Could I have a child if I wanted to?

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13 Feb 2008, 7:26 pm

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I have been thinking about this issue a lot. I had a dream where I gave birth to a child who had so many problems that doctors said he would never be able to do anything, and would only be useful as an experiment after he died, probably soon after birth. It was then I decided that no child of mine was ever going to be consigned to such a fate. I dreamed I showed the same child, many years later, who had done more than any doctor ever anticipated he would, to the doctor who predicted an early death, and said, "So what do you think of Roger?" I hope that, if I do have a child, he or she will be in good health, but I will never give up on any child of mine, if I do have one.

That's very true, and I see your point. I believe that I will know when the time comes, but I definitely have a lot of time for it.

For the person who says that we can't be good mother, I would think that love would make up for the lack of socialization, and I already love my child, even though it's only in my thoughts. I want to be a mother, and I won't let Aspergers stop me from that, even if it gives me more problems.

I want to point it out: You will be a great mother because of AS, not in spite of it.

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I already love my child, even though it's only in my thoughts.

:') *sniffle* (Seriously, hearing this makes me more happy than you can imagine.)

Also, my encouraging aspies to breed is a part of my de facto fight against eugenics. "You want to prevent us? Well, if autism is genetic, I'll do my part to make sure we aren't eliminated." And autie kids do rock hardcore. I want 'em too.

Thank you very much for the encouraging comment. There is a great possibility of me adopting just because I think it's better to help kids in need then making more babies. However, I also want a baby of my own, so it's good to think about (I couldn't have more then one, as that would be too overwhelming for me)

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13 Feb 2008, 7:29 pm

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Autie kids rock.. i agree... keep the breeding going... you guys must breed for me since i cannot help extend the autie sensation... for the neuro degenerative disease i have is likely genetic defect and i also am asexual... so that does not help

(HINT: EBEC11 CHECK YOUR PM'S!! !!)

Sorry for being at school and sleeping

No problem ebec11... i understand how that stuff goes... now if only i could sleep better...

probably will just sleep in my powerchair hahaha... yay STRAPS!

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13 Feb 2008, 7:33 pm

ebec, I'm sorry that I made you have to put sad faces on your post.

I meant nothing personal. I am just so surprised and extremely disappointed that society thinks it's okay that I have to fight for my adult autistic daughter at every turn. What's wrong with people? It's not okay for parents to not follow through to create better lives for their disabled children but our culture thinks it's just fine to give up the kids to some agency and pretend that you don't know how bad things will be from now on for your kid. This is hard for my husband and me and we feel alone! We don't see parents united to advocate for their adult kids. Then when I see a post like this one, I think, this is so much more than just loving your autistic kids. There's a whole society out there who thinks it's okay to throw away autistic spectrum people.

Sorry that I was so abrupt. Life is an uphill battle for my daughter. It makes me so sad.

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13 Feb 2008, 7:34 pm

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Sorry for being at school and sleeping

No problem ebec11... i understand how that stuff goes... now if only i could sleep better...

probably will just sleep in my powerchair hahaha... yay STRAPS!

lol, that would be awesome. Imagine if you could type and sleep at the same time

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13 Feb 2008, 7:37 pm

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Okay, I understand. Society is very frustrating at times, and I don't know whether to form or to risk my child having a bad childhood like I did.

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13 Feb 2008, 8:08 pm

ebec, maybe things will get better. My husband and I are sprending the rest of our lives trying to create happy futures for our kids. We have no choice. We love our kids. Maybe there are others.

The internet and better diagnosing has allowed ways for autism spectrum people to find each other. The next step is to unite and force changes on society. It's the right thing to do. Maybe then, having kids along any kind of spectrum will be very rewarding and happy in every stage of life.

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