funny NT overinterpreting stories

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That's something that I just don't understand, because it's so different from me. And one of those things of why I definitely see myself as not-NT. I can accept that it's so, and act accordingly with those with whom I should, but I can't actually get that kind of thinking.

Oh, she knew. The quoted bits are an approximation, she actually said the name of the drug, I just figured readers here wouldn't care.



I'm sure I do that a lot. I can't say how not to, though. I can't tell if somebody is going to appreciate information I communicate, or want to argue about it (which is fine, I like a civil argument) or build on it, or if the person is going to act like my sharing information is some sort of incomprehensible personal assault and snap at me. How do you know a thing like that?

Actually, the monitor-on-cat incident, she obviously needed help and was grumbling about how she couldn't get the thing to work right. And after she had snarled at me for observing that she'd placed the clip too low, she asked another technician, who told her just what I'd said and got thanked for it. What a life.



How to be tactful. The question of the ages.



Looks bad to whom? I am not so socially inept that I ever made comments like that within earshot of clients. It's not as if they maintained an illusion of omniscience to their staff, anyway, they'd often ask me to make some excuse to a client while they snuck back and read up on stuff.



You think so? When I worked in laboratories, the big-dog doctorates never acted that way. But when I worked in a computer-parts factory, the on-site "R&D" guys, who had low-level engineering degrees, did.

The best vet there is also the youngest, and treated such comments and suggestions as valuable, which is sort of consistant with your statement. Though if you get a bunch of veterinary technicians together and get them talking about all the vets they've worked for, you'll usually find that the worst are female veterinarians who were members of that first wave of women entering the profession in the seventies. I kinda think they got trained to act defensive, by instructors who gave them a hard time in some insane effort to prove that women aren't suited to veterinary medicine. That belief didn't help me figure out how to handle them, though.

I don't know if this is the case here or not, but it seems to me sometimes people don't like something the first time they hear it, but then when they hear it again from a second person, they take it okay, and quite independent, best I can tell, from how it was said. Maybe that's a factor. Or it could be something subtle about how it was said. Or even both.

DW no worries, I appreciate your posts, actually I started getting the whole situation a lot better now.

still I haven't heard many other stories so far. I bet I'll have some more soon after the housewarming party that I'm going to next week

I agree. Everyone in the world seems to get offended too easily with this pervasive 'poor me' mentality - everyone's a damned victim. I get so tired of walking on eggs around people. The O.P. was right to laugh at the absurd comeback. I would have calmly responded with "No, I did not compare your daughter to my dog. You said that, I didn't."

There's a comedian out there (whose name escapes me at the moment) who once said about people who get too easily offended:

"Come down from your cross, use the wood to build a bridge and Just Get Over It."