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12 Jul 2017, 7:12 pm

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Can you just clarify something for me starkid , because you quoted both posters it appears you agree with Aristophanes by saying 'Yep' but then say something along the same lines of Cat. It could be that I'm just struggling at the moment and not seeing the obvious :roll:

I was agreeing with Aristophanes. If you go read CampinCat's entire post (I only quoted part of it), you will see that it's basically the sort of post I'm complaining about and not like mine at all.

thanks for clarifying I understand where your coming from now.

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12 Jul 2017, 7:15 pm

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If you get annoyed with people with a supposedly lower intellect you may indeed be bright, but you are carrying around a major character flaw.

Being smart isn't a free pass to be a jerk.

Annoyance with tolerance avoids jerkhood. We are trying to learn tolerance without surrender to stupid conditions.

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12 Jul 2017, 7:42 pm

firemonkey wrote:

If you get annoyed with people with a supposedly lower intellect you may indeed be bright, but you are carrying around a major character flaw.

Being smart isn't a free pass to be a jerk.

Getting annoyed doesn't make a person a jerk; otherwise everyone who ever lived is a jerk.

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12 Jul 2017, 7:56 pm

starkid wrote:

firemonkey wrote:

If you get annoyed with people with a supposedly lower intellect you may indeed be bright, but you are carrying around a major character flaw.

Being smart isn't a free pass to be a jerk.

Getting annoyed doesn't make a person a jerk; otherwise everyone who ever lived is a jerk.

There are far more reasonable/valid reasons for being annoyed.

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12 Jul 2017, 8:05 pm

To me this thread appears to debating things out of context at the moment - again this could be just because I'm struggling at the moment , maybe this happen all the times :roll:

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12 Jul 2017, 8:10 pm

firemonkey wrote:

There are far more reasonable/valid reasons for being annoyed.

Annoyance is an emotion; reasonableness doesn't apply to emotions.

Honestly, I'm surprised that you would post something this insensitive. Would you find it at all helpful if someone told you that there were more reasonable/valid reasons to feel anxious?

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12 Jul 2017, 8:26 pm

firemonkey wrote:

starkid wrote:

firemonkey wrote:

If you get annoyed with people with a supposedly lower intellect you may indeed be bright, but you are carrying around a major character flaw.

Being smart isn't a free pass to be a jerk.

Getting annoyed doesn't make a person a jerk; otherwise everyone who ever lived is a jerk.

There are far more reasonable/valid reasons for being annoyed.

Can you give examples that don't arise from stupidity?

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12 Jul 2017, 8:40 pm

My friends call me Snow wrote:

With all that said does anyone who experience the same have any tips as to how to avoid getting frustrated with people because of their lack of equal intelligence in a conversation?

simple enough. if you feel you have superior intellect to those around you, do them the courtesy of politely tolerating them without drawing attention to their deficit.
it's not their fault they are of lower intellect, your "high intellect" should already have understood this, so getting annoyed would be unkind...

to butcher a well known quote..."with great intellect, comes great responsibility"

ETA: the point firemonkey was also trying to make, unless i misinterpreted his post

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12 Jul 2017, 8:44 pm

If I find that a person is "less intelligent" than me, I usually find that this person is better than me at other things. So it evens things out.

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12 Jul 2017, 8:48 pm

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I had a twelve-year-old in my college calculus class. What if he came here and posted about struggling with being smarter than his peers? Some idiot would probably try to shoot him down too...and be dead wrong.

"Struggling with being smarter than his peers" is not, IMO, what the OP was relating that he was experiencing. He said he was "highly intelligent" (then he said "above average" LOL), then he said one of the things for which he gets annoyed at people, is "pointless arguments", then he said "carrying the reality of the world on your shoulders" (third post - I said before that it was the second).....

"Pointless" is subjective----it's quite likely the person he was talking to, didn't think it was pointless; and, I betcha he gets ticked-off when someone thinks what HE'S saying, is pointless. It seems, from his posts, that he thinks the only thing people should be interested in talking-about, is what HE thinks, is important.

He already had gotten slammed for the "carrying the reality..." statement----so, I let that one go..... Most of the people on this thread said, pretty much, the same thing *I* did----what I think, is that you didn't like the WAY I said it; different strokes, for different folks.

I'm thinking that 12-year-old in your college calculus class wouldn't complain about "struggling with being smarter than his peers"----cuz he's probably the type that knows there's nothing he can do about it; so, he just, maybe, concentrates on being NICE to people, instead----that's the difference between a SMART person, and an intelligent one (though, obviously, that 12-year-old is SUPER intelligent, as well).

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12 Jul 2017, 8:50 pm

Dear_one wrote:

firemonkey wrote:

starkid wrote:

firemonkey wrote:

If you get annoyed with people with a supposedly lower intellect you may indeed be bright, but you are carrying around a major character flaw.

Being smart isn't a free pass to be a jerk.

Getting annoyed doesn't make a person a jerk; otherwise everyone who ever lived is a jerk.

There are far more reasonable/valid reasons for being annoyed.

Can you give examples that don't arise from stupidity?

I don't even know what you guys are debating at the moment , I'm completely lost

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12 Jul 2017, 8:53 pm

Dear_one wrote:

We are trying to learn tolerance without surrender to stupid conditions.

What is "stupid", is subjective.

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12 Jul 2017, 9:02 pm

starkid wrote:

firemonkey wrote:

If you get annoyed with people with a supposedly lower intellect you may indeed be bright, but you are carrying around a major character flaw.

Being smart isn't a free pass to be a jerk.

Getting annoyed doesn't make a person a jerk; otherwise everyone who ever lived is a jerk.

No, in general, getting annoyed doesn't make someone a jerk----but, getting annoyed with people whom you perceive are less intelligent than you, DOES, IMO. Like I and others said, different people know different things----so, just because someone might not know the things the OP knows, does NOT make others, categorically, stupid; it just makes them different.

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12 Jul 2017, 9:17 pm

Dear_one wrote:

firemonkey wrote:

starkid wrote:

firemonkey wrote:

If you get annoyed with people with a supposedly lower intellect you may indeed be bright, but you are carrying around a major character flaw.

Being smart isn't a free pass to be a jerk.

Getting annoyed doesn't make a person a jerk; otherwise everyone who ever lived is a jerk.

There are far more reasonable/valid reasons for being annoyed.

Can you give examples that don't arise from stupidity?

Wow. Are you saying anything firemonkey would come-up with, would be stupid?

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12 Jul 2017, 9:24 pm

Dear_one wrote:

firemonkey wrote:

starkid wrote:

firemonkey wrote:

If you get annoyed with people with a supposedly lower intellect you may indeed be bright, but you are carrying around a major character flaw.

Being smart isn't a free pass to be a jerk.

Getting annoyed doesn't make a person a jerk; otherwise everyone who ever lived is a jerk.

There are far more reasonable/valid reasons for being annoyed.

Can you give examples that don't arise from stupidity?

Please clarify what you mean when you say 'don't arise from stupidity'. Are you saying lack of intelligence, which people can't help if they're bright or not, is an acceptable reason to be annoyed with someone?

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12 Jul 2017, 9:25 pm

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Surely there are at least a few people in the world who truly are struggling with being smarter than most people they meet...

IMO, people who are struggling with something like that, are only thinking of THEMSELVES. If they would consider what others have said on here----like, that intelligence isn't everything, and that it's how you treat people, that is more important (that's not an exact quote)----then, they would be considering OTHERS; and that's what I feel people SHOULD be doing (considering others), at least, most of the time, that they're trying to engage with someone.

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