What is your relationship to your MOTHER?

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Yeah, i can agree with that, that and the fact that something has been wrong with me for years, and years, and she knows it she kept me from people on purpose i swear it and yet she denies it and never did sh-- about it.

Not sure about the breast feeding, *shudder*. My mom can flip out and go into screaming fits of rage. Especially road rage, I have had some terrifying moments in the past with her driving. She is also cold and distant never shows any affection ever, that's why my dad left her.

Though now I live with her, I pay rent, and we get along ok, but we don't really talk much. Which is a good thing though.

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I have a very good relationship with my mother. I'd say she's mentally stable most of the time but she has some self-esteem and image issues, and she gets depressed at times. I was breastfed. I think I get along with her so well because she's very accepting and has some quirky traits similar to my own. She's not really a typical mom.

She loves to play video games. Especially this one army game that she never stops talking about. LOL, it's an obsession I guess. She says random silly things sometimes too. She loves solving puzzles like Sudoku and others that require visual-spatial skills. She definitely has some obsessions. Examples in the past would be the Black Dahlia murders, penguins, lighthouses and of course her soap opera show, that she has a fit if she can't watch it. I definitely think she has some Aspie traits, but I don't think I would put her on the spectrum because at the same time she has good social skills and other things that qualify her as just a quirky NT. Still it would be interesting to see what score she would get on the Aspie test. I should have her take it some time.

Keep in mind that a lot of aspie females like to socialize... it's just that don't do as well as they'd like. Because they either say the wrong things or they're being too loud or too soft or being too silly... always something to stand out that make NT's take notice. Not ALL the time, of course. Your mom sure does sound suspect for being on the spectrum.

well i will answer to the best i can, it will be hard, cause my mom died when i was 4, so i will just put down on what i remember in the short time i had with her.


Were you breastfed?: i think so, not really sure and dont remember..
Was/Is she mentally stable? well before she had me, but i heard that she had trouble with alcohol, and she was a diabetic, i think she was, of course, after she had me her mental part wasnt stable cause i think people who are diabetic and have a baby tend to die after, that i think is the reason my father had nothing to do with my life. but my mom fought, and said she was gonna have me no matter what happens, she refused to have a abortion.
Was she distant, cold and aloof from you?
no she was the kindest mom i have had with the short amount of time i had with her., she would rock in her chair and rock me gently all the time.
Were you emotionally abandoned as an infant? hmm well after she died and went into a adoption orphanage yea i guess i can say i felt emotionally abandoned,, it wasnt my family or adopted families fault though.. but i think it was cause of all the family deaths, school bullying and the lack of educational care and diagnoses till it was to late...

Its nothing short of pure amazing that I never attempted to kill her.

Triangular trees, lol. Ghostgurl and Jaydog, your moms sound really nice. I wonder how I would be as a mom. My mother is not an aspie and is not a very nice person. My dad told me at age 7 that I could handle my mother so he would be leaving me to watch over my brother while he essentially detached from the family and it's true that unlike my Fragile X brother, I don't really believe anything that comes out of her mouth but I tried to be "less cynical" and more accommodating and the effort didn't make my home life any better but it was informative in an incredibly tedious and mediocre way. If I am honest then I would have to say I find her boring and I have no problem ignoring her. I'm an adult now but when I was 10, she beat me for several hours with a plastic shovel because after reading a magazine all day, she decided in the late afternoon that I should make the family lunch. I rolled my eyes at her laziness and that was that. This time I could see the beating was about breaking me instead of just getting pleasure. I have actually seen the closest thing to an orgasm in her face when she goes off on her tirades that are now emotional and much briefer now that we are older. It's fascinating because she actively hates sex but there is something about being able to cause a negative reaction in others that literally puts a light in her eyes. I don't take her to heart in terms of getting my feelings hurt but she did remind me of the mother in The Ref whom Denis Leary described as "a b***h, a f*****g b***h" and "a blind man could see that." Ya think?

Breastfed: no
Mentally stable: not that i could make out
Distant/Cold/Aloof: definately
Emotionally abandoned as an infant: emotionaly and physically my gran brought me up


and as for my thoughts on my mother let me refer to the munchkins

"ding dong the witch is dead the wicked witch the wicked witch ding dong the wicked witch is dead"

i know this is harsh but well if you knew anything about what i went through with her you would understand

I loved my father as much as I didn't like him. When he died that song "ding dong the witch is dead...." went through my mind over and over and over again for days after his death. I figured it was a subconscious thing... but it sure did bother me. Funny how it's your own mind but yet you have little control over things like songs playing in your head.

Reading over the replies in this thread is so sad. I feel so bad for all of you who had bad experiences with a parent. My heart goes out to you.

I'm not sure what love is in relation to my blood family but I just tell myself that her narcissistic egocentric ways wouldn't have saved her in the middle of a massacre so *sigh*bitcas like her also qualify for protection (from people like me.)

My aspie dad was abused by both his parents and he was crazy about his dad and always wanted his love and always tried to please his mother. I noticed this about him when I was two years old and I noticed that his parents including the aspie mother weren't very nice to him. It was a well known tragedy in his wide circle of nonblood friends that he was a sucker for them. He never said he saw through them but everyone could see he was their punching bag. I thought to myself why are you torturing someone you should care about? I treat people I don't like people better than they treated him.

No, Yes, No, and No.

I've got a great relationship with my mom. I'm 22 but everytime something goes wrong I still call my mommy. ^_^ She has on occasion said that I was a weird little kid who grew into a weird adult but she means it, and I take it, as a complement. Despite my weirdness my mom is really proud of my academic accomplishments. She still says that my odd behavior is just who I am but I've noticed that she coddles me more than my other siblings. I think she does it subconciously.

My dad is another story all together.

Were you breastfed? Don't know, and I really don't want to know.
Was/Is she mentally stable? She was mentally stable, I think...
Was she distant, cold and aloof from you? Yes.
Were you emotionally abandoned as an infant? Yes, but in her defense my older brother was such a handful she didn't really have the energy to give to me. Luckily for her I was a quiet child.