How do you feel when someone denies you have Asperger's?

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I've never felt the need to prove myself to anyone, my family is not one who competes so I wasn't raised that way either. So for those few that have not believed me I have no emotion either way, why should I? It's their right to believe what they want. I know I have it & the clarification has changed my life around for the better, that's all that matters.

Wrackspurt, your attitude is one to be aspired to. I'm almost there.

Anxious,i got told today by the only person i talk to apart from family that i talk to much to be autistic and can have a conversation.She said i could of been lazy and let others talk for me as a child.She said i do have eye contact problems and something must of happened to me as a little girl that stopped me making eye contact.I said i had never been abused and she said nothing.She said i was to clever to be autistic and that if it was AS i would only be clever by knowing about a certain thing.She says she knows this because she works with autistic people.She works with people who are very low functioning and need day care.
I mention walking on my toes and sniffing things all the time and i get told i should just forget about it.
I feel anxious because i had found something that made my life make sense and my parents had kept what the social worker said about autism secret.My mother thinks i am on the spectrum and should get help i feel like im going mad.
I also think its best from now on to realise that have no friend.

The time when someone denied I had Aspergers, was infuriating. They "decided" that I didn't have AS because they didn't want to believe I actually had it(this was online). They called me a fake, a fraud... stupid and spiteful crap.

So understandably, I voted angry, though I wish there was a "Disgusted" option.

Nobody can beat my therapist, though:

"I have no idea what is this Asperger's thing you speak of, but it doesn't make any difference."

Deja vu! My latest (ex) therapist said that too (same thing, slightly different wording). Then, in NOT understanding, even REMOTELY what he was trying to treat, he said, "Theory does not matter. Nothing to do with treatment." He even SPELLED 'Asperger' wrong! In reality, I am a HFA but overlap somewhat with Aspies, depending upon diagnostician (NOT this guy though, obviously). He did not even know who Dr. Hans Asperger was (NOT kidding)! !! ! Now that's frustrating. Next, when I presented him with cited current references, which he needed, he either 1) wouldn't read (selectively illiterate) and 2) upon his own admission, despite reference citations, etc, said I "just make this stuff up."
Hence EX-therapist. His harshness did me a disservice; I am really sensitive and he hurt me. I had a meltdown in his office and he didn't know what that was!

I rarely tell anyone, and I could care less if someone believes me.

Unbelievable

How do these people pass their exams?

I don't criticize therapists who don't know what AS is, but those who refuse to read about it and learn something new are, in my opinion, worth nothing as therapists.

And telling me that she can't learn about AS because she's not computer-literate...my god!

Yes, it is the unwillingness to look into it that I find unbelievable especially as autism is being talked about everywhere now, well in the UK anyway. There has been a story on TV here where there was a girl in a classroom with AS; it showed her having a meltdown.

[/quote]And telling me that she can't learn about AS because she's not computer-literate...my god![/quote]
Well, lots of people are scared of computers so the media would have us believe, but it is definitely most useful to enjoy and use computers : )

My mother has told much of the street I have autism--why I don't wave, talk to people, acknowledge their existence, and whatnot. No one seemed to doubt her. I'd be unable to tell them myself. All of the family but grandma doesn't doubt it either (there's a psychologist in the mix).

Grandma kinda says I'm perfect and no different to how I was when little (that's kinda the point nanna); quiet, well behaved, but shy and lacking in confidence.

I don't really mind if they don't believe me when I say I have it, it's when they start going through different categories of *their* definition of autism/aspergers and saying how I am non of them. Then I start to get a little upset

I get OUTRAGED man! 99.99% of people who deny I have AS are Baby Boomers. As a result I find myself in my house, telling myself in sign language, "I HATE THAT GENERATION !" Every time things get sticky between me & a member of that generation, I lose. I DON'T deserve to keep on losing ! That generation deserves to start losing to ME personally, NOT just my generation (Millennials). According to Generations: the History of America's Future - 1584-2069 by Strauss & Howe, the last Baby Boomer was born in 1960. So...if he/she lives to be 100 or older, it'll be the 2060s decade when I can rejoice that there's NOT one Baby Boomer left on the face of this earth, and I'll be in my EIGHTIES by then. Umm...that SUX!! !

My father was the first Baby Boomer to deny that I have AS. Nearly every Baby Boomer I've met since I met him has denied it. I don't know why that generation believes that there's "no such thing as a 'disability' other than hearing, sight, or mobility impairments". I believe in other types of disabilities cuz I have a different type of disability - AS.

Recently younger people have started denying that I have AS...my mental health case manager, who's only 30, my supervisor at work, and my case manager at Jewish Vocational Service. I NOT only hate the Baby Boomers, but I hate anyone else who holds their same philosophy about disabilities and limitations!

Wish I didn't feel a need to be so stereotypical and hateful...but I keep on getting mistreated by everyone I meet and there's NO end to it in sight right now

I feel anxious, frustrated, and a little bit angry.

Some people, instead of becoming more understanding, become more hostile. They say "Oh, she can't just be WEIRD, she's got to have a $&#@ DISORDER!! God, she's such an attention whore. It's ALL ABOUT YOU, isn't it??!"

People like that, I want to strangle. Worse, even. Such ignorance and hatefulness.

And I don't even care if I "have" this or that "condition" or "disorder" or "syndrome" or whatever - I just want people to not be ugly and nasty to me for being however the hell I am, period. I always go out of my way to try to be kind to people. I ask the same of them.

Upon reading the above, just a hypothetical scenario: Just suppose any one of us had, say, a visible limp with pain that sometimes became acute. So, if another might ask, or you/we offer that we have, in this scenario, multiple sclerosis (MS), would others be so quick to judge? Would they be so raging harsh? Or just plain stupid? Are NTs so inconsiderate that they feel fully entitled to judge us? Why?

I have known one with MS and this NEVER happened to him. Same with other 'disorders,' which may be necessary to discretely disclose in the school or the workplace, such as diabetes. We are easy targets; autism/AS is a mystery neuro/psych disorder with misconceptions galore. I think the misunderstanding &/or misinterpretation is one of the hardest aspects of being an Autie/Aspie.

LabPet, I'll go one step further and say that the shaming and blaming and rejecting and attacking us are the worst aspects of AS.