What the worst part of having ASD for you?

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10 Apr 2011, 1:27 pm

I'm literally not compatible with anyone. I'm even extremely alien and different to other Aspies.



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10 Apr 2011, 3:46 pm

Not being able to understand others well. It really bothers me when I am talking to someone, and I don't know if they enjoy what I am saying, are annoyed, etc. Also, it is difficult to understand how others perceive me. Sometimes I wonder if I sound rude.



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10 Apr 2011, 6:13 pm

Feeling like I'm "outside" everything, that I don't fit in or belong anywhere. That I'm less than human.



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10 Apr 2011, 10:33 pm

For me it's the obsessive-compulsive personality issues. No matter how high I get in life they get in the way, especially my compulsion to start a task over if I don't do something the "right" way. I can resist the compulsion, I just won't enjoy the task, and this makes things that are supposed to be fun, more like chores.

Unlike with OCD the prognosis of OCPD is poor even with meds and therapy. It's what I am and I just sort of have to live with it.

Other than that I would say my sleep issues which are very very serious... but those CAN be treated by meds.

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10 Apr 2011, 10:44 pm

For me it's that it clashes with my personality.

I am confident, outspoken, enthusiastic, sociable, ambitious, etc. but traits of ASD counter-act these - ASD is part of me and so part of my personality, but it leaves me feeling very stifled, it prevents me from doing so much and from showing my personality. I can only get so far with my social skills, ASD prevents me from moving any further forward and doing things how I want to do them. For me having ASD is something to try to overcome on a daily basis, but tragic then that I will never overcome it and never get to be who I am supposed to be.


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10 Apr 2011, 11:14 pm

The worst part is definitely the constant feeling that everyone, including friends and family, hates me.



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11 Apr 2011, 3:30 am

I generally see my condition as a good thing, but the main bad part is, I would say, the bad social skills. I don't wish to be a sheep like everyone else I know, but I do wish to be able to socialise better.



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11 Apr 2011, 4:39 am

Simonono wrote:
I'm literally not compatible with anyone. I'm even extremely alien and different to other Aspies.

Aye, me too.

I suppose it's a good thing that I don't desire social interaction but when it happens I sort of got nothing to work with. I can't do that fake thing, nor do I want to. I either say something offensive or they say something offensive and then I leave and write a horrible blog about them. I don't do that last part but I do think about how annoying that person is a great deal. Well not how annoying they are, just how frustrated it is to not get along with someone after some little comment they said or you said. There's so much more to my frustration then if one of us says the wrong thing. The not able to read people. The not knowing how to make a conversation last longer. The whole process is exhausting.

That and change bloody change. I can never adjust to it and even though I know I can't I still get uncomfortable or stressed out if it happens, suddenly or not so suddenly. I just never prepare for it. And my sensory issues make me want to punch a wall. Actually I have done that.


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11 Apr 2011, 4:41 am

Sensory problems. Also, some forms of transitioning.

And if sleep-related problems count, those. I never sleep without strong medicine...



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11 Apr 2011, 1:03 pm

The bad high school memories that I have. My peers picked on me all the time, just for being a presence in the regular class rooms.


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Other people's ignorance and closed minds


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27 Dec 2016, 7:22 pm

Problems related to executive functioning like planning and multitasking


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27 Dec 2016, 10:35 pm

The lack of acceptance and support that I get from my mum during the hard times. The next time I'm going through a hard time, I'm not going to my parents place. I'll just get verbally and emotionally abused by my mum.


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27 Dec 2016, 10:49 pm

Feeling as though I'm between that proverbial "rock and a hard place" regarding getting a diagnosis. I know I am different from other people, although my functioning has vastly improved over the past three years. I feel as though I have two alternatives: to go along the way I am and be plagued by doubts and to get a diagnosis and have it confirmed that I am different, thereby causing people to set limits on me. I have chosen to live my life and continue to improve myself.



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27 Dec 2016, 11:23 pm

Social awkwardness. I have a lot of social skills that most Aspies typically lack, but I lack the social skills to gain more close friendships, and get a decent career like my NT peers are doing. I feel like I am underemployed because of this.

I think that is what I hate most about my ASD.


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28 Dec 2016, 11:02 am

Not being able to work and provide for myself. I've spent my life living in fear because of this and I will until I know if I qualify for disability benefits. Also had the fear that my parents would abandon me and they did.

Having more trouble finding a partner sucks too but at least I'm good looking so it cancels out in that aspect. I'll get one eventually once I get my mess sorted out.