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29 Feb 2016, 10:14 pm

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people of our vintage need to pay extra attention to our posture so as to avoid the old-age hump.
Oh, I've already got what they called "artist arches" from being bent over a drafting board for so many years when young. Now, just old and out of shape.


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29 Feb 2016, 10:17 pm

I've gotten into the habit of trying to flatten myself against the wall behind me, in order to ward off the hump. if I slouch my back starts barking at me [OUCH!] to stop.



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29 Feb 2016, 10:26 pm

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Nobody likes me...

I'm not sure anyone has ever hated me, just strongly disliked me enough to make my life miserable.

????? I think you're pretty spiffy....what gives?


Thanks :) People in "real life" don't like me. Actually they just think I'm weird, usually. In elementary school the kids made fun of me and thought I was strange.

Then for a year the bad kids liked me because I acted out. Then I moved, and I got picked on, mostly by a group of girls along with some boys.

Many relatives have treated and continue to treat me like dirt. The only difference now is that their disdain is more subtle. Well, they think they're being subtle :roll:

They hate me because I'm just too much fun to despise. They must enjoy feeling superior.



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29 Feb 2016, 10:38 pm

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zkydz wrote:
Yigeren wrote:
Nobody likes me...

I'm not sure anyone has ever hated me, just strongly disliked me enough to make my life miserable.

????? I think you're pretty spiffy....what gives?


Thanks :) People in "real life" don't like me. Actually they just think I'm weird, usually. In elementary school the kids made fun of me and thought I was strange.

Then for a year the bad kids liked me because I acted out. Then I moved, and I got picked on, mostly by a group of girls along with some boys.

Many relatives have treated and continue to treat me like dirt. The only difference now is that their disdain is more subtle. Well, they think they're being subtle :roll:

They hate me because I'm just too much fun to despise. They must enjoy feeling superior.

I will paraphrase something a wise woman told me once. I was telling her that in all my years, nobody has ever called up and just said hey, how ya doing. No friends. No follow up. She asked me if it was the way I came across that made things the way they are.

It's a realization that I had been coming to anyway, but it did reinforce that I have a lot to do with it too. You grow up, never fitting in. Never being able to understand social things that just seem so easy to others. Those types of things. The difference is that I moved a bit and I am the only common denominator. Different areas of the country, couple of times out of country. Same results. It's got to be me.

And it's frozen me in my tracks. Afraid....no, terrified to move forward because I don't know what's going on outside my head. Not ever being able to tell who to trust. Never being able to tell when people are lying or the difference between social lies and meaningful lies. The overwhelming inconsistencies that plague my every day. The unexpected outbursts when overwhelmed.

This is how bad it has been all my life. I was in high school sitting with a guy (one of the few who would hang with me) and he turned and asked me one day, "Why do you always ask why people do things?" I didn't realize I was doing it. But, in retrospect, I guess I was just building my database.

So, I get it. Aye, and, I still think yer purty spiffy there lassie. (Gotta read that with a Scottish accent...just had Robin Williams dance through my head)


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29 Feb 2016, 10:53 pm

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They hate me because I'm just too much fun to despise. They must enjoy feeling superior.

the way you might wanna think about it is, that you've just outgrown those people. :idea:



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29 Feb 2016, 10:56 pm

A few. And once online, someone went honest about it.

If people hate me out of envy, then they're more pathetic than any whinners I've met. I don't take "envy" as a valid reason.


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29 Feb 2016, 10:56 pm

There's no such thing as "no reason". People have always had a reason to despise me. Mostly because I make them feel insecure because I'm either more attractive, intelligent, or both.



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29 Feb 2016, 10:57 pm

Hmm, well in the case those particular relatives, they are actually just snobbish, awful, materialistic, nasty people with few/no morals. They are actually bad people. They did treat me badly because I was different, but that's not the only reason.

The kids in elementary school were just kids. The ones in high school were bad kids.

The people who reject me now are usually the judgmental, snobbish types. It's where I live that's the problem.

If "good" people get to know me they usually think I'm nice, but I never let anyone get to know me anymore, because I rarely socialize.

I'll go with "spiffy". It sounds like it means something good.



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29 Feb 2016, 10:59 pm

auntblabby wrote:
Yigeren wrote:
They hate me because I'm just too much fun to despise. They must enjoy feeling superior.

the way you might wanna think about it is, that you've just outgrown those people. :idea:


Yes, that's why I avoid them whenever possible :D



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29 Feb 2016, 11:14 pm

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.....I'll go with "spiffy". It sounds like it means something good.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=spiffy

Also can be switched or, used in conjunction, with 'Neato', 'Kean', 'Super'.

Usage:
"Wow Jenny!! That bike sure is Spiffy Neato!!"

Not comparing you to a bike. That would be ludicrous. You don't have wheels......

Maybe this is better:
Young man, voice cracking, braces glistening in the porch light...

"Gee Jenny, You sure are one Spiffy gal!!"


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29 Feb 2016, 11:23 pm

:lol:

I have a hard time believing that people ever really used words like "neato". I know that they must have, because the kids on the Brady Bunch said it a lot. People actually apparently liked to say "swell" a lot, too. But that may have been earlier.

I still remember when all the kids in my age group used to say "phat" all the freaking time. For just about anything. Definitely overused.



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29 Feb 2016, 11:24 pm

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:lol:

I have a hard time believing that people ever really used words like "neato". I know that they must have, because the kids on the Brady Bunch said it a lot. People actually apparently liked to say "swell" a lot, too. But that may have been earlier.

I still remember when all the kids in my age group used to say "phat" all the freaking time. For just about anything. Definitely overused.

swell is the cat's pajamas, the bee's knees :bounce:



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29 Feb 2016, 11:27 pm

Cat's pajamas? What's so great about bees' knees? Do bees really have knees?

I wonder where some of those phrases came from.



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29 Feb 2016, 11:28 pm

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Cat's pajamas? What's so great about bees' knees? Do bees really have knees? I wonder where some of those phrases came from.

courtesy of the dictionary of American slang, vol. 1, 2 [and soon to be 3].



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29 Feb 2016, 11:36 pm

Yigeren wrote:
:lol:

I have a hard time believing that people ever really used words like "neato". I know that they must have, because the kids on the Brady Bunch said it a lot. People actually apparently liked to say "swell" a lot, too. But that may have been earlier.

I still remember when all the kids in my age group used to say "phat" all the freaking time. For just about anything. Definitely overused.
Wow...now I KNOW I'm old LOL...I have used all those words including swell, groovy, rad, rap (talk, not the musical genre), Neato Keano...there's a bunch more that are just so cliche and specific to that time period but I can't think of many more right now. I think I did the swell, neato and other words of that time period because I always hung around adults or older kids.


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29 Feb 2016, 11:41 pm

zkydz wrote:
Yigeren wrote:
:lol:

I have a hard time believing that people ever really used words like "neato". I know that they must have, because the kids on the Brady Bunch said it a lot. People actually apparently liked to say "swell" a lot, too. But that may have been earlier.

I still remember when all the kids in my age group used to say "phat" all the freaking time. For just about anything. Definitely overused.
Wow...now I KNOW I'm old LOL...I have used all those words including swell, groovy, rad, rap (talk, not the musical genre), Neato Keano...there's a bunch more that are just so cliche and specific to that time period but I can't think of many more right now. I think I did the swell, neato and other words of that time period because I always hung around adults or older kids.

do young'uns nowadays still use the term "bitchin'!" to refer to something cool? when celine dion and her hubby the recently deceased producer first worked together, after one of her recorded takes went well he shouted that word and she was upset, thought he was upset at her, he had to explain American slang to her.