Callista wrote:
17.
Seems to me that there are different ways to be "sensitive", and only some of them are true of me; for example, I don't pick up other people's emotions, I don't avoid violent movies/video games, and I don't have a huge problem with having a lot of work to do (though I do have problems organizing myself well enough to attack it properly). I'm not in general an anxious person; things just tend to overload my circuits more easily than most people's.
I think this little survey is asking a lot of questions in areas that are only weakly related.
I agree. I think the test is not that great. It basically asks "Are you sensitive?" and if you answer yes, then the results come back that you are sensitive.
I also agree there are different ways to be sensitive. And I think I've just had an epiphany of sorts. I realized that my main problem with coping in life is that am extremely sensitive emotionally and I don't have any means to cope with it. I used to think that I was overly fearful, but I realize now that I am right to be fearful, because when I have a serious setback (serious to me, that is, since it could be something that someone else would just sail through), something that upsets me greatly, then I don't ever bounce back from it. The older I get, the more open wounds I've accumulated, that never heal.
The conventional wisdom is that whatever happens to you makes you stronger, so you can cope with it better the next time, but my experience has been that whatever happens, it makes me more afraid, and the next time something happens my ability to cope is worse, not better.
And I am someone who has been fortunate enough to have never suffered any tragedies or abuse, only garden-variety pain and suffering, and yet these mundane setbacks have left me crushed.