hamtaro wrote:
Paddling a child with AS Corporal punishment
First of all to my surprise the practice of paddling still exists in public schools. I can’t post the specific addresses yet due to being a new user but a simple google search of paddling schools or will yield information on the issue in the US.
Here is the blog that provoked my interest again I can’t post specific addresses so you will have to google the wording of blog to access it. The child also has type 1 diabetes and the mother mentions moving the location of the child’s infusion set to accommodate the paddling
“We took a break for a bit from our online life because our personal life was throwing too many curve balls. All of my children lost their minds, my MIL is in for a visit and we had an Endo appointment to deal with. There are a few things in all of this that I would like to share. The girl's stuff is just natural pitfalls of raising girls, like a teen love break up, the youngest trying for some added attention, you know life. My MIL's visit is good, I love her. The Daniel things that have been going on are a bit more tricky.
In the world of Asperger's Daniel has been struggling. He got himself into major trouble at school for messing with the computers in the computer lab. While I am not shocked that it had to do with computers, being the little computer junkie he is, the language he used in his crime floored me. I have always taught my children that curse words or vulgar language in general is not necessary and that if they have a strong vocabulary they don't need those words anyway. Not to mention that it is disrespectful and in my view disappointing to God. Anyway, the act he committed had three options for discipline. The principal could suspend him from school, do an in-school suspension or corporal punishment. This decision was tough for her to make because, well, she cares about these kids and trys to understand the situations. She did not want to do the in-school suspension because of his diabetes and the lack of a teacher to help him care for his blood sugars. She did not want to suspend him because of his Asperger's and the whole of that consequence was too much for his punishment. The only choice left was a paddling and she was afraid of hitting his sites. We decided that the paddling would be best and then we would also reinforce the punishment at home in a way that would help him understand the importance of what he had done. She put the paddling off until Monday so that I could get his sites moved from his hips to more safe body parts. He deserved punishment, he knew it was wrong. I think that he was probably trying to impress "friends" but I am not sure. I love that the principal was so thoughtful in her choice of punishment. I love that I did not have to jump to his defense and in doing so sending a message to my son that he could get away with things because of his health issues. I love that he is in a school that cares about him and trys to understand why he does things instead of just throwing him aside as a trouble maker. He will not be viewed as a problem child from here on, instead they get why he does things, deals with him appropriately and moves on to hopefully better times and decisions. That is priceless.
The paddling happened on Monday. Our punishment for him was that he was grounded from the home computers, the phone and no friends would come over for one week. This is huge in his world because 1) he is a computer junkie and 2) the computer is his escape. Keep in mind that while my MIL is here Daniel does not have the solitude of his room, he has been moved upstairs during the visit. I did not think about all of this, I did not feel I had a choice at the time of handing down his sentence. No retreat, no escape, uprooted routines, and uncertainty, does not make for a happy boy. Monday night, it all crashed. We had the mother of all meltdowns. I had to hold him tight and it took all of my strength as he wailed in frustration. Once he calmed down we decided that we would put up his bed tent so he would have a place of escape. The tent and some quiet time really helped.
Tuesday was the day of his Endo appointment and I was really dreading it. The last couple of weeks have been so off that his blood sugars have been a struggle. Apparently I underestimate the power of Cody. I did not think about the fact that Cody alerts us to so many more numbers than we would catch on our own and gives us the chance to deal with them in a more timely manner. Last visit the A1c was 8 and I was not a happy camper. This time the A1c was 6.4 and we were all elated. This is the lowest A1c Daniel has had to date. It took us four years but we took it from 12 to 6.4! Woo Hoo.
After the proper appointment it was the visit for the blood draw. In anticipation of this we had put EMLA cream on his arm before we got to the office. We found a point on the ceiling to distract him and she went to work. She could not find his vein, she made several attempts and then went to get another nurse. Oh boy, I did not cream the other arm. The guy comes in and looks at both arms and agrees we need to do the right arm. He has freeze spray, thank you to the inventor of this nifty invention. First try, done. No meltdown, no tears, just a successful draw. Now he is determined to find a squeeze toy like they had, it was an animal with gel in it, but the gel had tons of test strips in them. Daniel was quite taken with that and now has to have one. Anyone know where I might can score a test strip, gel filled, animal, squeeze toy? LOL
In conclusion, Diabetes is being contained for the moment, Asperger's is being wild but we are working on it, School is trying to help all they can, and life just keeps on truckin. What a ride.”
....now why my troll indicator is vipering? there should be no country padling is still allowed..not in germany ,not in sweden,nt in holland.......list goes on..is it really case that usa needs that to keep dicipline?
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15 Feb 2009, 5:32 am
