Autistic/Aspie Stereotypes You Don't Display?

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I am not fat. I'm actually quite thin!
I don't use Asperger's as an excuse
I don't tell everyone about it. Only a few people. My sister, on the other hand, has blabbed about my Asperger's to everyone in her year level at school.
Although I'm very good at subjects like Maths, Science and English, I don't get 100% very often.

I also tend to recognize the difference between figurative and literal speech now.

And since when is there a stereotype that everyone with AS is overweight?

Ok, so:

I'm the skinniest girl you'll ever meet, there's a fat stereotype?!
I nearly failed maths in highschool and dropped maths as soon as I could
I understand scarcasm very well, fluent
Not obessed to the point of "I will drop everything just to do this" just regular obbession
When I stressed I don't flap my hands, however I will talk very fast instead
I can wear anything, furry coats will never bother me
I'm an artist but don't do fanfic or anything like that
I love parties ^^

However:

I have always hated loud noises
My IQ is above average
I'm very quiet, in class I like working by myself and like to be left alone but not always the case
I have been called quirky, cute and adorable

Well they did nothing for the depression, made me more anxious........and even caused auditory hallucinations, as in people talking about me when they where not. So yeah that is what happened with the anti-depressants and why I don't want to try again I am already messed up enough as it is I don't need anti-depressant induced problems as well.

1) I am sociable, when I have to be.
2) I make decent eye contact.
3) I love and understand metaphors and sarcasm.
4) I don't have any really noticeable stims (I rock my leg back and forth and move the ring on my finger up and down).
5) I can read faces.

Most people would not think I have AS at all, until they got to know me.

I'm not a maths genius. I can do enough math for most people to think I'm smart, but when it comes to the more complicated stuff I'm hopeless, and I don't find it interesting enough to spend all my spare time trying to understand it.

I don't have trouble with the concept that other people have minds and their own feelings and opinions. Just because I don't understand why somebody feels a certain way, it doesn't mean I view them as some sort of strange meaty puppet. I think people misunderstand what it means to have problems with empathy. I've heard so many people describe people with an ASD as though none of us understand that other people are living, breathing people with feelings and thoughts. It's really annoying and insulting.

However, I am fat. I don't understand how this became an ASD stereotype though. I could lose 20lbs, 50lbs or even 100lbs and still be just as Autistic as I am now.

1) I'm not a math genius, though I do like playing around with numbers.
2) I'm not fat.
3) I don't write or read fan fiction.
4) I don't use AS as an excuse. I am able to admit when I'm just an idiot.
5) I'm an absolutely terrible student. My grades are barely average.
6) I don't like trains or building models (Legos are a different story).
7) I do kind of notice facial expressions, if I'm looking for them specifically.
I have friends.
9) My routines aren't as rigid as some, though I will admit that I have a few things I have to stick to.
10) I have feelings, but I think people get confused because my face apparently stays flat, so they think I'm being emotionless.

Since the OP made this thread, I guess! I've been dx'd for over a decade and never heard this. It is true that people on atypical anti-psychotics will often gain weight as that's a common side-effect of that class of drugs, and unfortunately too many people dx'd with autism are put on these meds, so maybe that's where it comes from. But I work in special education, in public schools, and I have never heard this one.

Me:
1) very imaginative, always have been.
2) like to socialize, and would socialize lot if other people's behavior wasn't so taxing and confusing to me. I DO NOT have social anxiety or a social phobia and I'm getting damn sick of everyone conflating these with Asperger's!! !!
3) have a LOT of empathy. I just have trouble filtering out things that trigger my empathy so I get overwhelmed easily and shut down
4) terrible at keeping routines. I do better with routines but my executive function disorder keeps me from sticking to routine.
5) hardly O/C. I love my interests and can get very focused on them. But I'm not obsessive nor compulsive. In fact, I'm too much the opposite (see #4)
6) excel at abstract and intuitive thinking. Scratch that. I f**ing kick a** at these.
7) kind of geeky with computers but not really that tech obsessed
8. hate hate hate gaming culture, fan fiction and anime, Some nerds are Aspies, but not all nerds are Aspies and not all Aspies are nerds. Thank you.
9) don't really need to stim and I don't hand flap, rock or the like.
10) don't and never have had meltdowns. I withdraw and shut down. I don't explode.
11) not emotionless. Quite the opposite. The reason why I don't have meltdowns is I'm very alexithymic. I have many disconnects with my emotions--is being aware of them, how to express them and how to articulate them. My emotions are actually very intense and I do think there's a correlation between the intensity of my emotions and the severity of my alexithymia
12) I'm pedantic, but not so pedantic that I need to correct other people's grammar/spelling, or be ultra-persnickety over some factual error in a film or TV show, or list all the stereotypes I can think of that I don't fit. So I'm stopping at 12. But I could go on, just so you know.

Oh wait, one more

13) I get a lot of humor, even sarcasm. I can be very sarcastic too. I never actually met an Aspie who couldnt' be a little sarcastic! But I am not glib--that's something we Aspies really don't do. Glibness requires a quickness and callousness in social situations we're just not wired for. But that's OK, because glibness is a mark of sociopathic behavior. It's not a talent I would want to have anyways.

Well, I've been on them for about 12 years and never had that problem. In fact, I've always been rather slim.

-- Aloofness(I'm shy around new people, but definitely not aloof)
-- Not being able to look people in the eyes
--problems with figurative language
--gestures
--expression of my emotions(sometimes they come out muted, but usually my emotions come out strong)
--Inability to make Small talk(depends on the person)
--decreased empathy
--coldness

1) Lack of empathy and imagination (seriously who came up with this stuff?), I've got too much of it, especially the latter.
2) I don't like math.
3) I have an excellent sense of humour (though it is admittedly odd).

I have a strong sense of humor, albeit a very literal one.

I make friends easily and quickly, just don't keep them. Not awkward meeting people, but have no desire to go out and meet people on purpose or call someone I know just to chit chat.

I like pointless small talk. "Looks like we're going to get some weather," is a personal favorite inanity.

I'm usually quite graceful (with sudden bouts of oops)

Is being overweight an aspie stereotype? Didn't know that. I'm very trim, not quite skinny, but have almost no body fat.

I glean symbolism from books ok, but rather slowly, a few months after reading them.

Am good at seeing the forest from the trees, the "big details," as I think of them.

I failed trigonometry 4 times, but aced geometry.

I thrive on chaos and messy environments, and have a strong sense of adventure. Not big on routines, except the morning routine. Pile of objects: love it. Pile of people: aaaack!

I like touching people, hugs, holding hands. Yes, it's incredibly stimulating to the point of blotting out my verbal comprehension, but I am not afraid of that. I find it endlessly fascinating to try to communicate via nonverbal means. Big emphasis on the word try. I don't claim to be good at it, just fascinated by it.

Have good Theory of Mind.

1. I'm not male.
2. I'm a female who isn't a mimic.
3. I believe in a God, rather than being atheist or agnostic.
4. I have a surprisingly weak need for routines. Instead of routines I care about predictability.
5. When I'm upset I'd rather not be alone, its just that few people qualify for people I want to be with. The best thing to do with an upset Tuttle is hold her and tell her its okay to cry.

1. I understand figurative language.
2. I'm independent.
3. I can make eye contact (I just don't often want to).
4. I can make small talk (I just don't often want to).
5. I'm a woman.
6. I am very much not a fussy eater.
7. I don't stick to routines.
8. My theory of mind isn't actually much worse than an NTs.
9. No ADHD or dyslexia.
10. I like perfume.

I can relate to that.

Some of the stereotypes that I don't fit:


1.) I don't engage in black & white thinking (which I didn't realize was a trait of autism until fairly recently).

2.) I'm a pretty average weight, although I used to be overweight.

3.) I normally understand sarcasm pretty well.

4.) I can empathize with others to some extent, although obviously if I could empathize totally, I wouldn't have autism.

5.) I actually have above average public speaking skills, and I've won awards for it in competitions.

6.) I'm very imaginative, and very good at abstract thinking and imagining abstract structures.

7.) I understand and use symbolism and metaphors.

8.) I'm not obsessed with trains, although I will admit to a normal-level fascination with vehicles.

9.) I am not an atheist; I'm actually a conservative Christian.

10.) Although my motor skills aren't the greatest, I have good handwriting, and I can draw fairly well.

Some of the stereotypes that I do fit:

1.) Especially when I was younger, I had stimming habits. I don't do any of them in public now, but they're still there.

2.) I'm good at keeping friends, but I am not good at making them. I would probably be much more successful in my relationships with others if I could overcome my anxiety in social situations.

3.) Again, my motor skills aren't the greatest. Having good handwriting doesn't make up for not being able to tie a plastic garbage bag shut.

4.) I do have special interests that I am extremely knowledgeable about.

5.) Sometimes, I metaphorically put my foot in my mouth. Sometimes, it's bad.

6.) I have serious issues with eating food that has a certain texture (ie., if it's shredded or mashed up, I just can't stand to eat it).

7.) I have unusual speech patterns, although they're close enough to my mother's for me to doubt that they're completely from the autism.

8.) My memory is quite poor.

9.) I can be legitimately awkward in some social situations, although this depends on who I'm around and under what circumstances.

10.) I'm a little bit chaotic and messy.