What is it about me that pisses people off so much?

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pk. Whatever you do re vet carreer, please don't give up. the people in your desired profession are still just people at the end of day. They got where they got because of how much they wanted it

It's difficult to tell what someone is in real life based on what they come across as on the Internet. However, do listen to what these people on the forum say about the disabilities thing. First off, you're not going to get far if all you're thinking about is your labels and using them to have people accommodate for you every step of the way. If you keep disclosing all over the place, people can end up discriminating against you, which is even worse. I have deepest respect for those who do not disclose until they find themselves in the worst possible situation, or unless someone else just happens to bring it up. The key is, others would initiate it, not you. I talk a lot about autism sometimes without bringing up my relationship to it at all.

Moreover, I refuse to take any accommodations unless I REALLY need them, with REALLY as in I know that no matter how much work I put into something, I will seriously underperform. For example, I know I need extra time for tests because it just takes me a lot longer than anyone else to do them. I was offered a few other accommodations, such as a note-taker, but I refused to take it because I think that taking notes verbatim as I do and then taking time to edit them, as long as it might take me, would benefit me much more in the long run. The key is to inquire about how much effort other students put into something, and to compare their abilities to your own abilities. I've compared how long it took me to complete a homework assignment with my friend's time and found that it took me twice my friend's time to complete it. However, I've found out that even though I scribble my notes in half-legible writing, I can still take notes in class. And yes, I would put extra effort into refining these notes after, but that would get me to actually look through my notes again (and once I start doing something, I can't stop, so I would then end up studying the notes for a long time, elaborating on them, making up practice problems, etc.) So you should always look around to see how other people are doing, and ask your teachers/professors as to how other students in class are doing WITHOUT taking any accommodations and doing your best studying your material instead of whining on forums and trying to get attention.

I'm not being hard on you... believe me, I tell myself that I'm lazy or stupid and keep pushing myself constantly in my self-talks, sometimes up and beyond my limit, but the only thing that's ever done to me was to make me stronger.

You see, that's the kind of attitude that will get you far even if you have a disability. And your only 19.

PS: I hope you realize my above comment was directed at Punkykat's dramatic "I'm leaving the forum forever WAHHHHH!" comment and not at you. I can see how might look that way since it's directly below your comment and I didn't address it or quote anything. I wouldn't use any of those terms to describe you. By all means you seem like a nice, positive person.