when you run across new evidence you wish you'd had before deciding?
I asked my mother when was the last time she had changed her mind, and she didn't answer, or talk to me again.

Depends sometimes i rigidly continue to hold to it sometimes i don't. Sometimes I do it jut to be defiant. It's not just ideas. Goals too. If I think I can do something I will seek that goal to extreme extents. If it takes me months or years I'll do it.


My vocation was in vehicle engineering, and for most of it, I was a firm believer in rear-engine designs. Then the Mercedes cars blew over at Le Mans like racing boats, and I realized that all light, fast vehicles must work as stable gliders when deprived of traction for any reason. I'm glad I didn't get a chance to kill people with my error.

Sometimes, persistence has served me well, but I've also been reminded of the saying "By the time you get there, there's no there there." All the glamour has become work.