Adam Lanza looks like he’s startled or putting on an act in that picture.
Greb wrote:
briankelley wrote:
Greb wrote:
I don't think they're cold blooded psychos (I hope). They're just trying to make humour from a tragical situation. The problem with black humour is that the line that separates it from an unappropiate comment is a thin line, that besides it doesn't lie in the same place for everybody.
I don't think it's funny, we're talking about murdered kids. But neither I think that there's bad intention, just lack of social skills.
With so many fingers pointing at Aspergers over what happened to those kids, I think this is the last place flippant remarks and jokes about it should be made.
Perhaps I over reacted or reacted in the wrong way, but that kind of thing happens in situations like this and a lack of social skills swings both ways.
Precissely because so many fingers are pointing, helping people to be aware of incorrect comments is important. When you tell people that they acted wrong in a aggresive way, they use to rise up their barriers and hold up their position, so at then end nothing changes.
I think you're right, but I think that saying it in a more diplomatic way would be more helpful.
There is absolutely nothing wrong or incorrect or inappropriate about black humour. Some people are too sensitive to take it, others simply don’t like it, while others find it fun. There isn’t a single topic that can’t be joked about. You have to be able to see the difference between a joke about something and the real thing. Who_Am_I’s joke was fun IMO. You don’t have to like it, but you need to accept that people’s sense of humour differs and get over thinking they are incorrect for it.
Personally I have always been a fan of dark hunour.
As for the reasons why Adam Lanza did what he did, from what I’ve picked up, he had a conflict with his mother and at least someone at the school where she worked. His mother wanted him committed, and he wanted to take her out and everyone who was important to her.
Considering that he was bullied when he went to that school himself, and had a conflict with someone working there, I think it’s safe to assume that there was more to his actions. I think nessa238 is spot on. Lanza as the world got to hear of him was made by his experiences. In nearly all mass shootings there were lots of incidents leading up to the event. Whenever I hear talk about how to avoid school shootings I think “Don’t bully. It’s
that simple.” I don’t condone of massacres. Being bullied doesn’t exempt you from responsibility for your own actions. No one can
make you do anything. You alone are responsible for your actions. Unless we’re talking self-defence or defence of loved ones, there are no mitigating circumstances for murder.
I have no problems
understanding their rage, though. I have been there myself. But instead of going on a shooting spree, which for the record never occurred to me, I spent about 15 years picking verbal fights with people over the silliest reasons, looking for reasons to be offended really (but never with the ones I should have confronted). That rage wasn’t created in a vacuum either, but I’m still the one responsible for my behaviour. Finally dealing with it and get over the worst has been a great relief.
Greb wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
I feel other people staring at me is a challenge and I often stare them out as it really annoys me
They think I'm a vulnerable, weak looking person at first sight and think they'll intimidate me then when I stare back they can't maintain eye contact so I see it as a win!
Probably they even didn't realize that it was a contest...
Oh yeah, it can be a challenge. Especially on public transport people generally come in two types, those who will look at anything but the other passengers, and those who challenge you. There was even a joke about it on an entertainment radio show. The guy talked about having gotten into a staring contest with another man, and was still at it when he got to his station so he couldn’t leave less he lost. It was exaggerated for humorous effect of course, but the phenomenon is real , and there is no mistaking that look. Being angry or relaxed are the only ways I can maintain eye contact. I too have been provoked into staring back.
10 Apr 2013, 5:38 pm
He's not a "psychopath" either.
