Do you ever take things literally or too seriously?

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Neither do I after rereading that.
What I meant to say was that I was asked if 3 days was long enough to write a program to create a certain report. I looked at the calendar and said that I couldn't do it in 3 days as I had the next week off for vacation. I knew the entire time that I was not being asked to write the program at that time, but just to give an estimate of how long it would take so they could quote a price.

Frequently I do
Sometimes I realize I did quickly and other times I don't
Leads to all sorts of stuff

<sigh> Yeah, I've got that horrid aspie problem of being too literal; and it has caused me quite a bit of interesting grief. My specific troubles tend around areas of ambiguity inherent in human language. If a phrase or specific word can be interpreted multiple ways, even given good context, I tend to interpret it in a way that the user of the phrase/word did not intend. Misinterpretations on my part can be subtle, and if I end up running with a false assumption in this area, it seems very much like I tend to be digging my own grave. My thoughts do not translate well to words and visa versa; this results in inescapable information loss whenever communicating verbally, and the loss typically occurs in both directions. Ironically, the only person who can communicate well with me - is me. If anyone happens to see me, please let me know where I am, because I’ve always wanted to meet someone who I communicate well with.

Good fortune,

- Icarus talks to himself for many reasons...

Yes, I do this. For years I thought stuffing was made out of cat, because my Mother was messing with me one Thanksgiving and said that's what it was. My parents used to joke with me constantly because I was so gullible(I'm a little better now), often times I'd be reduced to tears. Like this one time my Dad told me that he found me in a fishtank and the scars I had on my sides were actually where my gills used to be. I took him completely seriously and ran to my bedroom crying, I didn't stop until my Dad told me he was kidding. I still take things literally a lot of the time, like when I told my boyfriend the other day about how my best-friend's Mother stopped breathing a few weeks ago and he asked "Did she start again?" and I just answered "Yeah", he still thinks that's funny. Jokes go right over my head a lot of the time... After I'm told it's a joke I realize and my response becomes funnier than the joke itself. Like the other day, my boyfriend said to me "Did you know so and so(I can't remember the name he used) lost his virginity before his Father?" and I thought to myself-Okay, so how did that happen? I guess it's possible if he were adopted. And I responded with "Oh, no..."
He started laughing and was like "Autumn, that was a joke...were you actually trying to figure out how that was possible?" haha
Those sorts of things happen to me all the time.

In the first case I would have said "yeah" too, and in the later, would have thought through how that's possible-since it IS possible like you explained!

Yes, I have at times and such has created all sorts of trouble for me that has embarrased me and made misunderstandings quite unpleasant and stressful..

haha, Yeah, after we got back to my apartment we got into a small conversation about all the ways one could lose their virginity before their Father. I guess he just thinks it's funny that I always take questions like that as serious, rather than the joke/sarcasm they are.

Last night i responded seriously to the Fat Aspie thread that (I guess ) was removed..i totally took it seriously and did not think it was a troll..which I assume it must have been since it was removed.

Darn, I missed that. Was that trying to show some correlation between weight and Asperger's? I don't think there is one.

it got deleted so I guess it was spam.

it depends

Hehe. I hate shouting.

Next door there lives a four-year old who has frequent tantrums, and very loud ones too. I can hear her screaming through my wall. Then I can hear her Mum screaming like Hell at her, which obviously adds to the girl's screaming. Its horrible and I've yelled in the direction of the wall things such as "shut up!! !".

I can take things that way if I'm caught off guard or my mind is focused elsewhere.
My initial instinct is to take things literally but I've learned to just let things slide and think about the first before reacting.

Same here.

On a similar thing here, I have a bad habit of remembering what people say they like, dislike & their plans. I tend to hold people to them thinking everything they said was in stone. Often times months or years later I will remark about something they once said to me (because at the present they were contradicting themselves - at least in my mind) yet the response I get is that they didn't even remember saying it in the first place. It's hard for me to let that sort of thing go or let it slide in the first place.

On the same note a therapist said I could recite word-for-word plans I had made a year before (she wrote them down - she asked me without letting me see her notes) I thought to myself, well... yeah! Duh?! What good are plans & goals if you aren't going to remember them? So what if I can remember the exact words I first used? I wish I had such a good memory for more important things...

Often. I have to rethink what people say always. People think i'm ret*d sometimes by my responses to things. They laugh, i get pissed.

Yes, my mother seems to have found I take things too seriously anyway and has asked me why I can't have a sense of humour etc etc and had to tell me she was just teasing me...only, I hate being teased; who doesn't ?