What aspects of social interaction are especially tiring?

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Being expected to communicate and have conversations.

Apologizing for trivial things that are not my fault. I'm not sorry your goldfish died, not sorry traffic was bad, not sorry you have a headache. Get your empty empathy somewhere else.

I'm not sure if I could call it less or more tiring with regards to F2F interaction . I do find though that some days it's more of an effort to have a conversation with someone . The ability to respond in real time is not as good/a 'thinking on your feet' impairment?

Some things that I personally find tiring are:

Having runins with people who I know when I'm not in a particularly social/talkative mood.

When a topic comes up that I am not knowledgable or competent about.

Faux pas on my part that may build up and trying to compensate for them and the fact that they can't be taken back.

Showing interest in topics that I have no interest in whatsoever and when it is repeatedly brought up.

Keeping up the right amount of inflection.

The "having to make eye contact" thing.

I was having a conversation with a co-worker today, and she's one of those people who, once she makes eye contact with you, LOCKS HER GAZE INTO YOUR EYES, WHICH EVENTUALLY BURNS THROUGH YOUR EYES, THROUGH YOUR RETINAS, AND FINALLY THROUGH THE BACK OF YOUR SKULL, ALL WHILE CONTINUOUSLY SMILING AND TALKING THE ENTIRE TIME, WHICH EVENTUALLY PREVENTS YOUR ABILITY TO RUN AWAY OR SCREAM

It can all be tiring given the right circumstance. I find people who won't shut up or keep asking questions cheerfully and curiously especially tiring. People at work who try to engage in small talk at the coffee machine are more annoying than anything, because I never know what to say or how to continue a conversation about things that don't matter. If there's a lot of small talk, like at a social gathering, that is exhausting and I mostly hide in the corner or stand beside someone who will do all the talking. Sometimes just being around a lot of people or just being around a few people for an extended period of time is exhausting.

I think it's mostly that initial Local Cultural Standard Small Talk Starter Pack that people use, which is almost inevitably geared towards "getting to know each other". And while I know the psychological and social reasons behind such a thing, I don't personally have any such drive in either direction, which effectively means that:

1) I don't want to know anything about the other person and don't have any desire or drive to find out; and
2) I don't particularly want them to know anything about me, either.

And yet, very nearly everyone who doesn't know anyone else in a social situation will lead off with this same type of two-way interrogation. It doesn't help that it's a very extrovert-style interaction, too, and I'm not that either. It's not that I hate the other person; I am simply unable to give the tiniest f**k about their life. No doubt it's super-interesting to them, sure, and that's OK, really it is, but I can't stand having details of other people crammed into my unwilling brain like I'm some kind of public storage utility. Just... please, stop trying to insert yourself into my monkeysphere.

Amusingly enough, I'm actually OK with people who rabbit on about some topic or other, even if it's not my particular jam. There's always the chance I'll pick up a nugget or two of interesting information from the stream, and at least they're not talking about themselves. Plus if I'm being firehosed at in a multi-person social situation, it tends to prevent anyone else from jumping in and talking about, you guessed it, themselves.

For me, it is often a minefield of people who need information, but are emotionally invested in their ignorance. I go in expecting logic to prevail, and get out feeling like I took a petition to a bar brawl.

For me personally the worst thing about it is having to speak to/work with somebody I either dont know or dont know very well, once I'm comfortable around someone then I dont really have any problems.

I find going out in public to be the most socially stressful for me, as I worry that I have to look perfect (whatever that means) otherwise I will be stared at and judged by everybody. I'm not unable to go out in public places but I avoid it if it's too busy. Keeping my cool is tiring too, especially when there are screaming kids near me. I have to force myself not to have a meltdown, as I find their noise and unpredictability overwhelming.
Interaction with friends, colleagues and family isn't so tiring, as despite being an Aspie I'm still a sociable person and like being around people. But people that I know or love are more forgiving of any of my quirks, where as I seem to fear what strangers think of me more than my own family, friends, etc.

Strangers actually do pick up on and read bad things into innocuous quirks so you have good reason to be wary
I didn't realize how much till i was frequenting some forums and ppl would be talking about ppl they know and often badmouthing and reading malignant things into things like poor eye contact.
Judging things in such an illogical way. Little compassion no concession.

^^ Yeah, people will read a few paragraphs on body language in Cosmopolitan, and think they have absolute proof of what you are thinking. I used to think that stupid people were not very dangerous, but danger correlates more to morality, and fools readily gang up.

No they actually think like that without the influence of media like Cosmo i think

Think how common it is for the 'odd' kids to be bullied and mistreated by other kids. Why. And what makes them odd..just that their presentation or movements n speech n interests perhaps.. Aren't in sync with the other kids.
Asd ppl arent so vicious