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07 Sep 2012, 2:25 pm

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I understand what you are writing. But I just wrote how I helped people with AS and how relating emotions with them has helped them. I never said I understand what goes on in their brain; that's impossible for me to do. The way I have helped friends with AS may not have the same effect or may not work on youor other people with AS , but that's fine. As long as you have other methods that work for you, then that's great. I was just sharing my own experience.


It kind of changes things if you're talking about interactions with specific friends of yours that means you know each other and what things are ok with each other...and that sort of thing so the boundaries are a bit different. And if the phrase 'you're overreacting' does not trigger them and is helpful then I see no issue. But for people who have been told that repeatedly in a rude manner by others it can be potentially triggering, but it appears that does not apply to your situation.


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07 Sep 2012, 8:30 pm

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My favorite is summer twilight. It's such a relief when the Sun goes down, but it is still light outside, so I can go outside and frolick and feel normal and not be blinded or brain-fried by too much light.


Summer twilight is nice! I do find that the sunset can still be painful to look toward even after the sun is below the horizon.



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08 Sep 2012, 2:55 am

Gosh, me too! People were so horrible to me about sensory things before diagnosis! Only mum believed sensitivity to light, because I used to cry when looking at shiny objects, and I put sunglasses on from the age of one.
People never understood my social anxiety, my friends just laughed when I said I purposely didn't do well in school to avoid attention. I know that might sound silly, but all they did was judge, so sympathy, no support, just humiliation.



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10 Sep 2012, 5:22 pm

btbnnyr wrote:
Verdandi wrote:
btbnnyr wrote:
Eloa wrote:
btbnnyr wrote:
I think that a lot of my autistic problems, like sensory issues, are outside the range of NT eggsperience, so they can't imagine what it is like to be so hypersensitive to light, for eggsample, so they think that my hypersensitivity to light is like them not liking the Sun shining directly into their eyes while driving at 5pm.


I was spending a day with my brother at the beach and later my psychologist asked me about my perception and I said that I did not understand how people could endure lying in the sun.
She said that probably they do not "endure" it but actually "enjoy" it and I did not understand that they could enjoy it at all.
Now I learned that people actually enjoy lying in the sun.
I get allergie from direct sunlight, rash on my skin.
Visually I find direct sunlight difficult and it leads to overload and sunlight directly into my eyes makes me ill in my stomach.
I like twilight.


I like twilight too. It's my favorite kind of light. I want twilight during the day, all day eberryday, then the normal amount of night. That would be purrrfurrrt. Low light for the day and darkness for stargazing.


I love twilight. I especially love autumn twilight.

I hate being in direct sunlight. I don't enjoy it.


My favorite is summer twilight. It's such a relief when the Sun goes down, but it is still light outside, so I can go outside and frolick and feel normal and not be blinded or brain-fried by too much light.


This is a good expression.
I read that from about 25°C on (in the shadow, as it is given in the weather-report) being exposed to direct sunlight your brains practically start to "boil".
Why do people enjoy frying and boiling their brains for hours?
I like twilight as most twilights, also in the winter, as the clouds get this red shades all over the sky.


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