Talking to people in your head

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Hi there,

For me it's always more of a monologue. Me talking to a person I imagine there. That could be a woman I fancy; in love this trait becomes obvious and the talking goes into a real compulsion and it ruins my nights. Whole 'conversations' I have with her where I fantasize her answers and thinking this is nice to say to her the next time I see her. But then when I see her, I don't remember and I go a bit silent 'cos my head's a mess. Sometimes I almost delude myself in thinking we already talked about this. Love for me means madness almost all the time and it's a goddamn shame. I quess hormones go way out of balance and althou I've been 'there' in the past, years back, I now have something; never that madness again. I keep on remembering myself that but it doesn't work that way, I quess.

But, with me, this talking to imaginairy persons is mostly based on real persons and is (strongly) stress related, I belief. In anxiety it's there more and I know perfectly well what is happening. It's not at all like talking to voices like persons with hallucinations do, I imagine. It's more a technique to get a grip on things when feeling insecure. Searching the right position or attitude. Not that it really works 'cos I can picture things would go so and so beforehand but it (almost) never does.

And yes, I think it's different and that it is an ASD thing. But this trait isn't a bad thing, per se or something, this way I make up my mind also. I determine where I stand on various topics this way. Take different standpoints or diff. perspectives on matters and when I'm in a philosophical mood I quite enjoy it. Bla, bla, bla, bla....

I could go on but I not a big fan of very long posts which is laziness on my part.

Thus best of luck,
C.

I like dreamin' Cause dreamin' can make you mine
I like dreamin' Closing my eyes and feeling fine
When the lights go down I'm holding you so tight
Got you in my arms And it's paradise 'til the morning light

I see us on the shore beneath the bright sunshine
We've walked along St Thomas beach a million times
Hand in hand, two barefoot lovers kissin' in the sand
Side by side, the tide rolls in
I'm touching you, you're touching me
If only it could be

Through each dream how our love has grown
I see us with our children and our happy home
Little smiles, so warm and tender looking up at us
Blessed by love, the world we share
Until I wake and reach for you
And you're just not there

i do too...
i used to think everybody did...but they don't

I also have an imaginary life that I play out in my head and out loud when no one is around (except my 8 year old Aspie son who does the same thing, but with more sound effects). I'm glad I'm not the only one. Sometimes both my son and I will be engrossed in our own separate worlds. I'm sure it would be really quite comical if it were caught on video, that is, if we didn't end up in a nuthouse.

To be honest, I like having an imaginary world, and I make no apologies for it. It helps me deal with life and emotions. It gives me comfort.

I do this too. Usually they are band members I know that I rarely get a chance to talk to. Once one of my little fantasies came true.
I do it the most with bands but I do it with other people I know too. It's just things work out so much better in my head than they do in real life. What happens in real life is often embarrassing and depressing.

I do this:

I imagine conversations with imaginary or real people in my imaginary worlds.
I replay conversations in my head, and either recall them as they happened or play them out differently. I try to stop myself when I do this because I don't like dwelling on social mistakes.

I always speak out loud or mutter under my breath when I do this. I usually zone out although I am "aware" of the world around me or can be snapped back to awareness. by interruptions.

I can't just imagine scenes in my head and play them out, I have to speak to move them forward. Even though I play out conversations this way I don't feel like this is verbally the same as actually having a conversation. It's more like I'm translating my thought processes into language.

I find myself doing that often. I always thought it was because I get so little social interaction so I have to make up for it. One thing I do a lot also is going over past experiences and saying what I wanted to say but didn't. Or I'll imagine an event that never happened and go over the scenario over and over. It gets quite annoying. I think for myself it's just a rehersal thing. Sometimes I worry about bad things and I try to prepare myself for them by imagining the situation and what tactics I will use to get over it. Does anyone else do this?

I talk to people in my head, some of them are real. They are nice.

I'm glad its not just me that does this.

I rehearse conversations in my head if I plan to talk to someone that day or the next day. I do it similar to "thinking ahead" in a game of chess -- that is I think about what that person may say or ask and think about how I want to respond to that.

I also "review" conversations I have had the same day.

Oh, and I um... do fantasize about meeting someone famous like my favourite musician or a ruler of a nation (eg The Queen of the UK), and sometimes 'rehearse' what I would say to them should I ever - as unlikely as this would be - meet them.

I have these conversations too, for as long as I can remember. I do it out of a habit/obsession, not because I like them.
t some moments something else seems to be happening, which is scary: when put under extreme pressure, it seems as if people start talking to me. Not so much voices, more like images/memories. Like flashbacks. These people are always people I know and the and things they say are indeed typical for them to say. What they have to say is nasty and negative and only adds to the pressure. Somehow it seems as if "they" do it on purpose, although I understand that they are not real, and consist of memories. To me, it seems like a nasty version of the OCD "Intrusive thoughts".

Hehe, yes I do this all the time and I think its normal.

Sometimes a rude person in my head suddenly throws an argument at me (maybe in the middle of a normal inner conversation) and I have to answer: "hey who are you to have that opinion?" and then try to imagine how they look like, thats when it starts to be irritating, because they change and are so devious, but I get some nuance or detail about their appearance for a second or so. It would just be interesting to know exactly how they look like

Yes, I have very long conversations in my head. Sometimes it will be planning out things I'm going to say to people I know in real life. Other times I will go over past conversations and think of how I might have said something better. And still other times I will fantasize about meeting famous people I admire, like the president or Paul McCartney and having intellectual discussions with them.

I'm way more articulate in these imaginary convos than in real life. Sometimes I'll imagine them as I'm walking or pacing. Sometimes I have them when I'm lying awake in bed at night.

ETA: Haha, I just read Sydehawk's post and realize I wrote almost the same thing. High five!

I do this also. Like most of you, I'm practicing for actual encounters.