All arguments that involve you being blamed on you-AS traits

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Maybe we come off as babies to over protective parents. They don't think we can make it on our own. You could also go own the long road and say some of us who were brought up a certain way are prone to unknowingly seek out codependent relationships which involves being babied among other unpleasant things... and they start with our moms and dads.....like two really destructive puzzle pieces drawn to connect.......



I'm feeling some mild to moderate frustration from co workers and supervisors at my job. At the end of the day, I just do things differently, good luck trying to change it. In your case, you might end up annoying some people, but don't give up your thing, you're "too many questions" or "explaining things in greater detail." Don't judge it, just manage it.

I am now AS Tony Robbins.....:/

at some point earlier on in the conversation you should've brought up the fact that you have deduced this after repeated conversations with your mother on the matter, and your very good memory on the matter

pointing out one's extremely good "recording" capabilities is useful in situations like this where someone is trying to argue via emotion, and all it takes is a simple acknowledgement from the other party that you are good at this

in the case of family, it's easier to do because there's a long relationship on this and there's much less fear, with others they can worry that you're just obsessing over them when in fact you're just interested in their stuff as information that might pertain to how you go about things, or what works for them as pure extra data and that this occurs with all people you encounter


to some extent, the best way to deal with some arguments is simply to point out that you are basically a walking recording device (if that's how good your biographical memory is, I know how you feel on the matter, and found myself bringing up stuff that other people had forgotten about a long time ago, and it always puzzles me how others can misremember events so much - I've done it a few times myself but not too often, and when my memory is fuzzy I know it's fuzzy and don't seem to substitute with false information much although I'm sure I do it a little)

Also, I've just thought of something regarding my post I wrote yesterday. My brother actually shuts every door around him when he's on the phone to one of his mates, even if he's not talking about anything private, he just doesn't like anyone listening. I could just go up to every door and open them, just to annoy him - just like he does with me when I want the kitchen door closed when the kettle is on. He'd soon shout at me - and I bet my mum will still be on his side yelling, ''if he wants the doors shut then just let him have the doors shut while he's on the phone, why do you have to annoy people?!'' But, instead, I stop and think, ''I don't mind having doors open while I'm on the phone, but everybody's different, and maybe he gets embarrassed talking on the phone with people around within earshot. I will respect that by not bothering about him shutting the doors.''

Works both ways. Well, it should work both ways. I have tried calmly discussing it like a normal adult with my mum to see what she says, but she just sighs, ''not this conversation again, we have this every day!'', although that is not true because I only just thought about this yesterday, and that was the first time I had brought it up in a different perspective, and although it is a silly thing for me to get wound up about, she should remember that I do have AS and that sometimes I can get easily upset or agitated, and I thought by discussing over maturely with my mum would help sort the situation out. But instead I've just got to cope with my brother being an a***hole because the lazy f****r won't get a life and move out. At least I can't afford to move out, and I wouldn't want to live on my own but I don't want to live with childish a***holes like my brother either. If he got out, I'd cope much better with my mum and my dad. My dad doesn't really understand about AS and even forgets half the time that his own daughter has got the hideous condition, but he handles it in a different way from my brother, in a way what I can happily cope with. My dad never retaliates, if I want a door shut when the kettle is on then he just gets on with it. Not a***hole behaviour at all.