My roommate/landlord is somewhere along the spectrum (closer to NT than me), and this guy who often visits is probably a bit Aspie. He's certainly obsessive, he's often been bullied because he doesn't understand other people very well, and he's very good with mechanics, but he's never been tested. He visits nearly every day to play board games with us. Our relationship revolves around playing board games and working on projects, such as protests, paintings, or websites. He talks A LOT, and we two women are pretty introverted, so sometimes his incessant talking blows up into arguments, especially if what he's saying is illogical. I can be pretty blunt with him if what he's saying doesn't interest me.
When he's not around, me and the roommate spend a lot of time alone together. We can spend all day together in the house, and not speak. I think I spent 2 hours today sitting in the living room with her, not talking at all. What's really great about it is, I don't feel like she's shunning me. I really enjoy not being pressured to speak. Just spending time near her is enough. But then she started working on a mix CD tonight, and I got really excited and made lots of suggestions. We also had a conversation this afternoon about books. We have a decent overlap of interests. I really like living with her because she's so tolerant of me being quiet and a bit strange. We play lots of games together and she doesn't get angry with me if I'm not sociable enough. But sometimes she gets really upset, and I don't know what to do besides leave her be or hug her. It's stressful on me because I like her so much.
21 Dec 2008, 2:02 am
