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Yeah..I returned to this thread 'cause I had forgotten about the multiple times I got called a nerd and a loser....acually I would get several kids quietly chanting "nerd nerd nerd nerd nerd" at me...
Ironicly, it usually happend in my math class in which I did abysmally...(I probably have dyscalculia)

that's a tough thread ,

Yes I have been said : "you're strange" / "you have no friends" / "you'll be always alone"( because of my weirdeness)/ "I'm ashamed of you being my daughter"/ " I hate you" . All of them said by my mother when she was suffering cancer, after that she died, so I have already forgive her (overall she loved me, but she could not understand me)

By my father (also asperger) : "are you on drugs ?"/ "you're a horrible person"/ "whore"/ . And then dropped me from his car in the middle of the road and making me return home walking

ForFlorence,

I was already at University when this psychologist called me "hopeless." Actually, she wasn't even that. She was a person in charge of giving I.Q. tests. Because I did terribly on a spatial skills test, she made me feel like a complete ret*d. I aced the vocabulary and general knowledge portions of the test.

hmm for me in the past, i really wasnt called names or anything, but i'm with what ChangelingGirl, said, about people tend to say try harder, or you not trying hard enough. or that doesnt make since, and or they keep on remindig me to do stuff etc, that really pisses me off.

The worst thing that anyone has said about my condition was from my doctor.

My mother had a psychiatrist do a neurological exam thing on me when I was 3. That's when I was diagnosed with AS. When my mother took me for further psychiatric evaluations with a different doctor, they said I had ADD. Apparently, all throughout elementary school, all my teachers thought I had ADD because some stupid doctor screwed up. I was often in trouble for doing nothing because it said on my health report that I had ADD. None of the other kids would come near me. I fixed this up around 9th grade when I finally found out what was going on. I can't really go into too much detail because I'd be revealing confidential info about myself (more than this)

The whole point of this is, the doctor who said I had ADD, NOT AS, has said the worst thing about my condition thus far. (I do have AS)

My mother always tried her best to understand but never fully got there but she was never the problem me dad was the main problem.

He started hitting me when i was 8 but once me mother split from him and at the time i had to stay at his house 3 nights a week he used to make my life hell with one night he threw me downstairs and then proceeded to break me arm and make me beg for mercy and to say sorry for been a screwup and for having a diease that made me a failure. This was a sample of the abuse i suffered for 7 to 8 years till i snapped and attacked back and it's cause of me AS and that i was unable to express my feelings and fear of me mum hating me that he got away with it

Cause of this abuse i suffered i was in constant counciling and on anti depressants in one case where i overdosed it still affects me now 5 years after it all stopped and since then i been determined to prove to a NT world that people wth autism are just as good in the world as NT people so to all my fellow aspies i implore you to stay determined and keep going and dont let anything stop you.

I'm getting enraged just reading the horror stories of the abuse we've been subjected to!

Sometimes I have a hard time remembering to look hard for the light at the end of the tunnel...

Yep. People can be a$$holes sometimes can't they?

I sometimes wonder if I would have copped as much abuse if I'd had cerebral palsy or epilepsy. I doubt it. It seems that my positive traits of hard work, persistence, intelligence and responsibility were overlooked and taken advantage of, while I was treated with disdain and downright contempt for my "other " traits.

Sorry, I'm feeling morose.

My Nana once said, "There's nothing wrong with you, you're just a little bit slow." in a very condescending voice.

My dad once told me, "You will never be able to do most of the things that other people can do, and part of it is because you have a Learning Disability." in a very condescending voice. (I'm in Canada, by the way.)

My mum was looking at my journal, when I was ten, going on eleven. She let out an exasperated sigh and said, "You write about the same old thing, every single day..." That was when I was obsessed with The United States. That's when I've learned my lesson about hiding my obsessions from other people, because people are jerks.

My dad got on me about my accent, when I was twelve. He said, "You should really listen to yourself, from time to time. None of the kids from around here talk like you do! We really need to fix this!" I haven't talked to him, since that afternoon, back in 1987. He doesn't deserve the luxury of hearing my wonderful accent.

I was once asked by two bullies on their bikes, if I was ret*d, when I was eleven. I told them that I'm not. The boy with the Frezee in his hand, kept pointing at me with it, saying, "She said that she's ret*d!" I screamed, "I hate you!" and ran away from those two boys.

I remember my mum yelling at me and scolding me, every time that I've soiled myself, saying, "You're old enough to know better! You're smart enough to know better! You're a bad girl! Now I have to clean this mess up! You should know better by now! How many kids your age do that?!?"

When I was eight, I was putting on a pair of trousers that didn't fit me, anymore. My mum said, "You're getting fat! I'm very embarrassed! I'm the only mother who has a fat child! Not many mothers have fat children! I'm going to have to put you on a diet!" I was hyperventilating after she said the word, diet.

I now look, sound and smell like Sid, the character in my avatar, but with human eyes, ears and a nose. I was thinking for the longest time that my parents couldn't possibly love a slightly obese Punk Rocker with a Cockney Accent, who now has fecal incontinence, from February, up until I've sent them an E-mail in July, telling them that I'm not ready to lose weight, that I've always loved larger people, and my Sid figurine symbolizes how adorable I think that plus-sized adults are. My mum now loves both Sid and I to pieces.

Wow.

I was going to quote posts in this thread I could relate to, but I'd be cutting and pasting all afternoon...

My Mum is the main offender. Not that she knows I have AS (she doesn't - only my husband knows that. Oh, and my friends on here ), but because of the way I behave and my problems relating to other people, she's come out with a few choice comments. I can always remember her standing behind me while I was filling in my acceptance form for my place at University saying, "You won't do it, you know. You'll never make the break from home." I could, and I did, partly to show her!

And I used to keep a diary, and fill in any blank spaces with little stories, for something to do when I was on my own and because I like writing stories. Most of the stories were about me and famous men (hey, I was a teenager at the time...) She got hold of this diary and, refusing to believe they were fictional, informed me that she didn't know why I'd bothered going to Uni, that the only reason I'd gone there was to sleep around, and that I was a slag (sic) who'd never amount to anything.

whoa, there are horrible people out there aren't they?
I have been called ret*d, freak, loser, asked why are u so quiet? I have also been called "speshal" a lot. I remember this one therapist (speech) i was dragged to and she called me "special" about four times in the one sentance.

You would think that u would be treated better if u had a problem that was better known like epilepsy but that is not the case. I have read that peoples are being picked on and discriminated against because of their condition. Even If you had no clear problems people would just make up stuff to pick on u for. I know someone that had people say "is that pole your boyfriend?" since she is tall.

My dad still thinks it is something I am going to "snap out of".

He calls it "this thing" as in "...when you snap out of this thing".

do you like girls? tons of people ask me this and it used to bother me but not now. because im not all *insert girl drooling here* irl. i only girl drool on the internet, im pretty far from anything that involves a relationship/romatic behaviour

My father has actually referred to me as disabled.

This dialogue occurred on more than one occasion at a school for gifted girls:

Classmate: "You're ret*d, right?"

Me: "No, I don't think so."

Classmate: "Oh, so you're from another country?"

These are some other gems that came from employers at menial jobs:

"I understand you because I have a sister who's schizophrenic."

"There's just something odd about you . . . I'd prefer not to say what."

"You're wishy-washy and you don't communicate."--from a rich lady who operated a fraudulent non-profit

And finally a family one:

"Don't try to control me with your melodrama! I know it's all at act, you ornery little brat."--my mother after screaming at me until I started crying and hyperventilating in fear

There's been stuff far worse than that, but I've forgotten it on purpose.

As I have mentioned before, my diagnosis was inconclusive. However, my parents still refuse to believe Asperger's exists, and those people who I have run into outside of my family (including "certified professionals") claim I'm either a paranoid schizophrenic who is hallucinating all the teasing, and have tried to put me on illegally prescribed anti-psychotics which they claimed were "sleeping pills".

To top it off, my parents flip-flop more times than Clinton, saying first they think I'm a disgusting, useless, and worthless pile, then turn around and wonder how I've shown so much moral restraint, claiming they would've gone Virginia Tech on everyone I've dealt with up to this point.

I've also come to the conclusion these same parents are either Aspies themselves, out of the various symptoms they clearly show, or it is our family's personality traits which mimic Asperger's that I have inherited. Either way, they suffer the same problems I do, but still claim nothing is happening.

I don't know which is worse: spending my time around NTs, or spending my time around Aspies/Autistics who simply continue to express their symptoms without an attempt to develop analytical means to compensate.