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04 Aug 2022, 11:07 am

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I'm an artist. I do lots of paintings and drawings that I sell for $5 each. I also loom knit hats and scarves in various colours that I sell for $5 each. I'm going to try weaving soon and start making pot holders. I also like to doodle as well. I define myself as an artsy person before I define myself by my autism.

Is this your own business?

I sell my stuff at the flea market. I'd like to have a business selling my work.

I'd call that a business. You're still selling your wares.

What inspired you to get into that?

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04 Aug 2022, 11:15 am

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I like you Fnord. Sometimes I'm a bit scared of you but that's just because I don't always get you. I see you as a protector type person and I can relate to that.

Thank you, Ms. Bird! You need not fear me.

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Would you say your autism has helped you to be successful in your life?

Hard to put into words, but I believe that (for me) having an ASD made life more of a social challenge than an intellectual one, and that this worked to my advantage. Without a steady social life, I was able to devote more time to learning marketable skills than people who socialized (e.g., got drunk at parties) regularly.

The "Aspie Hyperfocus" also helped me study difficult subjects until I had (mostly) mastered them, and having an outsider's perspective on things helps me solve problems in ways that other people in my field cannot seem to understand.

Sadly, as a side-effect of having been bullied through most of my childhood, I may have a slightly suppressed sense of empathy toward others -- I am not very diplomatic, and I tend to "tell it like it is" rather than tippy-toe around other people's feelings. Then again, this makes me the "Go-To Guy" when the higher-ups need a problem solved right away. For example, a diplomatic person may say, "Mistakes were made", while I might say, "Joe Schmoe down in Quality Control made a few mistakes". The problem gets address and corrected, even if it means someone might lose their job.

It is chronic screw-ups like "Mr. Schmoe" who should fear me.

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04 Aug 2022, 11:18 am

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Do you define yourself by your autism, aspergers syndrome or your adhd or do you accept that they are medical diagnoses only and define yourself through other things?

They are factors that helped my career in some ways and hindered it in others. I don't think about the various fibers in a blended fabric as separate things.

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04 Aug 2022, 11:20 am

Not so much emotionally----but philosophically. I believe most people keep their basic philosophical outlook throughout most of their lives after adolescence.

I have found that some people are not consistent emotionally. I have found at least some of those people who are not consistent emotionally to be under the influence of some sort of power trip; they use this "inconsistent emotion" to have power over people. I know I have allowed this to happen on many occasions, even when I could clearly see what's going on.

I believe change comes about, mostly, through at least rather adverse events. Events which might shock an individual into action against the vicious cycles they find themselves in. It takes a sledgehammer to get through stubborness sometimes.

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04 Aug 2022, 11:24 am

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Oh no, I meant that no one likes me generally. Only a couple of people even know I've got autism, I don't tell anyone because it isn't important to me.

Thanks, I like you too!

I like you. I think you're a great person, a wonderful mum and a Sweet Pea.

Thank you. I get confused between people, did we have conversations here?

I hope people don't think I'm angling for compliments and praise because I'm not. I was just saying that people in real life generally don't like me.

People need to know however that if I have a meltdown, it is very dramatic. So beware!

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04 Aug 2022, 11:26 am

I wouldn't say I go around "angling" for compliments---but there have been times when a sincere compliment has made my day.

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04 Aug 2022, 11:31 am

:lol: Thank you Fnord.

You've made some really interesting examples of how aspergers can really work for a person. I suppose you have to be in the right place for this though.

From what I've seen on WP it is quite a common thing for aspies to be straight to the point. Whereas none's would be more likely to skirt around, make hints and tiptoe around a subject.

I remember the fuss that was made when my ex boss was firing me. It took her about an hour and then a deliberation and then she was crying. I'd have had it all said and done and had me out of the door before I even had chance to sit down in the meeting room.

Maybe being able to play to your autistic strengths is dependent on who you are and at what stage of your life you are in.

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04 Aug 2022, 11:32 am

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I wouldn't say I go around "angling" for compliments---but there have been times when a sincere compliment has made my day.

Did I say that you did? I didn't mean to say you were angling.

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04 Aug 2022, 11:33 am

I think that philosophical outlooks can change through various environmental factors, like education. This may be more likely if one was raised in a less-than-ideal environment.

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04 Aug 2022, 11:35 am

Dear_one wrote:

babybird wrote:

Do you define yourself by your autism, aspergers syndrome or your adhd or do you accept that they are medical diagnoses only and define yourself through other things?

They are factors that helped my career in some ways and hindered it in others. I don't think about the various fibers in a blended fabric as separate things.

Yes I get that. I always visualise marble cake when I'm thinking about personality.

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04 Aug 2022, 11:35 am

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From what I've seen on WP it is quite a common thing for aspies to be straight to the point. Whereas none's would be more likely to skirt around, make hints and tiptoe around a subject.

Naturally, I like to get straight to the point. However, I've found that causes shock, anger, hurt etc. especially in women. So I tend to hold back and censor myself. Yet I'm STILL accused of being blunt, rude etc.

It is really annoying and frustrating. I think I will start getting straight to the point, see how they like that! 'You thought I was blunt before, now what do you think?' :lol:

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04 Aug 2022, 11:36 am

I know that, Kit. I was talking in general

I don't mind complimenting people when I feel like I want to compliment them.

It's sort of aggravating when somebody doesn't like me to compliment them; this takes the richness out of life.

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04 Aug 2022, 11:36 am

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I like this side of you wolfie. It shows me that you have more to say than you usual one liners.

That's a complement btw

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04 Aug 2022, 11:38 am

KitLily wrote:

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From what I've seen on WP it is quite a common thing for aspies to be straight to the point. Whereas none's would be more likely to skirt around, make hints and tiptoe around a subject.

I think you make it your half way through the year resolution. See how it works out for you.

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04 Aug 2022, 11:41 am

I have a lot on my mind; sometimes, though, it comes out fuzzy somewhere in the passageway from thought to action....

This sort of thing is probably caused by whatever "disorder" I have which is related to me being on the Spectrum.

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04 Aug 2022, 11:41 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

I know that, Kit. I was talking in general

Aha! The General Statement. Got it.

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