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I can't believe I haven't found this thread yet. I hate the AS Partners site! The first time I read it I almost cried. I still read it occasionally, but now it doesn't bother me. Most of the wives/girlfriends seem insecure and needy. It's not their husbands'/boyfriends' fault that they are unhappy. They are the type of people that will be unhappy in any relationship. I think they are pathetic and I pity them.

By the way, 'DH' isn't just used on that site. Most sites where people discuss their families that term is used. I've also seen people say DS (son) and DD (daughter). It isn't meant to be sarcastic. Although, on AS Partners...

What does the "D" stand for?

*too lazy to read whole thread* whats going on?

I think it's for darling or dear.

Ooh... thought so, but it sounded like you lot were saying it was bad/sarcastic or something...

Something else I have noticed from reading those posts on that Delphi Forum, is that many of the Wives/Girlfriends etc, are taking it upon themselves to perform the 'diagnosis' of AS, even though they make no mention of having post graduate medical degrees.

Bearing in mind the very real possibility of error and misdiagnosis (in the hands of a distraught woman who isn't even qualfied to make the diagnosis), and it seems highly likely that few, if any of these hapless husbands even fit into the category of having AS/ASD.

Therefore it seems to me, that the construct of AS is being used in a purely judgemental and irrational fashion to 'explain' the perceived (and probably imaginary) shortcomings of the husbands or boyfriends. It is all very well reading a list of diagnostic criteria on the Internet and applying them all over the place, but as I said earlier these wives are doing their husbands and other people who actually do have AS any favours at all.

Well some people use DH, DD and DS in a more sarcastic way, it's not always dear but could be 'damn' too. Ugh!

DH = Dear Husband (can also be for some other choice words)
DS = Dear Son
DD = Dear Daughter

Well this quote from one post by a mother of two AS kids and all and likely an AS husband to a young man dating an AS girl when he was asking for advice:

I'm not sure if they could have been more blunt if they tried.

Controlling and abusive people seem to always be searching for people they feel they can have power over. Two of the relationships I have been in were with these type of creatures. Just because I was quiet natured, gentle and kept to myself, I suppose I seemed like a perfect victim to them, but this was not the case. I'll admit, I was naive enough to believe that they were who they pretended to be but I'll be the first to say that I'm not a very good judge of character.

When the controlling/abusive person realizes that you are not going to take their abuse and control, they can be quite cruel...as you have seen on Delphi. I feel very badly for the husbands and boyfriends of these harpies that are lashing out at the men they cannot control as they had hoped to.

I hope these victims will be able to escape this mental abuse before too much harm is done to them.

Aaargghh... hidden agendas. Yet another thing that I will never understand about people.