Do You Suspect Your Parent(s) Have AS ?

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I strongly suspect my Dad has mild AS, but it seems an instinctual suspicion, the only evidence I have (if it can be called such) is that other people say I seem like a "clone" of my father - in terms of my behaviour.

i suspect that my mom have AS but her don't know it ,so did my mom's mom too

I don't think my mother has it - she's far too much of a sociable person to fit that category.

Couldn't say about my dad, though, because the only father I've ever really known is my stepdad. Although the two of us are quite alike, sometimes...

I think my mom has AS, but if this is true, then she will never admit it because of her religious beliefs. I also think my older sister has AS too.

I think my mother is probably high-functioning autistic, as is my little sister. My mum went to a special school and still has some problems with language... plus telling left from right. Some of the things I say like not knowing if I have been invited into a conversation or not... she has those too. She also cycles through interests and obsesses about them... although she is undiagnosed.

I am certain my father has AS, and most likely my grandfather (and at least one of my brothers). From what I heard, probably my great grandfather as well. My dad doesn't admit it, and doesn't particularly care, even though it explains my parent's relationship problems totally. He's an accomplished scientist, and is used to working with people on a professional level, he's adapted. My grandfather on his side was a mechanical genius and a test pilot, used to buy totalled cars, strip them down to the frame, unbend the frame and reassemble the entire thing so it was as good as new. I guess he saved some money that way.

I think that my father might have AS -- but if he does have it, it would be a very mild case. He's very intelligent and has a very good memory. He is, for the most part, an introvert. He has friends, but no actual close friends. He's socially awkward, and is sometimes physically clumsy. He has a tendency to say the wrong thing at the wrong time. Yet, overall he does relatively well in social settings, provided that he's around people that he knows well or people that he gets along with. Also, he doesn't seem to have a problem with making eye contact. So...who knows. Maybe he just has a slight case of social phobia.

My mom most definitely has autistic tendencies (inability to recognize some statements as jokes, fixation on one thing at a time, etc) but I wouldn't say she has AS/PDD NOS or any of that. She's got a couple symptoms but not enough for a dx or enough that it impairs her life. My dad is the most NT guy in the world. He abandoned me (again) when I was 13 and I'm always glad he wasn't around for my DX because it would have only solidified his "justification" in his mind.

oh yes, my mother has something for sure...

Neither of my parents show signs of AS. My dad is controling, but he has had many friends and strong social skills. My mom is a school administrator and has worked as a teacher(AS people, stay away from the teaching profession. We just aren't suited for it.).

My uncle on my mom's side: definitely AS. Most people can't stand his company and he had only one girlfriend in his life, which he issued an ultimatum for to get married and they broke up. I personally refuse to have dinner with him, because dinner with him is like a Gestapo-style interrogation.

My father is diagnosed as bipolar but I think he's AS too... before my diagnosis people used to say I got my "weird sense of humor" and "loner" personality from him... he's a lot like me in a lot of ways. We're pretty convinced other people in the family have it too, even though I'm the only one with an official diagnosis. I've heard differing opinions on whether autism can be hereditary but it would be a pretty big coincidence if we all just happened to have it.

My dad has some of the traits but maybe not enough to be diagnosed; he is not at all social, hates small talk, is very technical & has interests, and is very "formal" when he speaks. He hasn't got a lot of emapthy either.

My mother is neither AS nor NT; "Schizoid Personality" seems to describe her the best -very social-phobic, with no personalilty or apparent interest in anything at all.

She is like a "slave" to my dad (& me when I lived at home) with no independant life of her own whatsoever - she always used to say "there's no point to anything so why bother".

My paternal grandmother had a personality disorder - unlikely to be AS as she found the "coldness" of my dad & me very difficult to deal with, but she was very obsessive and had meltdowns.

Don't know anything about my maternal grandparents, but one "odd" cousin on my mum's side.

I'm positive my dad has ADHD and my mom may have some AS tendancies, but nothing more.

i think both my mom and her mom have AS. my dad has some AS traits, so it's possible, but i think he's a little more NT than my mom is. i have an NT sister.. so i donno where that comes in.

Yes and I think that, if I do have it, then they are even deeper into the specturm.

My mother always interrups and derails any conversation into a sermon about the objective's in life, health, etc. . . It seems like a recording that starts playing always about the same two or three things and if you try to get a word in or show any impatience she just raises the volume. Her speech is shrill and has intonations like she's reading a kiddies book. She has no idea how practical and social things have to be dealt with, sometimes causing difficult situations. She depends on my father to do a lot of things; for example, she doesn't drive a car.
One striking thing is that I haven't seen her change over time. I myself have learnt to notice myself beginning to go on and on about something and SHUT UP (meh. . . quickly finish the point) at (say) the first impatient glance on the listener's part.

My dad seems as aware of unpsoken signs like nods, glances, pauses at specific moments as a rock. I have noticed this as of late when going over social situations involving us both. In retrospective, he has systematically made mistakes in this area. The fact that he likes mainstream sports has helped him though. He used to be a conscious top student and I'm told he was very shy. He was, again, popular in sports though.

They both seem to have very little social life (and/or few long term friendships) despite success in other areas.

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I forgot to add:
I never knew my grandfather much but I know he was forced to major in something he didn't like. . . so he spent most of his free time in a room of his own solely dedicated to tinkering with electronics. I remember going in there: it looked like a typical mad scientist room cluttered with gadgets, manuals, wires, and some devices of his own making I wasn't old enough to really understand (I think he enjoyed very much going over each of these each time I was over).
He was also known for his poor reactions, temper and eccentric behaviour overall; even from the perspective of my parents. I remember that some of his hostile reactions were rather sudden.
He was yet another good sportsman, though. Apparently, his brothers were too and had competed in different things. I don't know specifically about my grandfather but he did do some swiming feats and his sheer prowess at it was scary (I think) once he was over 70 years old.

Though I'm not an amazing sportsman myself, I did that aspie test with the graph and it's skewed (though, not extremely) saying I have physical NT traits and mental AS traits.

My dad has some of the traits, though he engages people and does very well socially. He does have a preference for solitary activities, especially when pursuing his special interests. I don't think he has AS, just some features like it.

My sister was diagnosed with schizoid personality disorder, and my mother precisely fits the description as well. Let me tell you how much that sucked growing up. Absolutely none of the mother-daughter stuff. At all. I'm thankful to be an aspie, because I think growing up with a SPD mother would destroy an NT kid.