Are Aspergians really rude and inconsiderate?

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This makes it all very confusing!....however, I DO help people up after a fall, unless they scramble up before I have a chance to. But in the article, the author also said he held out his hand to help his wife (as I recall), so I guess the reason he was accused of lack of empathy was that he just didn´t make enough of a fuss?

I also find this whole "refusing food when offered" thing totally difficult. I was reading about it lately: it´s really hard to know when to insist. If I ask someone if they want something to eat or drink, and they say "no", my tendency is to want to believe they are telling the truth. Why would it be a bother on my part, if I offered? I find it very difficult when people "insist" on giving me food, after I say "no"! I have food allergies and some digestive problems, so sometimes I really don´t want what they´re offering me. But after awhile, if they insist too much, I feel like it´s almost impolite to say no. It can be a very uncomfortable situation when you really are speaking literally! Can´t there be a special signal or something- "now I´m speaking literally"- or- "now I´m just being polite, so I really want the opposite of what I´m saying"?

When I'm angry but when I'm happy I'm the strong opposite.

For many years we Aspergians have been wrongly accused of lacking empathy, consideration, and respect for the feelings of others. Please let me state for the record that nothing could be farther from the truth. We often care very deeply about the thoughts and feelings of others...often to a fault. To those NT people, especially women, who say that we creep them out, I have news for you. We're much more afraid of you than you should ever be of us. We certainly mean no harm and merely try to reach out to you in our own way.

There is a very serious problem in our society when we can't show a common courtesy, such as opening a door or offering a train seat, to a woman without being accused of making an improper sexual advance...and not necessarily by the woman herself. It gets very frustrating when our most noble intentions are misinterpreted. We are not perverted monsters. If anything, we're more often prey than predator.

If I was walking with someone and they tripped and fell over I'd at first stand still and stare from being overcome with sudden emotion. Then I'll probably say 'are you ok?' It depends on how much I knew them. I remember a time when someone had hurt themselves or was upset and I couldn't bring myself to do anything about it. The emotional reaction paralyzes me. People probably see this as rude or awkward.
My mum is moody right now and I'm ignoring her because the emotions I pick up from her negative attitude make me feel uncomfortable. Almost as though her mood is contagious.

If I see somebody struggling with packages or a door, or fallen over, I ask them if they want my help. I was taught to do this when working in a disability centre (offering help to someone who is coping fine, in their own way, can be hurtful) and by the ambulance service (in first aid, never touch a stranger until you get permission or you know for sure they can't answer).

But I sometimes find that people get really offended when they drop things, I ask "can I pick that up for you?" and they shout some obscene version of "what do you ?&*£ think?", although I just walk on if they do that.

i also have an attention defifit, which .. i may be rude becausei get bored easilywith games or conversations, so i drive the current conversation down quickly, so i dont have to listen anymore. most ppl who know me well, i dont have to explain my rudeness, but tonew people who dont know me as well, ill let them know im getting really frustratd and bored, do you mind quitting this game while your ahead? lol or if it keepsgoing and i dont say anything it gets worse because i act as if i dont care and thers a reason to why i dont,.. ugh

oh s**t, yeah ive done that exact same thing before.... s**t, i felt so bad because i hada loss of words and movement, (if a kid trips and falls and the parent isnt paying close attn or is gone temporarily)

im a bit slow at responding to things that i seee, but once the answer gets to me.. its always worth the wait? er... its always good? well sometimes its too late to do nything which sucks ass....

No, it's the neurotypicals that bully us that are the bullies. they're the teachers that humiliated us in front of entire classes, they're the kids who picked on us in school, they're the employers that single us out, they're the w*kers that shove us into low-paying jobs like we're like a bunch of monkeys, they're the customers at the supermarket i work at that make wisecrack jokes and complain about me to the manager behind my back, they're the supermarket managers that try to intimidate me, and yet, you have the audacity to ask if Aspergians are rude? I try to go out of my way to be nice to people. You're wrong.

so, the post above mine s name is morgana.... i think? thats a charcter on LoL? is it or just a name by coincidence? i know the face is eden or e.?sOMETHING from FF8 the empress woman evil who turns good.. yada whatever, . ANY

ANYWAYS, just a random question.. do you play LoL? league of legends? if so... whats ur char name? mines Filaspark, havent played in a while but i do love it when i got friends to play with..

and im quite good :p

the term used for someone with Asperger Syndrom is Aspie no Aspergian

Both terms are used: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&site ... d=0CBIQkAE

The term "Aspie" is probably used more often. I know no other definition for "Aspergian" than an alternate term for "Aspie", or, in other words, a person who has Asperger´s Syndrome. You could just as easily title this thread "Are Aspies rude and inconsiderate?"- they both mean the same thing. Therefore, slander against "Aspergians" is slander against anybody with Asperger´s Syndrome.