problems with driving?

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Driving is so fustrating for me that I've preety much given up on getting my license. I can never seem to get the timing of things right such as when to make a left turn. I'm so scared that Im'm going to hit something, or worse, someone.

If you are like me, you will get your license because you are persistent and don't give up. It took me about 5 or 6 tries to get it. Once, I was riding with a lady who had failed me before while taking the driving test. She brought a police officer with her. I ran a red light. I didn't realize it until afterwards when they told me that's why I failed. s**t happens, but usually if you don't give up, you'll get what you want.

Yeah, they may give you bluebook, and shouldn't pay to repair it. Totalled means NOT economically feasible to repair to a safe and reasonable condition. They would take the car though!





By rollover cage, I basically mean the frame around the passenger area. It is a bit more than just a bar.



What I meant is that if you say it is YOUR fault, it is almost a done deal, it is YOUR fault! If you say it is the OTHER persons fault, they may fight to prove you right. Of course THEY have a say ALSO! If they say they are at fault, your insurance company may just be happy and settle with no problems.

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A police officer once HARASSED my mother, and filed a FALSE police report! Not only did my MOTHER claim that, but I saw the police report and the car, and they did not agree! There was just NO way that my mother could have caused the damage based on how the others said it happened. My mothers story DID make sense. The car indicated that the OTHER party was at fault!

I have no idea why the police did that, because they had ONLY the evidence I had. And read on here. I do NOT favor my mother. I would be the FIRST to assume she was at fault. In this case, she WASN'T! And a police man actually TRAVELED with my mother in the AMBULANCE and tried to brainwash, harass, etc... her on the way to the HOSPITAL!?!?!? With her BLEEDING!?!?!?!? With her half concious!?!?!? His name/face should have been PLASTERED all over the media, and he should have been SUED to the max! So YEP, I have some experience. They EVEN tried to keep the police report from her! AND, with all the damage he did, **I** had to drive her home!

My partner makes fun of me all the time for driving in circles. I have great difficultly making snap decisions, like when finding a parking space in a crowded area. I also have to know ahead of time if I need to turn, I can't just realise at the last minute that I need to turn and do it. My partner gets frustrated by that sometimes too. I get lost easily. If I can look at a map beforehand, then usually I'm just fine. I LOVE finding alternate routes to things. The other day I was super proud of myself for getting to a park on the other side of town by looking at a map beforehand and finding all residential backroads to take. It was kind of fun.

I also have problems judging distance and speed, usually when I'm waiting to turn on a road and there are cars coming on that road in my direction. I tend to be extra cautious about making sure there's plenty of time and space for me to turn on the road.

The other day I ran into the curb into the divider in the center of the road and it scared the living crap out of me. Everything was fine, I just kind of drove up on the center curb thing for a second. I have to be careful not to get too lost in my thoughts while I'm driving, which is what I think happened. I've actually been pretty scared to drive lately... too paranoid about other drivers, mostly, but THAT really did not help.

I have major problems with getting lost, and absolutely hate construction going on in an area I normally take. I will stay in the lane that I will eventually need to turn from for HOURS sometimes, just so I'm ready, lol. But when there is construction, I hate having to get into a different lane and re-adjust. It's even worse once I get used to it and have to make the switch back to my regular route.

But my MAIN problem with driving, is seeing idiots. I don't hate them, I am not really afraid of them, they don't make me angry, but they leave me in this cloud of thought, trying to figure out exactly what makes them tick, lol. Then, I'll start wondering if we read the same book in order to get our licenses. It's amazing what some of them do.

For instance, in the past 2 days, I have seen people decide to go on a red light (while cars were coming) randomly. They were sitting there, like they understood that they weren't supposed to go, lol, then all of a sudden, people start making lefts and they decide it is their turn... can they not see that the light is still red???

Then, I saw a woman motion for a semi to get in front of her... okay, so she decided to take turns-good for her, since that is typically what one is SUPPOSED to do... but then she starts inching forward before the guy is in the lane, and she looks ANNOYED that he isn't all the way in the lane. Hmmm.... I wonder if it is just because he didn't want to smash the front end of her car with the back tires, lol....

I had 4 people honk at me today to go... on a red light.

I've had COPS turn left when I was making a right (no light, we both had stop signs, I arrived at the stop sign before they did), I guess assuming that they had the right of way.

I hate people swerving from lane to lane, or flying past you just to get one car length closer to the stop light... I hate when they cuss you out for going too slow when you can see ahead of you that there is nothing but a red light to get to. Worst of all, though, I cannot stand to see someone driving in a lane that is marked EXIT ONLY for 10 miles before making the last minute decision to get out of the lane right before they are sent off of the highway... you know, onto the exit that they were in the lane to take, lol.


I suppose I hate almost everything about driving, lol... depth perception, judging speed of others, routes getting changed... But mainly I just have a lot of pet peeves with people who don't seem to care about the rules one bit. That drives me absolutely nuts to see people doing such stupid things when I had to take this stupid test 2 times before I passed, in which I had to memorize all of the rules of the road...

I'm good with driving; going to take the written test is that which kills me (my mind goes blank when I enter the building due to being overwhelmed).

Story of my life.

My friends have told me I corner like a grandmother (it's driving with animals in the car so much that makes me that way) I'm not the greatest at driving manual if I wear different shoes - I think most people are like that who drive stick, no? Otherwise I'm usually whining at everyone else's driving. I'm pretty set at driving by the book. I'm a planner too, so where I'm going is set out ahead of time.

I just remember I got marked off for not 'looking' but driving through 12 intersections in my driving test. I only just realized it appeared that way because of the autism. I wish I could go back & kick him. Why would I drive blind through one intersection let alone 12? I never understood being marked off for that. HA!(excuse me, I had a late diagnosis & things are still clicking into place for me) I did pass the first time though.

My driving was and is impeccable. I gave up my car 5 years ago, but I truly loved driving. It was heaven and such fun. But I will tell you that I got my licence when I was 36 years old. I never had a need prior. I drove for 5 years. While getting used to driving (after I got my license - which was a breeze btw) it was very, very difficult. I was very afraid of driving on the road with other cars. Almost a crisis issue. I hired a person to SIT there beside me until she ditched me 4 sittings later and I was left to my own devices. One day I just buckled up, resolved and slightly calmed due to (whatever) got behind the wheel, prayed and just did it. With confidence, inner strength, guidance - and drove. It was an exhilerating experience to conquer that fear and move beyond. What became my greatest fear became my greatest blessing and gift. Later I decided to turn my car in the Love Vehicle where I would only do kind things with it - give rides, let others pass, stop before pedestrians, make deliveries for the poor and others. I think it's key when the focus is love.

I passed my test years ago but don't drive the reasons:

too much going on/ sensory overload
not knowing what the other drive will do
panic
can't drive with others makes me on edge
poor decision making
poor co-ordination

OMG!! !! I am so glad we don't have those in the UK - I am not surprised that you find them a problem. Over here, as I said, there would be either one through road with priority, & stop signs on the other 2 roads, or we would have the junction controlled by traffic signals or a mini-roundabout (where you have to give priority to your right).

The problem with 4 way stops is that everyone beleives they have the right of way and they own the road. I'm not sure why USA should be different than UK and have 4 ways. Speaking of crazy driving, I saw a car try to do a fish tail down the highway in the rain and it ended up losing control and doing 270 degress or 3pie/2 radians down the highway then rolling backwards while all of the oncoming traffic pulled to the side of the road. It is a 4 lane highway going down a hill. The people said they wanted to go to Six Flags Feista Texas theme park that day, but I think they got their excitement without going on rollercoasters lol.

Why would the police give your mother such a hard time? Were they being racist against her?