what are common autism traits that you DON'T relate to?

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Lack of social skills, to an extent.

I can hold down a job, stay married, raise my daughter and so on while still feeling rested most of the time. My "problem", as was noted in my assessment, is a lack of interest. Even though I can make friends, I find it a nuisance and something that takes away valuable time from my interests.

Oh THAT thing. Yeah Ive surfed past that on the dial. Never watched it though- cause I neither in gradeschool nor have a kid in gradeschool.

Actually if anything I was thinking of a show I like but went off the air as soon as I discovered it. The show "Parenthood"
has an early teen boy who is identified as being officially dxd with aspergers. He has some aspie traits that I dont exactly relate to, but real life aspies are not identical either in presentation of the condition. So I had remind myself of that to give the show a go. And I did start to like it, but then after its years of running before I knew about the show it went off the air after I only got to see it like two or three times.

I loved Parenthood! Not just Max, but all the characters. ^

Yeah. All of characters appeared to be well drawn. Damn.

There is a common thing with ASD people where they're best to be told in advance any plans they may not like, but I'm starting to realise that I'm the opposite. I prefer to have the change of plan sprung upon me in the moment because then I won't have time to worry about it.
For example, at work I sometimes have to go to another building if we're short-staffed, and I always get anxious about going there because it involves walking in an unsafe area. I also prefer to just stay on the premises I usually am, to feel safe. But if I am going to go down there I prefer to be told at the last minute so I can just grab the keys and walk down there straight away, so that's why I don't ask in the office in the morning if I have to go down there, because if I know then I'll be worrying about it all day and trying to think of ways to get out of it.

Another thing: changes.

I don't dislike changes anyway. The main question is: What are the advantages and disavantages of changing? What are the advantages and disavantages of keeping things as they are now?

My previous bosses want to keep things as they are, because "we always did it this way, and it works." Yes, but sometimes we have to look at newer things because they are better or faster, or have more advantages.

An old typewriter works, you can type texts with it. I have a diploma for typewriting, but there are computers with Windows and Word. You can e-mail texts, you can delete errors from texts, you can make text italic or bold, give it a different color or font. A typewriter can't. So, there is a valid reason to want to change.

Eye contact doesn't bother me, although I get lost about where I should look if I'm talking to multiple people at once.

No light sensitivity; just smells and sounds.

I don't have unshakable daily routines, but I have small routines about things like how I eat certain meals. Usually for very practical reasons. While my daily routine isn't constant, once I set out my routine for a given day I do find interruptions can really throw me for a loop and it's hard to get back in the zone where I was before the interruption.

I very rarely have traditional meltdowns, and never any mutism (except sometimes in certain dreams). I do deal with some issues that may be meltdown-adjacent; sort of a partial shutdown.

I never flap, rock, or do other classic stimming. I do periodically do more subtle stimming and figiting that is more ADHD-related than ASD.

I'm not sure how or if I mask, other than not expressing most of my opinions (and feeling a certain amount of resentment because of it). There are a number of social things I do only because I've learned I should make a conscious effort to do them which I wouldn't naturally do. (I'm well-trained.)

I've never been in denial about my condition, or the possibility that I had some kind of condition. Diagnosis didn't cause a personal crisis. I'm not particularly emotional about the issue at all. Diagnosis didn't change my attitude towards ASD or ADHD.

im a lot autistic but not stereotypical

i dont rock or other autistic common stims

i have a high self esteem and dont shame myself or get offended that easy

i enjoy putting on makeup and dressing up in trendy clothes and styling my hair

i dont have loads of empathy i actually lack empathy both cognitive and compassion
yes its been proven that autistics dont typically lack compassion empathy