Are most people with AS passive or aggressive?

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A rule based approach has a superficial resemblance to being passive aggressive.

ruveyn

Same here

I'm extremely passive for long periods of time. When that changes is usually because of a long string of events that finally hit my breaking point. You could say I just have a really long fuse tied to a really big bomb. Don't take any guesses on where that fuse ends unless you're willing to see something akin to Jesus slapping the hell out of someone while cussing them out and calling them an ape.

I have read from somewhere that when Asperger’s boys are aggressive then Asperger’s girls are passive-aggressive.
I remember when I was a teenager I knew exactly what passive-aggressive means, because I was it all the time. I wasn’t aggressive. But I could hate so strong and not to do anything about it. Same with love.
For me being passive-aggressive meant then - if I didn‘t like someone or something I wasn’t able to do anything, I made funny mistakes. If someone gave me a task, while there was something negative about it, I wasn’t able to do it. I was disabled - suddenly.
As an adult I can be very aggressive and I can be passive-aggressive. But usually I’m peaceful. I do use silent treatment every day. I make faces.
One of my principles is - "don’t fight with idiots, leave".
I’m very active, so I have many negative and positive experiences.

This describes me. It is my first instinct, but, since I have worked with a fair number of passive-aggressives in the past and see how destructive the behavior can be, I really try to solve issues more directly. I often have found myself becoming the public conscience, especially as I get older and less concerned with my image. For such a shy person, I sure found myself standing up in a lot of meetings saying "Now wait a minute..." then addressing the thing no one wanted to bring up. But, p-a is tempting behavior if you have the patience to see it through. It can have quite an effect.

Passive most of the time. Around other people extremely.

Around my family, I take it all out on them and can be aggressive.