My Son's Behavior is Infuriating, and Embarrasing

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Your son is practically still a baby, what's so wrong with him squealing in the swimming-pool? Save that worry for when he's older, if he still continues typical toddler behaviour.

Your son is only 3 why is it that embarrassing?I know any toddler can be annoying when they make loud noise but its still normal for a toddler to be excitable .

when I was a kid i was very quiet, to the point where my family worry about me for not showing much emotion at all. I was nonverbal until about the age of 8. But I was also very 'easy'. My Nt sister was harder to bring up than I was. my Mum often said she could have 6 of me. The only thing was if I wasnt watched properly I used to wonder off, and I was hard to be taught not to because of being in my own world. So my Mum or any other adult with me had to hold my hand or keep a close eye on me ALL THE TIME, up until I was about 10.

But now I'm in my 40's and I work as a bus driver and I' m married and independant.

In other words, you want your son to be what he will never be. Both of my parents were like that until I moved out at the age of 32. I feel that I should have moved out 10 years earlier but oh, well. My mum still wanted me to be like my peers and enjoy everything about the present, until I put my foot down two years ago around this time. That's when she came to the realization that I'm going to like what I'm going to like and that I'm going to wear what I'm going to wear and there isn't anything that she can do about it. I apologize to you or anybody else here on WP if this sounds harsh. It's not my intention to be harsh. I'm being honest about my sensitive feelings about the whole issue. Do you want your son to be a resilient leader, or do you want him to be the highly sensitive drummer who always stays in the background and gives off an air of silence. Your son will be the strong, resilient leader that everybody wants their child grow up to be if you accept him as he is now, instead for what you feel he can be.

Yeah I agree and think OP is letting his anxiety get the better of him.

He is describing MANY three year olds that could be ASD or could be NT to be honest. Seems like the kid is HFA and the parents are getting appropriate therapy.

To OP:good luck getting ANY 3 year old who likes to squeal to stop squealng at the pool! Kids like the water. Squealing is a sign of "Happy" in many 3 year olds, ASD AND NT alike. The time to worry is when they freak out and have a melt down or anxiety attack over the water.My NT daughter aso squealled alot at this age because she was just a little behind in the speech department.

Would you rather that your son be happy or angry and depressed?

Here is the tent I was telling you about.
http://www.nationalautismresources.com/ ... y-pod.html

The only problem is that it's almost $18,000,00 but other than that it's pretty cool. But you could probably build him a little sensory fort yourself with a lot of the features like the sensory wall with carpet fragments and different fabrics and the glow in the dark starry wall and dim lighting.

My son's odd behaviour(not squealing) apparently get reactions out of people that go over my head, I've taken people with us and it is amazing the stuff I am oblivious too. I think ignorance can be bliss!

(I don't take him to fine dining establishments or movie theaters or anything, but if an odd kid bothers you at McDonalds or KFC or the grocery store I have little sympathy for you.<My message to all those flustered people)

You say your son can take apart the vacuum cleaner over and over, OP? I think that's actually really cool - I sure couldn't do that when I was three years old.

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Something must be wrong with my son, he doesn't squeal all that much. Wait, I have never taken him to a pool and I always send him to his room and tell him he can come out when he is done screaming and his bedroom is his screaming zone or I walk away when he gets that way so that sure taught him.

Did you say he is three years old? why would squealing be embarrassing for a three year old?

My girl is 9 yrs old and she still squeals in the swimming pool. Yes it's embarrassing but honestly if it's not bothering the other parents or kids then why worry? you have other things to focus on than about than what other parents think of you or your son.

He's a bit different - that's OK, nothing to worry about and he isn't hurting anyone. Love him none the less.

He might go on to invent the interstellar faster-than-the-speed-of-light warp drive system or something like that. You never know - people on the spectrum are often so far outside the box they can't see it from where they are standing and really don't care about the box anyhow.

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I don't think you necessarily need to be proud of his stimming but I do think you will need to learn to except that stimming is necessary for us to some degree. It helps either calm us down or gives us needed sensory input . Maybe try giving him squeeze balls or some other fidget toy ( you can buy them online) to help divert his stims into something less destructive / noticeable. Also try to realize he is still very young and from what you have described your son sounds very smart. He is getting early intervention and love that is the best you can do for him. I wish you the best of luck.