are you a city aspie or a country aspie?

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Grew up a suburban aspie but have been a country one for a decade; I can't handle cities and burbs any more.
Living in a county seat farm burg of population 8,300 or so which was a pre civil war river landing town.

have only visited, briefly, big cities such as seattle, SF and LA. stationed about 14 miles away from DC in the mid-80s.
LA seemed impossibly complicated and spread out, seattle had LA's complication but all scrunched together, SF was just manageable if challengingly hilly and walky. city living, especially SF, is way too expensive for anybody not solidly middle-class or above, whereas living out in the sticks like I do, one can survive on minimum wage still. not prosper, but at least survive.

As I grew, the city engulfed our house. I wound up going to school where I used to play in my own yard. Then we moved to the country when I was ten, and it was boring. I moved to a big city at 17, and lived in various cities for 30 years. Then I moved to an island, but too many millionaires crowded out the friendly, artistic people. Now I've had a decade in a small, very isolated farm town with no friends nearby, but I'm thinking of moving right off-grid if I can't learn to sleep in a city again.

IMHO it sucks that the millionaires crowded out the good people off of your island. I woulda resisted until the end.

I grew up in a small town in the country, moved to a couple of cities when I was in my late teens/20s (London, Portsmouth, Plymouth) and have been back home in the country ever since. Although the town I now live in is a bit larger (14,000) than my childhood home, I'm still only a couple of hundred yards from the local farms and can hear the moos in the evening Cornwall is a quiet, narrow peninsula at the far south-western end of the UK, surrounded by the sea with no major roads (motorways) at all.

^^^^that sounds like a lovely place to be fortunate enough to live.

I still have PTSD from resisting to the end. I'd made large social investments there. Now, even an hour north of the nearest traffic light the land is becoming a rich man's playground, and you are not allowed to sleep on your own 160 acre lot until you have spent at least $100,000 on a house. No more living in a trailer and building your own.

I also hear moos in the evening, when the cattle are protesting their sudden removal from their pastures and sale for slaughter. It is not pleasant. Given a chance, even a bull makes a loving pet.

where is this randian-dominated island you described?

Fringe dweller,i dip my toes and retreat.

the fringe of the city?

Yup,on the outskirts,peace and quiet,where i can to retreat to,for sanity reasons.

Best of both worlds.

if I could afford such, i'd prolly do the same. the closer one gets to the city, the more expen$ive everything gets.

I'm the happy medium. I dislike big cities with their noise levels, but I'm not entirely fond of the quiet isolation of the countryside either. Small towns, though, I find to be the perfect midway point.

if you lived 40 minutes outside of a small town, would that be close enough for you, to civilization?

Work with what you got and strive where you want to be.

There are many ways to skin a cat.: )

As it's not my post and pointed at me.

I'll answer though,far enough,but never far enough,in this world.