I DON'T WANT CHILDREN!! !

Post Reply New Topic

I am fine with those who are child-free, just like any who make life choices for themselves. What I am not fine with are the "rabid child-free". They're the nuts who seem more obsessed with children and parents, than the parents themselves. They sit around and think of derisive terms for parents, such as "moos", and call children "crotch loaves". It is one thing to make the choice not to have, it's another to make a large production out of it. Perhaps people react negatively because they feel as if you're being pushy with your beliefs.

I have several friends who don't want children, and they're quite happy. One turned out to be a rabid child-free person, and I could not handle being around him. That level of obsession is not healthy.

One of the kind of, hmm, odd things about getting an AS diagnosis, to me was suddenly finding myself in a group about which it was discussed, or who themselves discussed whether they ought to have children or not... I had never imagined that I ever should belong to such a group... as it's certainly said about very few people.

I've always thought that I might get some one day, and as a kid I read a lot on childrearing, birth, pregnancy etc., kind of an obsession maybe, and I also imagined myself being a mother and played a lot with baby dolls.

But now, as a grown up, I don't long for getting kids. But don't absolutely reject the thought either.
However, I ask myself if I would be able to take well care of them, or if I would be too confused or forget too many things, or if I would forget to teach them too many NT-like "normal" things, or not do things right, be too executively dysfunctional in some aspects, become too overwhelmed or whatnot... so I don't know if I should make it a conscious choice as such. (And say that I've had my "maternity" period in my childhood.)

Another thing is, I don't long for a boyfriend / getting married and don't think it matters. So there would most likely not be a father in the first place. But also here: I might change my mind, I've not taken nun vows or such. It has just never been an interest to me. As in, you couldn't even call me "picky", because I never looked for one...

Just now I just think: fine if it happens, fine if it doesn't.
I am an aunt and enjoy that!

But just the thought of belonging to a group that maybe, maybe not ought to have kids, that's a bit odd, and a bit sad, like: another thing I wouldn't be able to... and should we then also discuss whether we ourselves should have been born or not? Probably not, maybe my logic just runs too far here?

Maybe I just end up like the kind of crazy, spinsterlike auntie... but maybe it isn't that bad??

How 'bout 20 reasons why Facebook sucks...

Wow, that woman is a nasty JERK!

I wonder what she thinks of kids who are brats or bullies? Still okay and perfect?

Let me introduce you guys to the "comment war" she had on this note I put:
http://www.facebook.com/StewartMango?v= ... 5956582604

Her and this kid argued for 3 HOURS!! !

There is no good reason whatsoever to have children.

I don't understand why anyone's forcing you to have children at 20; that's ridiculous.

I don't think I'll ever be old enough for my mum to say I'm old enough to have children anyway! I do want them, and I am pretty confident I will be a good mother. I already step-parent, and I helped my mother bring up my brother, so it's all good.

I don't want them.

I get told all the time I will change my mind and that will only EVER happen if i'm with a man I love and am rich etc and want them then.

I see children mainly as a financial burden.