Aspie females = Tomboys?

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Any woman with a Strong personality is probably going to get called a tomboy really.

that's entirely true, guy with the unpronounceable name...

Until I found out about AS, I didn't know WHAT I was. I guess I equated "tomboy" with sports, or mechanics (like that old movie!) - both of which I do not like at all.

But, as an adult, I have come back to accepting the things I loved when I was younger - dinosaurs, maps, outer space, building, computers, and other "male" type activities, that I was discouraged from by myself and others.

One thing I love is building things out of wood, large things like tables, bookcases, etc. which is not typically "Female" and I dont know where it came from, but as far back as I can remember, I always did "picture thinking" or thought in 3-D.

As far as toys, we were three girls, so I played w what we had! But I still remember the LOVE I had for lego and "Jetscream" from the Transformers!

As a 30 yr old woman, I often forget to concern myself with how I look. I like to wear basically a uniform, so that I can think about more important things!

I am a 26 year old female Aspie and I have never really been into girlie things. I like to ride my scooter, play video games, basketball and soccer. I prefer to wear shorts and pants to a skirt so yeah a bit of a tomboy.

I have always been a tomboy. I emember wanting to not wear a shirt when I was 6 and wondering why my mom told me I had to. I wore boys shoes. In middle school I never ever bought women's clothes and my grandmother hated me because I wasn't girly. Getting my period was the worst thing that ever happened to me and as a result of being paranoid about it, I wore three pairs of pants and huge bulky pads and walked funny. I quit going to camp even though I loved it for fear of getting my period. I often dress in boys clothes when I am alone and bored. I wish I was male a lot of the time. I like girly dresses, but only for dressup and the ones that I choose are not in style and I'm sure I look awkward. I never dress really revealingly, but sometimes I wear girl clothes when I go out to bars. I want to lose weight so that I can pass for an emo boy. When I was little I liked my little pony (still do, one of my obsessions) but I could not stand Barbie. I loved little people and wanted the house for Christmas one year. That year my mom also got me a doll cradle and rainbow brite, which I didn't care about at all. I wish I was a boy because I want to get tattoos all over my body and pierce my lip and get my ears gauged. I think ppl might think I am lesbian if I dress like a guy too much. Then I like looking at pics of naked women and get nothing out of looking at a naked man, yet I love sex with men. Talk about confused!

I'm feminine in that I do love floral patterns and pastel colors, but I think part of my preference for women's clothes is that I like 'different', eye-catching things, and men's clothes these days tend to be quite plain. I adore some of the men's fashions from historical periods when they were more flamboyant.

I feel like I have a more masculine brain in a lot of ways. I've never worn makeup in my life, and I *very* seldom wear any jewellery - I don't even have my ears pierced - and my watch is digital and functional and looks like a guy's watch. I haven't got the slightest interest in wandering round stores for hours looking at clothes and beauty products; I'd much rather go and shop for DVDs and games. I don't actually like most other women very much. All they seem to do is gossip, giggle, and whine about how awful men are and how one was so horrible because he forgot their birthday or something. Is that kind of thing important to a lot of people? It seems hugely unimportant to me.

'Girly' TV shows and movies bore me. I like silly comedies and action/adventure type things. My favorites are still the action shows I grew up with in the eighties. I'm told that most adults that are still fans are guys.

When I was small, I mostly played with my train set, lego, and sets of farm animals. A bit later I had Barbie dolls, but I was more interested in arranging and making things for the house (my love of detail again) than really playing with the dolls. I did quite a lot of drawing. I used to do intricate designs - very precisely, with rulers and compasses - of new 'inventions', like cars with hundreds of fabulous gadgets and machines to do daily tasks.

It's interesting that there are posts from people on this topic who feel that they're asexual. I've felt like that as long as I can remember - I went through a period of wondering if I was gay and repressing it, because I had no interest in any kind of sexual activity with men, but then I realized I didn't have that kind of interest in women either. I can feel incredibly aesthetically and emotionally attracted to men - I believe I'm perfectly capable of being 'in love' in my own way - but that's as far as it goes.

Solidess, I am similar. I am straight and hate sports, but have never fit in well with "girl" stuff and always did weird things with weird (non-girl) toys when I was younger. I primarily played with rocks and sticks. I have to make an extra effort to dress "pretty" if the occasion calls for it. While I don't naturally dress male I definitely naturally dress "plain."

But in many ways I'm decidedly female too... I too wish there were more studies and information about aspie females.

i'm a tomboy
i'm the only girl in my class who didn't go eww! while disecting a frog in 7th grade. I never played with barbie dolls and preferred playing with bugs when i was a kid. I just can't get into the whole "girly" thing. I barely ever stylize my hair and enjoy digging in the dirt in search of insects. I never really wear make up either. If i wore makeup then how could enjoy playing in the rain on short notice?

Here's my thoughts on why it seems most Aspie girls are tomboys. It could be the way the brain is developed, since Asperger's Syndrome tends to be diagnosed more in males, I think it might make girl brains more boyish. Also girls are supposed to act more social, and since Aspie girls tend not to that is seen as not being properly female or something. Then there are issues like makeup, and dressing. I would guess most Aspie women are like sweatpants t-shirt, or jeans and t-shirt type of people most of the time. Also I can't figure makeup out. I think it's hard to get the perspective of symmetry right with the makeup, and because I have Dysgraphia I cannot do things that require good hand steadyness skills, like eyeliner.

I grew up really into the Ninja Turtles, but my parents had me watch mostly the girly 80's cartoons which I liked too. I realized recently though, that I was more into Rainbow Brite because she was very tomboyish in the way she acted, but she still looked cute. It's also interesting that alot of Japanese people worked on Rainbow Brite, and perhaps some of the Anime trend for having strong girls in their animation was a part of the development of the show.

I also liked Care Bears and Strawberry Shortcake I guess because they were just kind of mindlessly cute. The Care Bears really do have alot of great morals in them. I mean the original Care Bears, it seems the new Care Bears is going more in the way of just entertaining kids, without any great insights or morality. The original Care Bears was created by a company called Nelvana that is based in Canada, so maybe they had more insight into what morals should be shown to kids. I don't know why, but I tend to assume most places outside of America are more moralistic than America is. Although it could also be that the cartoons in the 80's weren't a part of the mass-marketing industry that kids' animation now has become. So they had more freedom in what to put in their cartoons.

I think now the cultural acceptance of the tomboyish girl is so widely accepted, it's even becoming something of a standard. Like Powerpuff Girls, Juniper Lee, ect. So perhaps when some of us grew up it was kind of weird, but now it's considered normal.

the doctor i talked to told me it was rare for a female to be diagnosed with aspergers, he said it was almost an exclusively male disorder.

I am male and the opposite of the male stereotype. I take gender identity tests and they think I'm a girl. I enjoy it... I am more like a goth girl type, though, than a girly-girl.

uh what the hell? so you'd enjoy being a girl rather than a boy? i wouldn't want to be a girl.

Tomboy - probably

As a girl I remember mainly playing with my brother (and his friends) – Action Man, Lego, Star Wars..... I was given a very nice baby doll toy one year and every Christmas I got beautifully hand knitted clothes for it. I never played with it.
I did Computer Science (B.Sc. Hons) at university, which for whatever reason seems to be a subject more popular with the boys than the girls (at least there was a 10:1 boy:girl ration there, which was fine with me – I met my husband there ). I used to work as a software developer. I also love science fiction.
I gave up work whilst pregnant with my second child – I didn't really want to give up my career, but for various reasons it was the best for my family that time. I have to say, after spending the best part of 12 years studying and working in technical, male dominated environments, mother and baby groups were a real shock to the system. I felt like a fish out of the water. Although I tried my best to fit in, I never really managed.
On the “What sex is your brain?” test (on another thread) I got 0.
Anyway having said that, I like jewellery and feminine clothes.

Hmm, gnulinuxman, so would you say you fall into the personality type of a Japanese bishounen? Like, you know how in Anime they have more feminine looking guys, who act sort of feminine, but aren't considered outright gay?

Like you I'm a female opposite. I took the same test and they say that I'm more boyish. Not that I don't like being a girl I just don't understand most other girls. Plus they don't think I'm "girly" enough. I just have male like motives to do stuff like well... like on Jackass and Viva La Bam and try skateboarding. Like a guy I'm as tough as one and have an usually high tolerance to psycial pain but am cursed to emotional sensitivity (hate it btw). I have friends that are girls but alot are boys.

I'm female. Transgendered. Asexual. And have been drawn to male clothing and mannerisms my entire life ever since I can remember. Although I was never into rough and tumble play. But I definitely have a greater masculine side to me than most women.