i dont mind having asperger syndrome

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And i forgot to add..not everyone with Aspergers is clever,i had learning difficuties from age 5yrs,got SEN help all through school
got kicked punched and threatened with a knife, had my head put down a toilet,,and changed schools twice because of bullies also unable to find work because of interaction problems and lack of skills.....and when everyone else had moved on in life ..i have been left behind in total misery unable to cope with my problems...So aspergers for some is a living HELL...sorry

It's a male.

Do you have issues against men or something? Not trying to be a total a-hole but you've been really going on about the whole "male" thing almost as if you don't think we have reason to complain about our issues.

No, I love men because many more men are able to make something of their lives in spite of ASD then women. I'm jealous, but not hateful (for the most part). Well, okay, I am hateful, but I mostly hate myself.

I think men suffer just as the women do,but it depends on a lot of things...how your aspergers effects you,for some have mid problems and maybe just a little social problems ,then others like me suffer from a lot with aspergers..tha'ts why i'ts a spectrum disorder,so i think a lot of men like me do not have high function autisim suffer much more problems long term.

Despite the lack of social skills it has caused me, I comfort myself by thinking I'd be one of "them" if I didn't have it, as arrogant that might sound that's how I feel.
Although the problems my Aspieness has caused me, I've learned how to cope with it and have found solutions for my problems.
So I can understand others that haven't found solutions for themselves, don't want to be one.

I've always hated having it, since the day the cursed name reached my ears.

How can I not mind feeling isolated because of extreme shyness and stupid social skills, and having to have obsessions to make my life a little more fun, then having the stress of losing my obsessions or being unable to pursue them in other ways and feeling so devastated and upset about it that I turn into an emotional monster?

Unless I achieve the impossible, which is turning myself into some confident extrovert tomorrow and trying to change my obsessions on to reading and researching facts, I will never be happy in this life. For a start by making myself socially confident I will just be saying the wrong things even more and will probably end up even more isolated than what I already am, trust me I have tried it before and I ended up being too clingy or demanding on other people, and saying stupid things and getting other people thinking I'm mad. And I just cannot force myself to be obsessed with facts or anything like that. I am interested to hear about history or the universe, but I know lots of NTs who would also like to hear about that, but it is not an obsessive interest. Same with me. I absolutely love my special interest with this certain bus company (mentioning no names), I love being obsessed with it but it is causing a lot of stress when a f*****g c**t called David Cameron decides to become cut-back happy, and his f**ked-up plans affects my favourite bus company, causing the driver's jobs to be less enjoyable and making them leave so I can never see them again, and putting new foreign bastards driving my bus instead who are unfriendly and I will never be able to adapt to.

Yes, AS is s**t. Absolutely f*****g s**t and I don't know why I couldn't just be born an NT like all my cousins are.

yes Id agree on that they could understand much more if theyd just wanted to.

Well anyway a mistake is to think that everything that is not "neurotypical" is wrong. And that happens really very often!
And same actually counts for perspectives. Just looking from neurotypical perspective gets its wrong, same as for looking only from an AS perspective.
People on AS are wired differently
which means they are more different than wrong or off

But what is I guess true is that NTs usually fail to understand AS feelings or perspectives, and even if theyd want to they cannot completely get it (as the analogue that we cannot completely get NTs, even if we try very hard). NTs and AS are just too different.

And its a spectrum, so there is mixtures.

Well NTs are most probably the majority even if youd count all very very mild AS cases in. Somebody here said there are some numbers of people with spectrum symptoms that show that spectrum prevalence might be much much higher than thought (I would guess maybe 10-20% or even higher)

I like my aspie special traits that do not cause me trouble and that are well under control
I hate anxiety and compulsions, even if they are weak they are not nice and can amplify when you are stressed or down

maybe you should learn self defense. i suggest krav maga. i learned kickboxing and loved it, and it improved my self confidence. aspies tend to be strong, quick, and hyper. we're good fighters once we learn the technique.

Whatever troubles might arise, they aren't caused by my being Aspergian... but by others not being so.

And our reflexive violent reactions to being touched are second to none.

the only thing I don't like is the stimming and constant need for order. But these are extremes, probably on the way to OCD....

It doesn't bother me, now that I know what it is, that I have it, and can learn to like myself with it. It bothers other people and always has, which is the reason it was a problem for me all my life until I learned about it.