10 things not to do on wp

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A more sombre list today.

10 more things not to do on WP: promote the myths that all speccies:

never succeed in careers
can't feel empathy
are all the same
are all nerds
have a mental illness
are lesser human beings than non-speccies
need to be cured
never love
can't be happily married
are loners waiting to shoot people

^ I agree that it doesn't do harm. If members who have left get a response, it might still help others here. The topic could still be valid, and some people are more comfortable posting in an already exisitng thread than starting a new one

- Signing up over and over because you were banned for being a troll and abusive to other users
- Be judgmental of others (specifically referring to transphobia here), especially in the PPR forum

2 things that people shouldn't do.

Asking members about their contradictions and their inconsistencies.

Flooding a member's PM box after they have upset you about something

Posting a thread questioning self diagnoses

Posting about your doubts about lot of members being on the spectrum

Don't post in anger. If someone upsets you, try to remember to close the page, calm down in peace and go back later instead. It's not always an easy thing to do, but it's worth doing your best to do so.

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Thats good advice.

Don't quote 17 nested posts in order to add a one line response...

"Quote Trees" are my pet peeve.

I believe people could do what they want--use WP for their own purposes, provided they don't offend, hurt, or abuse another user. Personal attacks should be moderated to the fullest extent of the "law" of WP.

It's natural to speculate whether one is an Aspie--it's part of exploring one's self. I don't see the harm in it, despite the fact that it could irritate many.

It would be correct for someone to state: "you seem to have some Aspie characteristics--but I haven't seen you. I don't know you personally. Therefore, I cannot conclusively state whether you are Aspie or not." To diagnose a person in this situation would be beyond ridiculous.

It's up to the individual person to determine if he/she is an Aspie.

What's important to note, though, is that being Aspie should not be used as an "excuse" for anything. Success is quite attainable despite (or perhaps even because of) one's Aspieness.

I thought about this quite a bit, and came up with this:

Asperger's/Autism is frequently a "condition," a "difference," rather than a "disease." Asperger's/Autism is not something you "have," like measles.

One might "suffer" because one is Autistic/Aspergian. One does not "suffer" from Autism/Asperger's.

dump on the self-diagnosed because you are clinically diagnosed
dump on the clinically diagnosed if you are self diagnosed
forget that we all have suffering in common throughout our lives
dump on the definers of ASD as disability if you support the difference approach
dump on the definers of ASD as difference if you support the disability approach
tell people to piss off because you disagree with their point of view
attack one line of a whole argument in an effort to discredit the whole
abuse curebies instead of calmly engaging in debate
abuse non-curebies instead of calmly engaging in debate
ignore the common ground between people with differences of opinion
forget that we are all in this together, fighting for acceptance by the other Planet
think that manners aren't necessary because you disagree with someone


more than 10, sorry. Unity really matters to me. I am tired of the battlelines drawn by factions. A divided house cannot stand...strength is in unity. Peace.

I hope I am seen as one who indulges in "calm debate."

That's my objective: a constant Socratic debate.

You consistently personify goodwill and kindness.