Autism and Having Kids?

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Bizarre. I'm diagnosed AS, my son Autism. We both have red blonde hair. Due to my lack of social life/never meeting anyone my son likely to remain only child.(plus red hair, no matter how light coloured is still considered fugly)
My dad definately on the spectrum and my Grandad some kind of raging autistic savant type (PHds in Inorganic chemistry and Theology, in the 1930's when doctorate level study not so common, then worked on the railways as a porter....) They both had black hair.
We are all mainly welsh, which my mother's joke is you have to get diagnosed to prove you don't have an ASD if you are from Wales (trad welsh culture not particularly welcoming )

All of the ASD types in my family have wide occipital bones though....I wondered if that has relevance?

My dad is autistic, and so am I. He has another biological child, who is likely also on the spectrum.

I plan to have kids someday. Don't know if I'd go biological route or adopt (for population issues and physical reasons), but once my life is steadier, I would like to raise a child or more.

Yikes! I'm 30 and this feeling hasn't hit me yet but I'm really freaked out if it does! I NEVER wanted kids, maybe I'll never get the biological urge but everyone keeps saying that I will. I like having two cats. I have a difficult time just taking care of myself and them without freaking out, the thought of a screaming baby makes me upset. I don't want to get blindsided by some weird, uncontrollable biological clock from hell for no reason and then be stuck with a kid for the rest of my life. I really am not the mothering type. When people tell me that I'll change my mind I remind them that I am making the adult decision by choosing not to have kids because I am totally incapable of taking care of them.

And they piss me off in restaurants.

The fear and uncertainty and apparent total failure and crushing dread of all interaction in my first thirty years (particularly school and day releasetechnical college) on this planet - fifty now- left me with no doubt - NO KIDS. I wouldn't inflict this on anyone.

I want to have between 2 and 5 kids... When I find the point where one more will be too much, that is when I plan to stop. Gotta find a partner first though.

All taken care of - no more kids for me.


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My mother is NT, but she and I strongly suspect that my grandfather on her side had AS. I also have an aunt on my mom's side who is LFA.

I like kids and would like one, but I'll wait untill I'm out of college, married, in my own home, and in a better job.

I have two kids. One on the spectrum. Thanks to old journals, i know AS has been in my family tree for a couple of hundred years. The words "melancholy" and "eccentric" show up a lot along with the successes and failures of their obsessions.

I am an Aspie, as is my husband. We have 2 boys: one is HFA and the other is Aspie. I wish I could have had more kids, but couldn't due to the health problems of both my husband and myself. Both pregnancies were a bit unusual and also very difficult for me.

i have one child and i find it incredibly difficult being a mum dx'ed with AS.
In some ways i am an amzing mum and in other ways i am a total oddball who struggles with getting the basics done for my son.

My sensory issues can make cuddles and closeness very difficult at times.

I reserve any communication energy first and foremost for my son.
i love him. i do not regret having him.
And it is SO difficult.

I am not middle aged( at least I hope 34 is not concidered middle aged), and I am married and have two kids. One is currentyl diagnosed with Aspergers, and the other had not had any assesment, but is currently very defiant and has regressed in potty training, and behaviour.

if you dont have kids yet and thinking of having some and you got Autism or any other disorder that you coping with... don't have any children! thats just my advice cuz it will make your life easier. having kids will bring you and most importantly YOUR KIDS problems that they may not want to deal with in their and for the rest of their life.

don't be selfish and think about what you're passing on to your kids before having any.

I have two children (an NT daughter and an Aspie son), now grown up. Now I have two grandchildren (an Aspie grandson and NT granddaughter). I can't image life without them! Its a blessing words cannot describe!

I agree, that is pretty scary! I know I'm not ever going to have kids. I've never wanted them, never seen the appeal in having them. I can understand that some people do want them, but I just don't have any such desire. Plus, I can't stand kids, especially babies. That, and being pregnant would be my worst nightmare. I can't stand the thought, and being pregnant at any time in my life seems like a fate worse than death for me. I know that sounds extreme, but I can't help how I feel.

I don't think I could handle even adopting one-I can't even take care of myself. Even if I could, I'd probably end up ignoring the kid most of the time or getting so frustrated that I refuse to interact with them. So yeah, no kids for me.

Though, seeing as I'm asexual, I don't think I need to have any worry about this at all. xD

I suffered horribly and i wouldn't put any living thing through that.