What do u understand the term "passive-aggressive"

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Is it passive aggressive behavior if I am in a bad mood but I fake a positive attitude and not take it out on other people and I just hold it in?
I will not be a dick to anyone just because I am having a bad day and I feel stressed out and feel like I want to go home and hide.

That is how everyone is supposed to act at work anyway and in general. Positive attitude and you aren't allowed to take your anger out on anyone. But some people think they are entitled to be a jerk to people just because they are in a bad mood.

well, no, not really...passive-aggression is when you are kind, nice, loving, caring, longing for, "missing" someone, taking responsibility.............then...............

becoming angry and abusive, blaming the person for your own problems, "hating" that same person.......attacking and trying to get "revenge", etc. etc.

.......all of this going on within a matter of minutes or days.

if you want to keep your job, don't get angry at someone there.

^^^ Yes, that makes sense to me.

I agree - League_Girl's behaviour as stated is merely passive. Though many psychologists would probably say that the aggression has to come out somewhere......kicking the dog, self-harming, playing the drums etc. I don't know if they're correct, but I do see it as very probably unhealthy for somebody to bottle their anger, except in reasonably small amounts. I'm a regular pussycat in most aspects of my behaviour, but some of my jokes reveal a highly vitreolic side to my nature....also there's a lot of aggression in my singing, it's the only time I feel I have permission to really yell.


Some truth in that, but I wouldn't take it as an absolute, or you could do yourself some emotional damage - I've had a few "Kodak moments" at work, including the time I roasted a "superior" at Gas Mark 10, but I wasn't sacked for it, indeed the recipient now seems to respect me more than she did before. I don't recommend starting WW III, but practically everybody loses it from time to time, and even as an unreconstructed Marxist, I'm sure some employers and supervisors have at least a modicum of tolerance. Of course here in the UK we have relatively strong laws on fair dismissal, especially in what's left of the public sector, where the worst you'd get for bawling out one person on one occasion would be a warning.