Touch. Can you tolerate it?

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Even though I shy away from touch, but sometimes some people have a soft touch. And that I really like and want it again.

Sometimes it has happened that people whom I didn't know, touched me casually (handshakes or other stuff NTs do, like touching your arm), and that touch felt so soft... and I got so overwhelmed, confused, probably even visibly blushed...

we live in a hug-deficient world.

I like being touched by people, and I was relatively affectionate as a kid. Though I sometimes find it uncomfortable/awkward now because I don't get a lot of hugs or anything like that anymore.

it would be nice if we could love one another lots more. despite what the social darwinists say, ultimately we're all in this thing [called life] together.

generally, not, sometimes, maybe, rarely, yes.

Before I realized I was on the spectrum, I just thought I was just an awkward and uncomfortable person. I was so convinced that beneath the awkwardness, I was pretty normal, and that I actually liked human touch but was just bad at it. Now that I know who I am, I can see that no, I am not a hugger. I don't like being touched. Just my family and wife, and that's it. My best friends of decades, also on the spectrum, are huge on hugs, and I don't want to hug them, lol.

I don't like being touched like grabbed by the bare arm by the bare hand so when people do that I grab them back sometimes.

Other times I'm too scared to grab them back so I'm trying to work on not being afraid to do so.

I like being touched when I know that someone is going to touch me. I don't like unexpected touches.

Depends on if I'm prepared for it, where I'm touched and the intentions behind it. If it's out if the blue in a place I'm ticklish then yes it bothers me a lot. A place that's not ticklish out of the blue then it's more of a feeling of someone invading my personal space than the act of being touched itself. If it's some drunk woman grabbing my ass when I walk past then it's more amusing.

If it's expected it doesn't bother me as much within reason as long as they're not in my face. The exception is obviously anything with sexual intimacy where being in my face is the whole point of it.

Only ok with certain people (mainly husband), other than that not keen on others messing with me.

I don't like light touch it drives me nuts.

If I am mentally prepared beforehand for touch, I can tolerate it (and even sometimes enjoy it). If I get any unexpected surprise hugs or anything of that nature, I don’t do too well.

Touch is such a personal thing. I accept it … sometimes crave it. Love giving it, if it’s needed by others.

Yeah, but not from strangers who are trying to get my attention.

It's really great under Covid19 rules for touch-free living. My only complaint is about those who insist on "touching elbows."

I also used to love physical affection as a kid. Then I got taught that it's not proper for a boy. Then bullying. Then being overwhelmed by feelings from crushes, love interests and intimidatingly attractive people.

There's just too much when it comes to touch. I'm too sensitive to it. Even just someones body heat via proximity or that they left on something like a seat.

I can tolerate it but it makes me feel uncomfortable. Sometimes I can ignore it completely, but the more meaning a person has to me, the harder it is to ignore. I absolutely hate being touched by people I don't like.

It's not all bad, though. With some people, sometimes, it can feel nice and comforting. Especially with....partners.