symptoms of asperger syndrome really defined

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mild, used to be moderate. I don't usually say exactly what I feel but my face and body say it all and I don't make enough of an effort to hide them.




mild. I find myself being too wary of people, but at the same time I am very very naiive. So when I am being tricked I fall for it too easy, so I end up thinking I can never trust anyone, but I always do.



Moderate, expecially the public attention to skin problems.



Rarely

Guilty. But when I feel really safe with the people concerned, which doesn't happen much especially these days, I love being with them for maybe up to half my total waking hours. I even went through a phase when I'd let people hang out in my room with me - and it was my only private space at the time. I just love friendly, respectful people, and I'd found a whole bunch of them. I was at the time obsessed with redefining myself as a social being as well. These days, privacy is vital to me and I keep myself to myself a lot more. It's very lonely but that's what I do now


Not guilty........my mother must have beaten all that out of me (it was common to do that with kids in the 1950s where I lived). That is, it's still there but I don't seem able to show it all that directly. I get angry inside easily enough, and sometimes I get even But the good old-fashioned temper tantrum, nope. Maybe it's made worse because I stick to mild-mannered people as friends, and anger upsets them, so I feel inhibited. When my wife starts barracking me I just do the "disgusted & dignified" thing, like I won't stoop to that level. Sometimes I'll issue a clever put-down and call it quits. If temper means out of control, I'm never that.

Me, not so much the second, but definitely the first. All the way.

Criticism in the sense of attacking someone or talking down to them like a child for making an honest mistake, is unecessary. A simple response would be to speak privately in an adult like manner with the person saying something like; "Your actions are well done in effort but unfortunately are not netting the proper results; these are the steps that need to be followed to gain the required results. Please add these to your process to insure your success at reaching the objective. Thank you."

Painless right?

Same. High school tempered me into a vicious, unforgiving mould, and my interaction with people is still affected by it.

5- difficulty with adopting social masks to obscure real feelings and emotions...moderate to severe symptom
Hmmm… People around me might be better judges of that… But I sure don’t act bubbly if I’m down or angry. I can’t say that I intentionally mislead anyone and I’m not phony even if it is deemed appropriate (something that just increases my contempt for NT behaviour) so I probably have some degree of it.

6- low to medium level of paranoia.......mild to moderate symptom.
I know that no one is deliberately out to get me. However, I’ve had more than my share of bad experiences, so sometimes it seems that I only atttract people with mal intents, especially in the below 20 group, and so I easily expect the worst from them. That’s due to experience, though. I don’t walk the streets looking over my shoulder. I don't think I have it, or if I have it it's very mild.

7-failure to distinguish between private and public personal care
habits: i.e., brushing, public attention to skin problems, nose picking, teeth picking, ear canal cleaning, (lol) clothing arangement..........mild to moderate symptom

In varying degree. I don’t pick my nose, but I do catch myself picking my teeth with my tongue (if something is stuck, that is) or picking on scabs. I’m not at all concerned about whether or not my clothes match. My fashion sense is nonexistent. So moderate I guess.

8- RIGID adherence to rules and social conventions where flexibility is desirable................mild to moderate symptom
I’m lousy at picking up on such things but when I do and I see people break them it strongly attributes to my general deprecation.


9-social isolation and intense concern for privacy.....symptom moderate to severe
Yes, to a severe degree.

10- flash temper....symptom mild to moderate....
Can you say ”nuke”? Yes, I definitely have a temper.

Severe. I am mostly alone and severely socially isolated. Even during times in my life when I was surrounded by people, I was severely isolated and ignored. I cannot feel a connection to them, so the desire for company for its own sake is mostly lacking. There are also issues/baggage in addition to this related to trust and anger that sometimes surface.



Moderate.

Yep, got that. How severely depends on the day, the situation and how my last esperience with NTs went. There are definitely days when I don't even want them looking at me.



Yes, now it's mild to moderate, when I was younger it was probably mod to severe. I've worked my a** off on this one for my own sake. I really don't like feeling angry, it's physically AND mentally painful, and it sure complicates the bejeezus out of my life.

hi donkey, i am so glad you are working on number 10....the good thing about our "nuclear tempers" is that they can be quick to dissolve if we walk away or breathe deep, or really concentrate on controlling...god luck


social symptoms of asperger

11- difficulty judging other peoples space..symptom moderate to severe......lol, not at all.........i have a real keen nose still to this day and can smell breath real easy, lol....or body order...both make me want to puke so i judge physical distances aok, lol............and i am always annoyed if someone gets to close to me


12- limited by intensley pursued interests.....symptom mild to moderate...............in my youth yes, but they were not disabling...........as i got older i was not limited by them, they enhanced me and built on to other intensley pursued interests...........i love intensley pursued interests.....................what is your favorite intensley pursued interest in all of your life?..............mine is the history of the lives of the united states presidents, their wives, childern, and administrations

I don't usually invade people's space, but there are definitely times when I don't know if it's OK to hug or touch a friend. I may be giving too much space sometimes... this is part of that whole secret NT language thing that I study, and I can't say I'm particularly fluent yet.



Frankly, I think my special interests saved my bacon in school... I was so into horses I basically shut anyone out that wasn't, so I was pretty oblivious to the fact that I wasn't part of the whole school social scene. I hung out at the stable with all the other horsey people and we were busy with the animals, so I suffered relatively little social trauma growing up, compared to many folks on these boards.

Because so many of my special interests have revolved around activities, such as horses or Search and Rescue, I've been in mild social situations all along, among people that appreciated skill and knowledge. That's also been a big help.

So this was not a limitation in my book, but how I find my place in the world.

Probably guilty - I don't know what space others expect (assuming you're talking about the personal "air-space" around individuals), so I try to err on the side of caution and grant them a wide berth. Not liking to be suddenly invaded myself, I tend to assume others would feel the same. I do occasionally touch people but always feel unsure about it, unless it's a sexual partner, and even then I can be unlikely to initiate a lot of touch. Also I'm not fanatical about washing, and never use chemical deodorants, so if the other person might be sensitive or finicky in that regard, I'll keep my distance. Not that I pong, I just like to be sure. I've noticed some smelly people and it puts me off them, so I'd hate to think I was putting people off in the same way. Though I don't mind the smell of clean, honest sweat, and have known others who don't. We're all supposed to have natural scents and I think it's a shame the way so many people wash it all off and replace it with false, manufactured stuff - most of those just stink IMHO. Anyway, I digress.


Don't know. It depends on what's meant by limiting - I suppose I've lost out socially when I've been pursuing my own individual interests, though I eventually get lonely and snap out of it for a while. What else would I have done with the huge amounts of time I've spent on computers, music, electronics, darkroom processing, writing, etc. etc.? I have this notion that I waste most of my life and that I could have spent the time on "socialising" instead, but how successful would that have been, realistically? Or I could have maybe pursued a high-powered career or become a capitalist, or tried to be famous.....I can't see it would have made me happy.
Then I see ideas like this:
“The perfect blossom is a rare thing. You could spend your life looking for one and it would not be a wasted life.”
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The only real "limitations" of my special interests happen when I wanted to do other things but got so absorbed that I forgot. That one worries me so much these days that I'm nervous about really involving myself in anything fascinating.

can be mild, moderate or severe depending on my mood, some days I feel like being really social next I want to be on my own with no one to bother me.


Mild when out, absolutely f*****g HARDCORE at home.



mild, I'm either following someone around or being to distant, I can't seem to get it right. And I'm often stuck when or when not to hug people.


Not sure, I have intense interests but I'm not limited by them.

Out of all 12 points 9 of them apply (5,7, and 11 don't apply to me at all). The two points that apply to me most are 3 and 9 without doubt.

lol, i have always loved jim morrison and the doors

sometimes i think he wrote this about us...i have always had a kinship like thing with this song

11- difficulty judging other peoples space..symptom moderate to severe
No, not at all; on the contrary I can’t get enough space between myself and whoever I talk to or am around.

12- limited by intensley pursued interests.....symptom mild to moderate.
I definitely have intensely pursued interests, but they don’t feel limiting, they feel mind expanding.

Ah, but might you be erring on the side of a large space so as to avoid having to estimate the actual required space? Or to put it another way, your method would mask any difficulty of judgement that you may have, as you'd never have to put it to the test?