Are We in a Narcissism Epidemic? (Newsweek)

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While on the subject of sociopaths: Phillip Markoff the alleged "Craigslist Killer" could not fit the description of one any better. This guy is a perfect example of a bona fide sociopath and how one can succeed because they are so good at fooling others. It never ceases to amaze me. If you have the looks, the smarts, the family connections, and the social skills you can fool anyone. He's a pre med (or med, one) student at Boston college set to marry in August.
The only reason this guy didn't get away with it is because he used the internet and the FBI easily tracked his IP address.
However, his fiance, who probably knew him better than anyone, cept his own mom and maybe even better than her, says, "he wouldn't harm a fly".
Like I said, it amazes me! I can't believe how good some people are at fooling others. I honestly don't know how they manage it. Apparently, this guy managed it pretty well.

I see the decline of subtance and place, a lack of merit covered by a show of success.

In my neighborhood we have The Plumber Queen. Her husband is a minor plumber, but do to connections in the trade, they bought a teardown, and built a big box. The first thing she did was call the building inspectors when I was repairing my roof. I had to get a building permit, for she was running the neighborhood now.

Let us say she was not friendly. She acted superior, and got laughed at by the older residents.

Next to my house the same happened, a bigger and nicer house, and they guy came over to ask if he could bring a contracter into my yard, which is open, to point out something which could not be seen from his yard. His house is worth three times mine, but he is a very soft spoken and polite fellow.

He was granted endless permission to come into my yard at any time, and when his dogs get out, I go tell him. He will have nothing to do with The Plumber Queen. Economically he is much better off than the plumber, but talks old cars and motorcycles with me, and visits with the mexican family across the street.

He has education and subtance, but likes a quiet life. He is a good neighbor.

Another family did the same a few doors down, and built a huge house with a pool, and The Plumber Queen had to tear out her back yard and put in a pool. They also ignore her. They had new cars, she has been buying new cars. My neighbor is driving the same one he came with.

There have been a lot of people like her that move into my neighborhood for the status, then look for who they can look down on. She hates us, so I leave cardboard boxes on my porch.

I have heard that she belongs to many organizations, most likely our Homeland Security spy, and tells everyone she leads our neighborhood. No one here will speak to her.

This is our homes, but in a purely social world, she would manipulate. There are a bunch of them and they form gangs.

The rich folks down the street once asked if they could trim the bushes by the sidewalk, their little girl just got her first bike, and of course, but I did hire your lawn guy, and he should have kept it clear. The bushes have been neatly trimmed since.

Those of merit and ability are the nicest people.

The old royality did have their good and bad, but mostly good, European cities, Universities, the arts, did not just happen. They kept nation sized economies running, everyone eating, and an orderly life.

Some of the new people were flashy, worked at building a name, but most of theose were known for learning, talent, drive, and the big jobs came from King and Church. They rose because they made themselves useful.

What we have now is money without talent. What someone else earned, they try to buy.

They think the new car, big house, latest clothes, will make them people.

They send their children to the best schools, so they will meet the right people.

The sons of plumbers could become very good plumbers, but send them to school with the sons of lawyers, doctors, and there is still a class differance that money cannot change.

They get over educated to be plumbers, but it does not open the door to a better life, it just becomes more expensive.

I go with Epicurus, a modest meal, a slighly better bottle of wine, but good friends who share your place in life and interests.

Those seeking status are always trying to fit where they are not part of the world. They can go to the schools, buy their way into clubs, but they do not get invited for the bottle of wine and watching the sun set. The world moves on around them, and they are left with debt.

They are trying to get in where personalities and generations have created a culture, just knowing the son from school will not get a high paying job from his father, that job will go to someone who is crosslinked into the whole of the group pattern of success. Bankers do not need a plumber on staff.

As a plumber he could have improved life for a whole crew, made a good living, gained wealth.

Hundreds of thousands have gone for the MBA, but never understood the mutual survival of business.

You get what we have, empty suits that loot their company, for money was their only goal. Stockholder value, the workforce, mean nothing to them, they send the work to Mexico or China, get a large bonus, and leave towns to die.

The old saying was, "Shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves in three generations." Grandfather worked for it, son lived on it, grandson blew it. There is a lot of that.

Other families can lose it all, and a few years later have it back, for they have the trust of many. They see their function in the community. It might make them rich, but it is about doing what is needed.

To think of only yourself, is a small world, to think of what will help all to a better life, all will support it.

Find a place where the value of your service is much greater than your needs for support.

The people who rose to fortune were like Ford, he paid top wages, and more, healthcare, retirement, on the job training and promotion, and he turned out a good product at a fair price. He worked hard for his people, and then started the Ford Foundation to make a better world. A lot of people lived, bought houses, a car, Ford of course, raised and educated children, all because Ford worked hard.

It is not dead, Bill Gates had a non life, but we have the Internet. Warren Buffet did nothing but look at the stock market, and helped a lot of people hold on to their money.

Not everyone gets rich at it, but Mother Terasa is well thought of. The Ladies of the Garden Club have kept many a small town alive. Thinking beyond self is what works.

Those trying to become someone other than themselves lose what they had, most important, a few friends and equals, simple fare, and time for reflection. The education and job do not get it, and when as hundreds of thousands in New York are discovering, the job is gone, no one knows you. You are a stranger to all, and to yourself.

When the job is the identity, yes, they do have to think they deserve it, to go out and get a life, for they lack one. They passed but did not learn.

Now the big house and many forms of debt are demanding, and they are really alone. They just rented the image. Millions are discovering they have no subtance, or idea of how to get any.

The same happens with those who get by on being young and cute, one morning they are neither any longer.

A long and happy life is based on educating yourself, learning yourself, and seeing how that can be of use to all. A good plumber can have an interest in Egyptian history, and support the Library.

Being useful at what you are is easy, and secure. It grows, changes with the times, and most important, keeps you active.

Advancing in years you find most stopped, from all the same in school, sort of, many just vanish into the world of work and TV. Many try harder, lots die at 43, the rest seem waiting to die, and after 65, most do in a year and a half. They isolated themselves from life.

At 62 I am starting a few new projects, keeping up with some old ones, and know people from eight to ninety. I keep up on current events and technology. I am upgrading my publishing which is magic machines to me. Next come a web site, something techno art. Life is constant learning.

Living your own life is the only workable goal.

The Greeks said, " In old age there are but two regrets, those things you did, and those you did not, and between the two, what you did not, are by far the worse."

Don't save sex for your old age, as Janis said, "Get it while you can!"

^ great post Inventor.