Do people stare at you?

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Last December at a bookstore, some 13-year-old kept staring at my neck for some unknown reason. She did this for about five minutes straight until I finally said "Boo" to her. I grew up in an inner city school district. What do you expect? lol At least she stopped then!

My mom and I had been talking about "Twilight" while she was doing that. I'm assuming she was one of those really obsessed fangirls who probably thought she was a vampire to some extent. Weirdo...

Some people just seem strange at first glance. Sometimes only for subtle elusive reasons.
There are people who just catch my eye and draw my curiosity like they were a fairy and I seem to do that to others.
I look stoned (like many aspies). I look cartoony (like many aspies).
People will look at me like they're amused, amazed, scared or just curious.
It can be interesting when I stare back and they don't look away. I've had strange moments when I've met eyes with strangers or people I know.

Yup. For years I thought I was imagining it, but now I know they do. Mostly anymore I stare back, but I know it just stresses me out to worry what they think of me. I did get a good laugh the other day when the neighbor guy across the street was talking on the phone and staring at me. I waved and he turned around with this pissed look on his face

Like others have said I believe we do have different physical traits and characteristics that others may notice more quickly. We keep to ourselves and many times often do to rejection keep to ourselves which makes NTs either crazy or suspicious particulairly in this day and age. I have come to that conclusion too that they don't understand and they are afraid and curious of what they don't understand.

If they really tried to get to know me they would find out am not that much different. I traveled alot with my family and traveled in Europe with my sister. I read and enjoy cooking, the arts and faith. I am softhearted and will help when I am able. I like children and love to put their art on my fridge and have 2 pets and wish we could afford a farmette. I've said all of this to vent, because people are viewed as different they are often left to themselves, a few friends and some family.

I would have to say yes, and some people wink at me sometimes. The winkers include men and women. I sometimes wonder if I just happen to be catching them blinking in an odd fashion in only one eye. The winking usually follows me asking a question or some kind of brief verbal exchange. When I used to walk more often men would stop and ask if I wanted a ride, I really never knew what to make of that.

Yes and if they notice that it bothers you to be stared at they will do it on purpose to be mean. So, I just try to not let them see that it bothers me or else stare back at them and till they look away. They don't like when you stare back at them so they should know that it's rude for them to be staring at you.

Yes, becuase NTs can instinctivley sense "differences" and it threatens them. In fact, I suspect that goes a long way into why people occasionaly react in violent and hateful ways to my prescence (However, this is somewhat exasperated by the fact that Pennsylvania is not a particularly tolerant place in general).

Yes. especially younger kids. I also find myself staring at other people, or more acurately, staring through them and not really at them.

Are you sure you have nothing sticking out? Because sometimes that can happen with women and they don't even notice. Come to think of it, guys can do that too. Be sure to check for wordrobe malfunctions before you leave the house. We Aspies often have a really bad sense of fashon.

I wouldn't really know if people are staring at me, because I don't look at them to find out. *shrug*

I do get that feeling that people are looking at me. I usually ignore it but sometimes I feel paranoid.

i just came across this thread as this has been plaguing me too. thank you! its nice to know im not imaginging things. i never could figure ou how people could know theres something different about me from a glance, but they all sure notice something (i am not an attractive female)

Yes! (hen I'm not invisible that is.)
I'll be on the tram, and women will stare at me or my clothes. They look away if I catch them, but if I watch them out of the corner of my eye and act like I'm not looking they'll study me at their leisure. WTF? Didn't think I was that interesting.

I noticed in my mid-teens that I was being stared at, even though I was not doing anything particularly 'odd'. I specifically mentioned when because a year or two later, I developed Tourette syndrome followed by dystonia (which makes my right side twist inwards leaving me in an awkward posture) so now there is more reason to stare. I've excepted to some degree that people walking by what looks like a transvestite (I've got short hair and look like a 12 year old boy but wear girls clothes because I AM a girl) in a wheelchair who is twitching and shouting ARE going to stare, but what bothers me is those who not only have a good look, but won't STOP looking at me. I'm just sat there thinking, 'the tourettes isn't going to go, it's not going to change, bugger off!' A lady in the shopping center today was just STARING at me because I was screaming (a tic of mine) and I thought to myself, 'okay, you've taken a good look, now move along...' Instead of moving along, she stopped right in front of my wheelchair, widened her eyes and glared at me. The stress made my tics worse and I suddenly yelled 'F**K YOU!! !' about 4 times... she walked away, staring over her shoulder with what looked like a 'well I never' expression on her face when my TS gave one last 'F**K YOU C**TY B***H!!'... Well at least she stopped staring then...

By the way, I had deliberaetly put myself in a position to keep away from the glare of the public but she seemed to have made some strange effort to walk in front of me.... Oh and also, TS Isn't funny so don't you lot go trying this!

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